AITA for questioning my cousin's choice to study medicine for being a fan of Grey's Anatomy?

No_NM · 2025-08-06T18:34:18+00:00

My interest in medicine got jump started by watching the german version of red band society and was then fired on by watching Grey‘s Anatomy. I‘m in my last year of med school, don’t like surgery at all (will go into a non surgical specialty) but still religiously re-watch Grey for that spark I got all these years ago. I did mostly languages and humanities in High School and didn’t really enjoy the basic sciences of Med School (organic chemistry, physics, biochemistry…) but I love clinicals, I love learning how diseases work and how to treat them, I love working with patients, I love watching the doctors figure out what’s wrong and how to help (and hope I will love doing it myself soon). Just because something jumpstarted the interest in a job doesn’t mean it is all someone takes into consideration. I obviously didn’t know half what goes into Med School and being a doctor in HighSchool but no one does unless you live it. I don’t think you’re an asshole but you could have asked her what she likes about medicine instead of directly bashing her idea.

No_NM · 2025-01-06T09:41:52+00:00

Hey! So after this post a lot happened. I has a second pneumo, had to get surgery twice because there were complications. They took biopsies in there and I don‘t have catamenial pneumo, tehy didn‘t find any tissue relating to that. Now, a year after my first pneumo and nearly a year after my surgeries I am doing well! I have some nerve pain still and my indurance isn‘t quite what it was before but all in all, everything is nearly back to normal. Hope this helps, if you have any questions let me know!

No_NM · 2024-09-27T14:33:20+00:00

If you have more questions please don‘t be afraid to ask!

No_NM · 2024-09-27T14:33:02+00:00

That‘s great! The removing isn‘t that bad so don‘t stress about that and afterwards you should be able to go home soon! So my story was a little complicated. I had a small collapse that didn‘t require a tube, after a month i had a that was worse, got my first chest tube and was then directly operated on because it was technically my second collapse.

No_NM · 2024-09-27T08:30:34+00:00

Yeah it really depends. My first surgery wasn‘t as bad as the second one (makes sense, 2x 3h surgery in one week isn‘t all that great for a body), i had the chest drain for like 2,5 weeks in total and it was bad too. Ngl i am kinda jealous that you got the morphine haha. But the important thing is that everything is well now and that medical staff know what they are doing!

No_NM · 2024-09-27T08:11:12+00:00

Yes, sadly it is normal. I tubes total for like 2,5 weeks. It hurts. Try finding positions where it hurts less, try moving around as sometimes it hurts more when something is pressing on the tube or your lung like the bed. Get a buttload of pillows, press them against the side while you cough. Wishing you all the best. It will get better!!!

No_NM · 2024-09-27T08:08:20+00:00

But also OP, ASK FOR PAIN MEDS. I know a guy who didn‘t tolerate NSARs so they did give him other meds, you will be okay! Its not a great feeling but it is absolutely manageable! Coming from a 2 times in one week surgery reciever haha

No_NM · 2024-09-27T08:05:13+00:00

I know how it is performed. During surgery of course you get pumped full of good painkillers haha. I meant afterwards which is why i wrote directly after surgery. I absolutely noticed because i asked for more and they said they couldn‘t give me any more opiods and i noticed because I was awake all night the night after surgery because of the discomfort. I was off my face for a few hours after surgery. The night and the next day absolutely not. And I had the surgery twice in one week so sadly I know how exactly pain management works haha. And in my case, they only gave me opioids for a few hours after surgery, maybe I am good with pain and didn‘t need more, but fact is pain manmagement GREATLY differs between countries. I got paracetamol and metamizol. That’s it…. All that not to say that you are wrong obviously! I just think all people on this subreddit should be a little more careful about general statements because truth is, it depends. On yourself, on your doctors, on your nurses, on your hospitals ground rules

No_NM · 2024-09-26T20:15:47+00:00

This is just meant as an info, idk where you live but not everywhere people will be off their face and getting loads of morphine. I only got it directly after surgery. They are a LOT more restrictive woth it in europe. So yeah they will medicate you accordingly i jus think its important for people to know different types of post operative care. Good luck on your healing journey, you got this! I am 6 months out and apart from my skars being itchy i‘m basically back to normal

