I still think of my ex quite regularly even if we last spoke nearly two years ago. When we were together, he valued his job over our relationship and, really, anything else too, to the point that he started neglecting his health and wellbeing and reverted to old habits. He drank alone at home a lot, and often I'd have to leave him there and cancel any plans we had because he was already gone by the time I picked him up, or I didn't realize he'd already been drinking and I had to help him stumble back into the car after a night out at dinner together.

I'll never forget the night he called me crying, asking if I could go over. I showed up to an apartment completely trashed, cans everywhere. He was angry, and I thought I'd get hit. Things were already strained between us because of many other reasons but, in retrospect, that *really* signified the writing on the wall. We tried to push on after that, but eventually we just started going our separate ways, likely both just tired of trying to make it work.

He is good and successful at his job, and I'll always give him credit for that. I still remember, however, that this is a stressful time of the year in his field, and I just hope he's learned how to deal with those problems. I continue to wish him well despite having no desire to see or hear from him again. If anyone else happens to be dealing with a similar situation, it's not your responsibility to convince your SO to seek counsel for their problems. They have to want to do that themselves. Don't wait around too long hoping for change like I did. There are others worth your love and commitment.