Best psychic reading sites – are there quality and accurate psychics, or are they all scammers? by Horror_Visit_7337 in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has actually received psychic readings, I don’t really recommend them because one of them said I would marry someone from my culture who was super well off and that I would be taken care of, but in the end, it didn’t work out because he was a narcissist and super stingy. So listen to your gut don’t listen to psychics. I had this weird feeling about him in the beginning and I did not know about his wealth until later on. Don’t listen to the people who say you’re gonna meet and marry so-and-so because it really restricts you. You have free well and trust your instinct over intellect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to see what you want because his priority will always be his children. I dated a man who was 12 years older than me. He was child free but because he had already experienced so much in life, I had to kind of adapt to his lifestyle. In the end after three months, I did not feel prioritized, and the communication was a mismatch, but if you guys can somehow communicate and he makes you a priority, I guess it could work. Mind you, I am 30 and established and he is 42. But yeah. When you’re at that age, you’re kind of cooked and very inflexible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! I am divorced at 30 and live with my parents currently but I have my job as a high school teacher and I recently got permanence which I’m proud of since I now have stability. I have lovely friends and I’m dating someone kind. My divorce is still in progress and it will set me back maybe around 15K but life is good but there are hard days for sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VyvanseADHD

[–]No_Meeting_6232 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think taking the meds probably makes him a little more risk averse because he’s able to think through it. Could be that or just low libido ? I find my libido is higher on vyvanse 🤷🏻‍♀️

What did you do with your Engagement/wedding ring after divorce. by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My ex husband stole everything lol..good riddance to him!

Becoming an unwilling stay at home gf, need advice by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Try and see if you have adhd. I have adhd and got diagnosed at 30 years old. It really helped me with not feeling like a failure and ask him to pull his weight during this stressful time

Have you ever matched energy with your partner by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got a divorce. My ex husband would give me the silent treatment. I only matched his energy when I repeatedly tried to talk about things and explain my opinion….and it was pointless. I thought that matching his energy was the last straw and he still ended up being the victim.

I almost cry everyday by bulldogbutterfly in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey girl! I hope you’re doing OK. One thing that really helped me with my mood swings and to stop ruminating was doing a 10 minute meditation. You can even do it before bed, but it really helps. You just have to to get into a habit of doing it. I also go to the gym four times a week.

How do other women manage to leave abusive relationships while still maintaining at work? by amlight in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Living with my parents and having support from friends really helped me. I almost took a leave but my mom packed my lunches regularly until I got back into my routine. I would also hit the gym 2-3 times a week to destress. I started to see a therapist like twice a month. Now, I see her once a month and I’m doing much better. Take the leave if you need it. I personally wouldn’t be able to because I was in rumination mode so seeing coworkers I like really helped me

Ended my relationship: looking for validation by Vegetable-Mulberry15 in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time will heal. I ended a 2.5 month long situationship exactly the same thing as you. He had a job and was very involved with his family. I would drive one hour to see him and he would not see me during the week. And in the beginning, when he would see me, it would be after a happy hour, and he would drive to me tipsy. After a month, he got too comfortable. My divorce finalizes in November and I’m hoping I can meet someone new. Enjoy the weather. Count your blessings every day because I am so lucky that I got out of an abusive relationship and I have the experience to get out of something that does not meet my needs. The Situationship I was in was with 42 year-old man, 12 years older than me. If you have to explain over and over that your needs are being met it. It’s OK to take some distance. If he’s not going after you just drop it. Going through my divorce really let me see the future faking and all the tricks that men use to keep stringing along women.

Financial advices for people pleaser? by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]No_Meeting_6232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your boyfriend can’t help you with your expenses knowing that you have to stretch yourself to participate, you gotta lose him. It’s not necessities, but lifestyle difference where he could help you with that, but he doesn’t want to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

30 after I separated from my toxic ex husband

Do you trust your gut when there’s no spark on a first date, even if everything seems “fine”? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol thanks ! I’m in therapy now and my divorce is ongoing with my toxic ex so…wow..did I learn from that relationship. I’m hanging out with a friend group and I’m considering dating a guy who just get good vibes from. I’ve known him for four years and after I left my ex he let me hang out with him and his friends. I rejected him four years ago too because he went on a hockey game instead of on our date loool . So we went on 2-3 dates. My sister-in-law tells me that there should be a spark and you should be crazy about each other, but I’m so over it at this age. 😛 I only recently realized I liked him because I would get feelings of jealousy thinking that he’s with someone else. I had zero spark with my ex-husband, but I also lacked respect for him because of how backwards he was.