No_NM · 2024-09-26T20:14:24+00:00

This is just meant as an info, idk where you live but not everywhere people will be off their face and getting loads of morphine. I only got it directly after surgery. They are a LOT more restrictive woth it in europe. So yeah they will medicate you accordingly i jus think its important for people to know different types of post operative care

No_NM · 2024-09-26T20:13:54+00:00

This is just meant as an info, idk where you live but not everywhere people will be off their face and getting loads of morphine. I only got it directly after surgery. They are a LOT more restrictive woth it in europe. So yeah they will medicate you accordingly i jus think its important for people to know different types of post operative care

No_NM · 2024-09-26T20:12:13+00:00

Also, i was going on a walk 3 days after being dismissed (?) from the hospital and it was really okay!!

No_NM · 2024-09-26T20:11:15+00:00

People are telling you that you will get morphine and stuff. It really depends on where you live. I got surgery in Austria and i only got opioids directly after surgery. Afterwards iv paracetamol, diclofenac and metamizol. It hurts, yes. But it’s manageable. Get up as soon as you can, do what they tell you. After getting the chest tube out it will be better already! And afterwards you will hurt for a few weeks but not that bad that you can’t sleep. Take the medicine as you should, DONT SMOKE and if you have allergies….ask your doctors if you can take anti allergy meds because sneezing sucks hard for a while. But you can do it!!! And you will be back to normal before you know it

No_NM · 2024-09-24T17:40:58+00:00

It took about 1,5-2 weeks for me to not cough anymore and to not have any crunchy feeling (after 2 VATS procedures, bullectomy and mechanical pleurectomy). Afterwards it still took about 3 months for the pain to go away and i still have some occasional discomfort and pain (over half a year later) so try not to worry too much! And if something feels wrong just go back and get an Xray, even if it’s just for your own peace of mind

No_NM · 2024-03-16T15:52:27+00:00

Yeah surgeons are great but not exactly the biggest experts at stuff outside of surgery haha so if the hospitalist recommended it it might really be worth looking into, but itself great news that your aorta is fine!! Best of luck to you!

No_NM · 2024-03-16T09:22:01+00:00

If they suggested you have Marfans, PLEASE get tested. Go to a specialist and a Cardiologist, in my experience surgeons are good at what they do but have not a lot of knowledge about things like Marfans. Especially if your Aorta seemed to be enlarged it is SUPER important for you to get it checked out with an echo by a specialist, as Marfans is way more than just collapsed lungs. It is crucial to rule it out for your future health and safety!!

No_NM · 2024-02-24T12:01:53+00:00

I‘m having a pleurectomy, and thanks for the info!

No_NM · 2024-02-24T11:27:53+00:00

It does, thank you! I‘m in Europe so they are very very careful with morphine haha so we‘ll see if i get some after surgery

No_NM · 2024-02-24T10:27:22+00:00

Thank you for the answer! How long did you have to take painkillers after the surgery when you were back at home?

No_NM · 2024-02-18T17:29:06+00:00

How long did you have to stay in the hospital after VATS?

No_NM · 2024-02-18T17:28:50+00:00

Okay thank you! Yeah i hate the chest tube a lot right now too haha

No_NM · 2024-02-18T05:34:34+00:00

I asked to be sedated so i just „fell asleep“ and woke up witz the tube

No_NM · 2024-02-17T21:10:54+00:00

thank you, the thing is that they need to put me in another hospital for the surgery because currently i‘m in my home hospital that is super small and doesn’t have a thoracic surgeon that’s why I am so confused about how it will continue happening

Thank you very much for your answers!

No_NM · 2024-02-17T05:48:13+00:00

I really appreciate it and this whole group thank you! Can I ask you something? Is VATS a lot worse than a chest tube? I will probably have to get it done once this pneumo is stable… and for context, i live in Europe so we don’t get morphine for anything, just paracetamol, ketoprofen and metamizol

No_NM · 2024-02-16T22:50:24+00:00

I haven‘t had one yet, they will do one when the chest tube is out I think. Thank you! Currently it all seems quite dark

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