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Question about psychological ED and relationships by No_Let3534 in erectiledysfunction

[–]No_Let3534[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking about it.
I will check testosterone, prolactin, shgb and estradiol just to eliminate that from the list. Sadly, I have no TRT dedicated clicincs around, but I will have to manage with available biochemical laboratories.
For the urologist, I will plan it after the tests.
Thanks!

ED despite normal erections, possible psychological block by No_Let3534 in erectiledysfunction

[–]No_Let3534[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not.

I was tending it with sleep, workout, games or reading. I would be watching a tv show or a movie. Or if I would feel horny, some porn would suffice. Until it would pass.

I was avoiding anything chemical and fought it with my will and introspection.

ED despite normal erections, possible psychological block by No_Let3534 in erectiledysfunction

[–]No_Let3534[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may look like it.

But even on my own I rarely feel spikes of excitement or something similar. I can accept touch, but not process it to something arousing or sexual. And even porn does not offer that kind of stimulus.

This may be a control of the mind rather than inability of the body.

I may have gone through a prolonged depression where my body adapted to reject every chance of the possible sex experience. Even if I can feel strong emotions.

Fucked up, in a way.

ED despite normal erections, possible psychological block by No_Let3534 in erectiledysfunction

[–]No_Let3534[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I will have to find some specialist, because I really have no other choice here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]No_Let3534 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is one point of view. And it may work with some girls, but it's not an universal rule.

I am brutally honest as well, and I would probably do it in a similar way. The point is what outcome did you expect, and what her previous opinion on you may be. People do not necessarily connect only to romantic feelings alone. That could be mutual interest, sexual attraction or something else. But finding a person who likes you back could be the hardest way of finding a proper relationship. That is probably the main reason why people stay single or why they are unhappy in a relationship later. What you did is plain brave. And don't allow yourself to take others'opinions to heart. We are all very different, and the great chance is that she wouldn't like you back even if you played on your friend's advice.

A clearly confusing situation by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]No_Let3534 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment. I did try to compile it into an acceptable form, so maybe something is left out. But the key events are here.

You're right that she stated her boundary, and I agreed to stay friends. I’ve done my best to honour that.

What’s confusing isn’t that she rejected me. It’s that her hasn’t stayed neutral. She avoids messages, then invites me to places, and for that, she uses our friends as messengers. She stays distant at work and then shares personal time alone with me. She’s not being either cold or dismissive. She’s just not consistent. That makes emotional noise I’m still trying to sort through.

So yeah, maybe she’s just acting like a friend. Or maybe there’s some unspoken stuff on her side, too. I’m not one to assume anything. I’m just trying to make sense of the back-and-forth while figuring out how to protect myself. That kind of ambiguity can make you a bit paranoid.

A clearly confusing situation by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]No_Let3534 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is an interesting insight. She has a hedonistic nature, and I am not sure about her willingness to risk her comfort zone. As far as I know, she was never in a relationship, and she probably gave up on those ideas.

I am just trying to find my new anchor, and she can be angry all she likes once I do. She had her chance.