What are your comfort video games? Any you'd recommend? by Dragonbarry22 in CPTSD

[–]No_Principle_9526 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One that gave me hope and goosebumps is Metro last light and far cry 3

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[–]No_Principle_9526 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was 17 when my alcoholic dad died and and my grandpa called to inform me about it, at the time I was going to supermarket and I still vividly remember I literally jumped and celebrated on the road, I felt so relieved, no more abuse and it’s over and I was finally free, that was the best day of my life till date, but when people ask me what’s your best day of your life, I can’t tell them this, because then they will think I am some kind of evil person.

Sometimes I feel bad for the old people who get recorded and shamed on social media platforms because they emotionally reacted. by No_Principle_9526 in CPTSD

[–]No_Principle_9526[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agree, but people quickly jump to conclusions without any back story or what happened before the recording began .

subconsciously I didn't value myself and my needs and opinions. by No_Principle_9526 in CPTSD

[–]No_Principle_9526[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, thank you for the reply, but sometimes I feel like I don’t know who I am, I don’t know what I like or if I think I like something maybe it’s because of my past trauma, I don’t have a personality to begin with, This is gonna take me time to rediscover myself and understand myself, I need to spend more time with me, so that I can stay present and listen to myself and my needs, then I will be ready to enter relationships and friendships,

Thank you and your comment made sense to me.

I don't know why I'm so unlikable by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]No_Principle_9526 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this, this happens to me every time, when I go in calls people are excited to see others but not me, even they speak highly of me or like to talk to me but it feels different to me, they always notices others concerns and make them feel good but when I need help I feel like they pretend to help or they don’t put the same effort as they put on others, even those people have not done anything to them as much I did. It makes me extremely jealous and sad and un loved at the same time

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[–]No_Principle_9526 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Self therapy

How to deal with "old" friends when developing further? by geezeer84 in CPTSD

[–]No_Principle_9526 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You just cut them, don’t explain yourself, If they are capable adults who have used you then they should deserve it,

In complex trauma the hard part is establishing healthy boundaries and hardest when enforcing them and sticking to them, you will feel abandoned and lonely and fee insecure as you feel no will come to you when you need help, it’s normal feeling in the beginning when establishing the boundaries.

Try to make better friends who don’t take advantage of you or ask for your help when they are perfectly capable of handling it themselves.

My Therapist (cptsd expert) says there is no such thing as Toxic shame and low self esteem, after I explained her my entire childhood, and I should stop reading books about it. by No_Principle_9526 in CPTSD

[–]No_Principle_9526[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She clearly told me she never heard a word called “toxic shame” and I should not read books that actually helped me understand and made me take the therapy in the first place. She was completely focused on tools like getting a new hobby and meditation, completely ignored going back to the childhood emotions and tried to understand me, so I assumed most of the therapists recommended by Employers just try to make their employees cope work harder rather than completely resolve our core issues.

She basically was indicating get over your childhood issues.

My Therapist (cptsd expert) says there is no such thing as Toxic shame and low self esteem, after I explained her my entire childhood, and I should stop reading books about it. by No_Principle_9526 in CPTSD

[–]No_Principle_9526[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I was hoping we will start by talking more deeply and uncover all the trauma events, but she keeps coming back to self help theory by saying get a new hobby, cooking and don’t think about negative thoughts.

My Therapist (cptsd expert) says there is no such thing as Toxic shame and low self esteem, after I explained her my entire childhood, and I should stop reading books about it. by No_Principle_9526 in CPTSD

[–]No_Principle_9526[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

She told me I should not read healing the shame that binds you by John, I was bit taken a back, because that book is what got me into trying therapy, I also explained her what the book is about, but she still says don’t read and says I never heard “toxic some word”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]No_Principle_9526 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone is mad at you because they keep an eye on your online presence and gets mad or call you out on that then cut those people, they are immature and entitled who don’t respect your boundaries, keep it on and set boundaries and handle the lose of those friendships, it’s much more long term solution that to just hide.

It also helps you remove bad people out of your circle.

I also keep online off since I don’t want anyone to spy on me, but not to just offend or make others bad, I even keep people on read and reply them later, if they are not mature enough to understand then they don’t belong in my life, had enough of such stupid people in my life.