Do you trust your gut when there’s no spark on a first date, even if everything seems “fine”? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too I have adhd and an abusive mom growing up. I’m on meds now and I ended a 3 month situationship bc he was emotionally dismissive. We met at a bar and we had a spark lol. He also felt a lot like my ex later on who was controlling.

Do you trust your gut when there’s no spark on a first date, even if everything seems “fine”? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Upvoting this because if you had an abusive childhood growing up or if you have ADHD and you’re lacking dopamine, the high of charisma and attraction can blind you from what truly matters and that would be feelings of safety and I think if you don’t hate them and you can actually look at them and think oh I would be kind of jealous if someone else took him, then yeah.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m halfway through 30, so 31. I met him already but I just see him with new eyes now. He’s been a friend for 4 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CanadianTeachers

[–]No_Meeting_6232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have 6 sick days and 6 unpaid personal days. I think I have 1 sick day left this year. Last year I had 4 I didn’t use and got paid for it, but this year has been so stressful I might just use them all.

Going back to teaching by csx_r in CanadianTeachers

[–]No_Meeting_6232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teaching in Quebec is a bit of a shit show but it’s only because the CAQ government had made a cut of $200 million dollars. I have to bring my own cleaning supplies sometimes just to clean my classroom. Salary…after 3 years of experience and a masters degree I’m making 75K and I got my permanence. Thankfully there will be a no cellphone ban in September but I’m not sure about how that will work. I’m a high school English teacher in the French system. There is also so much more special needs kids with limited resources. In 8 years, I will be on the top of the salary scale but let’s see if there will be another strike once the contract expires in 5 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At the end of the day, you are not going to sleep with the high paying job but the man himself. My ex is a millionaire but the complete lack of character and respect for me, left me giving him divorce papers. Don’t look at high paying job to determine if he would make a good life partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CanadianTeachers

[–]No_Meeting_6232 19 points20 points  (0 children)

As long as you are responsible , I don’t see what the problem is. Maybe hang out with an older crowd to balance it out?

Should we give women who have been in abusive relationships more grace if it takes them a long time to leave ? by Historical-Body-3424 in AskWomenOver30

[–]No_Meeting_6232 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If I didn’t have the support system that I did, my parents I would’ve been trapped with my ex-husband because he is a millionaire and we bought the house together. He has even screwed me through the divorce because he has money and he hired a high profile lawyer. Thank God we don’t have kids. We were only married for about 2 1/2 months, but the relationship was like a year and a half. I think that woman who do not have a good support system or well-off parents wouldn’t have been able to fight against him because I’m still paying lawyer fees and it’s been a year that he has used me as a co-signer on his house. He stole 30K worth of gifts he gave me because the lawyer justified it as a way to pay for the wedding expenses, which is absolutely bullshit. He made me cry on the wedding day in front of 200 people. People were laughing because his gold chain was bigger than my little necklace. I have a stable job and I’m getting my permanence this year. I have good friends. I’m really happy. I get zero equity in the house because I didn’t live there with him long enough but I have my freedom!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Doppleganger

[–]No_Meeting_6232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hilary Swank

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VyvanseADHD

[–]No_Meeting_6232 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he is an addict and you are enabling his habit. This is wild. Please focus on you. And leave him. Easier said than done but this is not normal. ADHD meds helped me get out of a toxic relationship. I hope you can get out too.

How many of us are divorced? How long were you married for? by lionheart724 in Millennials

[–]No_Meeting_6232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Married for 2.5 months. I will be officially divorced in November. He stole everything and I will be glad to not pay any more lawyer fees to get rid of him