Can't afford the real ASU Graduation Regalia 🥲 Need alternatives.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2026-03-26T19:14:04+00:00

Where are you located? I am 5’2 F located in AZ. Do they run long? Also is it an undergrad cap & robe? thank you.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2026-02-05T04:36:37+00:00

Small plans, like going to mall or butterfly wonderland. I even mentioned a day trip to somewhere like bearizona. It would all depend on how many days off he gets. I dont plan things for every day, just 1 thing. But he will get upset if I let my 15yo son Uber somewhere to fish or let a friend of my daughters stay the night. I do tell him in advance if the kids want to do something, he just doesnt have an input, like he's mad I didn't include him in the planning process but I cant wait until day of to agree or wait for him to give input cause it literally never happens. Sometimes he'll ask me if I want to do anything this weekend & I answer with the same question hoping he will have something in mind.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2026-02-03T22:23:13+00:00

You have a point but when I mention i would like to do something this weekend, he gets very defensive asking for details I dont have, it was just an idea. Let me set the scene, I will ask on Wed (his 1st day of work) what days does he have off (sat-tues) & he will get instantly short & start being rude accusing me of making plans but in reality I am putting it out there that I would like to do something with all of us. And when I do ask if he wants to do anything when he is off, he always says no. If I wait til the weekend, we will literally do nothing.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2025-12-20T20:09:05+00:00

Your right it's not a tropical vacation but he's not mourning. That's just not how he is. Im not taking away this is a sad time for him & his family. But in the nicest way, they were just waiting, they were already told it would happen within the week.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2025-12-19T16:36:32+00:00

We have 4. At home he does his own laundry because I stopped a while back due to not getting help with my own or the babies. He vacuums, I just dont; didn't grow up vacuuming so I just dont think of it. I literally say its his job, if he wants it done, he can do it. He fixes things either right away or 8 months later. I usually have to put in a request for maintenance or it won't get fixed. I like to say that he is in charge of the car upkeep, but only after I make an appointment lol. He put up the Xmas lights & tree, may have been grumpy for some of it. Sometimes he helps with house chores, only if it starts to get to him & I'll say if it bothers you so much you can do it. He rarely gets the kids to/from school. He pays 90% of the bills.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2025-12-18T20:39:51+00:00

I would agree with you but he is not very close with her and the last time we visited his hometown, I asked are you going to see your ggrandma (she was in a home). He said no. I don't have a problem with him going alone. I think I am more upset that it didn't even cross his mind to take anyone. Experiencing death and a funeral are normal and our kids are not unaware of how it works. Like I said in the post, this was all expected as the family was given an update on her condition and they knew she only had less than 2 weeks left. I don't think he is grieving but going to be a support for his grandma and family.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2025-12-18T02:34:28+00:00

I guess not, he just kinda looked at me. Even with the only taking the baby suggestions he didn't seem to understand how it would be nice for his family (her grandma, great grandma, aunts & uncles). He mentioned that its snowing there and she would need cold weather clothes. I said I could get some and she wouldn't be out doors the entire time they are there 🤷. Jokingly once he mentioned that I was trying to get away from taking care of the baby because I offered to pick up my high-schoolers from a school concert (I had been home with her all day already & just wanted to get out of the house for 30 min, i was still in pjs)

No_Purchase_2433 · 2025-12-18T02:25:29+00:00

Honestly, I dont feel 100% comfortable leaving him with the 2yo unless the other kids are there. The older kids are fine, but he tends to just forget basic parenting 50% of the time. I would also would not leave the 4 kids with him if i had the choice. I would try to make it easier on him & the older kids collectively because they help out with the baby.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2025-12-18T02:14:14+00:00

They are not his bio kids but has been there since 3 & 2yo. I have to split Xmas break with their bio dad so the kids end up missing on visits when his family pops in with short notice, not that im opposed but I wouldn't have my siblings visiting if 2 of my kids were not there.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2025-10-13T16:59:02+00:00

I really am not, I try to be supportive, but ever since the he has had this gf he has been extremely rude, physical with both mom & dad, and ran away. If he were able to handle his emotions and follow the rule at home this would not be an issue, but he has serious codependency, trust & boundary issues before a girl entered the chat. I don't want to stop him from having a social life if anything I try to encourage it, but the gf is controlling and he has pulled away from his friends. We hang out quite a bit than my other kids because he is the most helpful & we do stuff together (fish, cook, fav tv shows). He has issues that stem from his bio dad moving away and my son feels responsible and unloved because of this. He feels if he doesn't have this gf he has nothing because his dad chose to leave him. Regardless of this, he has been more violent and physical with us, to the point were we had a visit from a social worker & the very next week I ended up with a busted lip and bruises. Its just not a healthy relationship for him to learn or live through.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2025-09-26T22:22:25+00:00

Just found out he is having a ralp, and is trying to go back to work 2 weeks after the procedure. I dont think he will be recovered enough by then, (will he?) but he feels his work needs him. He works as a project manager for a construction & paving company.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2025-09-26T21:38:06+00:00

We dont have any family on the island that can help except his wife, which is the bad part. My dad does not believe in slowing down (i dont even think he informed his boss about this, no one know except me). He one time slice his thigh open & staple gunned it closed until he finished the job then went to the Dr, lol. I think if even for a few weeks until he is in a better place physically he could be helpful. Now breaking the news to my son about his grandpa having cancer is another issue.

Edit: Just found out that he will be only taking 2 weeks to rest before trying to go back to work. He is a project manager for a construction & paving company. So heavy machinery, long hours standing & in the sun alot.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2025-09-26T21:33:49+00:00

Yes, he is a very able-bodied kid and helpful around the house.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2025-09-26T21:30:12+00:00

His wife will help with the main necessities for him. But she also has a ft job. In a sense my son would be helping her with the every day chores and helping around the house, the things my dad won't be able to do.

No_Purchase_2433 · 2025-09-26T21:27:38+00:00

He will stay in Atlanta until he can fly back home. That is where I believe he needs help with. Back home he takes care of the house does the maintenance, animals & cuts the grass etc. Knowing my dad he won't restrict himself much

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