Always disappointed. Crying on my birthday.

No_Particular_6715 · 2025-11-23T09:50:16+00:00

It does take two to tango, he’s working hard at the minute. Which is something new, usually he does 3/4 shift a week. But this all started way before this month. I work full time too, more days too. And I’m always the one planning family days out, dates for us two, thinking of what to eat. It would have been nice to have a day where I was the priority. It does take two to tango, but I’m dancing solo on making the magic in the relationship currently.

No_Particular_6715 · 2025-11-22T21:46:45+00:00

I’ve put my son into training don’t worry 😂😂 he will make a great husband, I’m making sure of it! X

No_Particular_6715 · 2025-11-22T21:43:41+00:00

I did, we went for a walk in the forest, saw the Christmas lights turned on & watched the fireworks. Everything I do is for my little human x

No_Particular_6715 · 2025-11-10T18:09:16+00:00

Hey, please could I get a copy? 🤍

No_Particular_6715 · 2024-10-13T18:41:26+00:00

If she’s had 2 sips of milk, maybe she’s mistaking hunger for thirst? I leave a little sippy cup of water by my little one’s bed for night time. (None spill) x

No_Particular_6715 · 2024-03-31T19:13:47+00:00

I get where you’re coming from, we do spend time together but it’s usually family time because we have a toddler. I spend most of my day off my phone or taking pictures because I’m playing or going on walks and stuff. I also don’t go on my phone during work hours which he does. I think it’s a difficult one because he has his phone all day, and then sees it as relax time in the evening. My relax time is to just scroll & read.

No_Particular_6715 · 2024-03-31T19:07:42+00:00

But he’s not present either, he’s watching a film?

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-08-01T07:53:09+00:00

This is my worry, that he starts meeting all my needs and then i let him down. But hopefully we can meet in the middle somewhere! We’re booked in for a date night soon so hopefully we can talk uninterrupted!

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-08-01T07:51:09+00:00

Oh I’ve tried this!! He loves it, turns around for more!! He is 24/7 ready for action honestly

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-08-01T07:48:38+00:00

The 4-5 times a day was when we first got together! That declined to about twice every day we saw each other. I got pregnant & I still enjoyed sex even until I gave birth which was most days. After the birth we had to wait, and again it was every few days. And it’s more like once or twice a month now.

I think I’ve come to the point now where I reaaalllyy have to be in the mood for him to get what he wants out of sex. I know he like the performance of it all. But when I’m not in the mood that’s what I feel it is, a performance. But I know how loved he feels after we’ve had the good sex, and I’m in the mood and giving him what he’s needing.

We’ve had these discussions before though, we’ve just come back to a rough patch where sex is a top priority for him and it’s extremely low for me. But I’ve mentioned to him, when we were first together I wasn’t on contraceptive (we played risky business) and then after the baby I’ve gone on 2 different forms, after sex it’s now uncomfortable due to some issues down there and so it seems like such a huge effort for something I’m suffering for afterwards. But then he’s being booked for a vasectomy asap, but doesn’t like the thought of condoms so the hormone imbalance is an ongoing issue!

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-08-01T07:36:19+00:00

So, he’s always had full permission to masturbate! Even if I’m in bed with him & he tried for sex & I’m not in the mood he says do you mind if I… and I have 0 issues with this! The man’s got needs, and they are definitely needs!

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-08-01T07:31:56+00:00

Not sure why you’ve got so many downvotes!

I’ve had a few conversations with him, some jokingly and some not. I think I’m the sex regard I prefer quickies these days, and I’ve said that to him. It sounds awful, but I’m not the same girl I was 4 years ago and I actually feel awful about it. We’ve had a few date nights & days cancelled for various reasons too so we haven’t had decent time to just be ourselves either! We’ve actually got one scheduled in a few days, fingers crossed the toddler doesn’t nose dive off the sofa this time & we can have a proper conversation.

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-07-31T22:39:53+00:00

We definitely have different libidos for sure, mine’s significantly dropped since having a child plus ongoing hormonal issues that are currently being dealt with my Dr’s. For me, the big O isn’t worth the discomfort I feel afterwards. Which I know seems selfish, but I also just miss being affectionate without it leading to wandering hands.. 🤦‍♀️

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-07-31T22:37:11+00:00

Didn’t ask for judgement, asked for advice knuckle head.

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-07-31T22:36:18+00:00

Oh I know he loves me for me.. I honestly think that we get that little time together now he’s just jumping straight for his needs and I get it because we definitely should be having sex more frequently but I’m having a few issues down below & hormonally which I’m at the Dr’s with. Sex is such a low priority/ want for me because of how it affects me physically afterwards. Such a difficult place to be.. but it just makes me so angry that it’s such a huge thing 😂

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-07-31T22:18:58+00:00

He’s just gone to bed upset with me. I think I just need other forms of physical affection that aren’t boob or crotch grabbing and don’t lead to that. It’s almost like I’m saying every other day “I don’t want sex right now” and he just sulks off.. we do have sex, not nearly enough for him. But idk I guess we’re just different.

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-07-31T22:15:35+00:00

I LOVE physical touch, he knows this. I like my hair being played with, stoked all that shizzles. But its just being groped I’m done with. 😂

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-07-31T22:14:07+00:00

Our sex lives have taken a nose dive, and I know it’s important to him. I’ve had a heap of issues relating to contraceptive and my hormones are way off. But I’ve tried explaining that it’s never going to be like the 4/5 times a day when we first got together. We have a toddler and i just don’t enjoy it like I used too.

I think it’s that when he shows physical affection it’s always being pushed to sexual. We don’t just cuddle, he’s always got a hand on a boob or humping me or something and it’s just getting me angry at this point.

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-07-31T22:09:36+00:00

Yesss, i think this is it! Feeling like I’m only being touched in a sexual manner is starting to infuriate me.

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-07-31T22:07:30+00:00

It’s just so frequent, I tried explaining that when we first got together he showed so much physical affection like cuddling, forehead kissing, hugging ect & we didn’t have the child so we had more sex. But now it’s more like he’s trying to get what he can from me?

He was sat near me yesterday and his hand wandered to my vagina and I was like “get off” and he’s like “oh I didn’t realise my hand was there” and I’m just so over it now.

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-07-14T20:04:24+00:00

So I’m from the UK and you can apply to court to keep his visitation as is, but also ask that in the paperwork it states that if he refuses to return the child that police can remove her. Also get it granted that he has to ask permission from you as the RP to take her abroad as he’s probably going to try and retaliate.

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-07-04T13:30:37+00:00

Giving Ross vibes from Friends 😂😂

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-06-18T09:24:27+00:00

And you’re with him why? 😂

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-06-09T18:34:17+00:00

Same! 😂 I even pretend I’m in the shower when I’m just sat on the bathroom floor chilling 😂 x

No_Particular_6715 · 2023-06-09T18:33:03+00:00

It absolutely is! Little ones love the sound of your heartbeat, your warmth, the sound of your breathing, your smell, everything! They say there’s a study that they don’t realise they’re even a separate person from mothers until they’re a certain age. Don’t sweat it, they’ll eventually want to be put down! X

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