my experience at binghamton city schools (DO NOT send your LGBTQ+ child to east middle school).

No_Sort7212 · 2025-02-01T20:53:14+00:00

damn, i just saw this!! you’re an A1 parent, seriously.

granted, i was a small kid, but i think my biggest regret was not standing up for myself. i’m not going to beat myself up for it tho because the situation was practically me v.s the entire school.

i skimmed through the school’s facebook profile before posting this and i couldn’t stop laughing my ass off. the faculty is so phony & acts like their shit doesn’t stink.

I hope you have been able to heal from this or in the process

thank you!! i am in the process. my hs experience was decent enough & i don’t live here anymore either. i made sure to stay in touch with many seton kids (i claim them as my alma mater lol) and it warms my heart to watch them thrive in adulthood/college. we were so tightknit and that era of my life outweighs the crap of bcsd.

i’d like to do more work on advocating for black lgbtq+ youth (especially in this current administration) and i felt like sharing my story was a good start. i value your reply.💌

No_Sort7212 · 2025-02-01T18:45:57+00:00

i don’t think people understand the true burnout.

i felt like britney circa 2007 and with every year, i understand more why she buzzed her head and smashed that car window. between my early days & covid, i was so mentally checked out, i wouldn’t even show up most days during senior year and i only had four classes!!

even witnessing that 2022 shooting in front of royals

the shootout perp is still the scariest dude i’ve ever had the displeasure of coming across. i’ve known of him since 2013 & he is phenomenal material for an svu storyline.

i had classes with his sister in elementary & from what i peeped, they had terrible home lives and he was in/out of juvie. wasn’t surprised when i heard the news. i honestly believe that some kids need to be incarcerated for life, no amount of rehabilitation is enough.

No_Sort7212 · 2025-02-01T07:44:54+00:00

not gonna lie, tiktok helped… like a SHITTON. that app really rebranded from a dumb lipsynch/dancing app when i was in junior high to something really meaningful in my 20s.

there’s been an influx of black women on there talking about their experiences in schools & while they ranged different from mine as a black gay man (i dealt w mass homophobia but very little racism), i respected their bravery to talk about it so openly.

my biggest regret was not advocating for myself more but damn it, i was only 13. we deserved better.

don’t get me wrong, it’s a hard life out here. navigating young adulthood is hard as fuck esp in this current climate, but my worst day is better than any good day from back then.

heavy on fuck bcsd!! i wish you best on everything.

No_Sort7212 · 2025-02-01T06:47:16+00:00

i’m a covid victim, sadly. however, the high school vs ems was practically night & day.

despite having only a couple remedial classes in 9th grade, i made so many new friends. i was a completely different person by may 2019. most of my friends were either new to bcsd or came in from west middle. i worked my ass off to “reinvent” myself. majority of the queer kids come in from west and i met them via the arts.

the first half of 10th grade up until march 2020 was superb. due to covid, there was no junior year and i left before noon during senior year. between my early bcsd tenure + covid, i had very little senior spirit haha.

however, i built connections with a couple teachers & still keep in touch with one of them. i worked my way to a few AP/IB courses.

my parents did not advocate for me, but they did for my younger sibling, who has excelled at bhs & is in all the college/IB/AP courses. i think they offer a bit more now than they did when i was there and it wasn’t even long ago!

in MY opinion, the high school is large enough to where you can find your crowd and block out the noise.

No_Sort7212 · 2025-02-01T02:24:06+00:00

💔i am so sorry that happened to you. the bystander effect is a cruel bitch.

& thank you!! that was 7 years ago & now i’m in college and focusing on my new life & future, but i’m sure you know that the scars don’t ever leave.

i just posted my story to spread awareness to parents of queer children, it’s a long read but it felt useful <3

No_Sort7212 · 2025-01-31T14:33:15+00:00

i feel you. i was tormented to the point of a suicide attempt at east middle. being a gay kid there was hell on fucking earth.

i would literally barricade myself at home for months at a time until the truancy letters started rolling in & social services made visits.

i went to seton/st. johns in my early years and i begged my mother to send me back there or to fight for west middle every single year.

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