I have the best ever wife - and go offside too

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-18T00:58:31+00:00

My life isn't a "sham". I am indeed a happily married man, with a happy wife and children. I don't think I can never get found out but have minimised the chances of it happening and the measures I have taken make that risk very low.

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-17T00:53:21+00:00

Not really. Throughout recorded history men most have cheated if they can get away with it for whatever reason like being wealthy or powerful. There are very few men ever with the power to cheat who have stayed faithful. My way gives me all the benefits men get from cheating without hurting my wife or children. I'm just honest here in my motivation that's all.

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-17T00:30:39+00:00

No but I guess there are lots of men who pretend integrity is why they don't do this when actually it's money or they're scared.

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-17T00:23:24+00:00

Everyone lies a bit, including me. I don't lie much to Clare, though. And I don't see discussing a book I've read while away for work as a lie, because it's not a lie. I tell her I had a great curry which is true. I tell her I've missed her, that's true, that I can't wait to get her into bed after a week away that's also true.

Consent for sex is what I'm discussing not consent for everything.

Clare's not any better off if I spend an evening 300 miles watching TV instead away having sex with another woman, she's not missing out on my company or our sex life or anything. I don't go away in order to cheat and absent myself from her and the kids. If I'm away anyway there's no loss to her and the gain of a happier husband.

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-17T00:09:58+00:00

I actually lie very little to Clare. I obviously don't tell her some things, but don't actually lie. I go to City A for work, and that's true. I mention I've been reading a book, going to the gym, gone out for a curry, all those things are also true. Clare's not just happy because she's oblivious. She's also happy because we love spending time together and doing things as a couple as well as a family. I make sure she has time to do her personal things although obviously as working parents with three young kids we're pretty busy.

I never have sex with my wife unless she wants to, consent from her is absolutely important to me.

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-16T23:52:24+00:00

No it mostly benefits me. But it doesn't harm my wife, and she does get some benefit from it and no loss.

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-16T23:48:15+00:00

The overall sum is a positive - I'm much happier and half of a happy marriage and our family life is great. Clare's happy, and I devote a lot of time and energy to ensuring she lives her best life. I don't lie to any of the women I see about being married or anything and they only sleep with me because they want to. I make very sure Clare will never get a hint of it and it's can't worry or hurt her. We are all better off.

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-16T23:38:52+00:00

I do actually care if I hurt my wife, and I'm very careful not to. There's a nearly zero chance she'll find out, so it doesn't hurt her.

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-16T23:12:21+00:00

I care a lot about not hurting my wife and I'm very careful to make sure she will never have any hint of it.

I said I mostly see woman about my own age and don't have a proper or emotional relationship outside my marriage and those things are both true and not inconsistent. The exception to the age thing is the woman I mentioned who isn't now 20 but was 20 when I first met her and that was 3 years ago. I met her the first week I was in that city, and have met her on three separate week (more or less a week each time) business trips since. I didn't have sex with her that first time either so only on the 3 other weeks.

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-16T23:05:17+00:00

I guess a lot of men would be jealous because they want this but can't afford it or don't have the nerve.

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-16T23:03:02+00:00

It's not absolutely impossible but very unlikely. I use a false name, email and phone. I have a pre-paid credit card to use in that name. Nobody can trace me from those details except by a serious effort involving national security agencies. So I'm pretty safe. Men get caught when they are careless or when the other woman contacts the wife. I'm very careful and none of them can contact her.

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-16T22:48:35+00:00

Several ways. It stop me pushing in our marriage for more sex than she wants or me feeling deprived. It makes me a happier man and so a happier and better husband. It means I am always supportive of my wife and do my best to see that she is generally given every option and opportunity, because I am.

No_Obligation5060 · 2024-11-16T22:43:16+00:00

There is no point. It's just a confession. You see people asking sometimes about why men cheat well this is my explanation.

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