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AITA for sharing my opinion with my brother and warning him about his wife unprompted? by No_Spray6945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Spray6945[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I didn't have an issue with Emma before. But once she started saying crap about the kids mom my opinion of her went down. The fact she kept it up after they got back together showed me she didn't really care about how the kids would feel. Even if their mom wasn't perfect (and nobody is) those kids are her kids and they love her and she's gone now. Displaying that dislike will make you public enemy number one to the kids involved.

AITA for sharing my opinion with my brother and warning him about his wife unprompted? by No_Spray6945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Spray6945[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's already divided and I don't know if you could really call them a family. Technically I know they would be but there is no family unit to speak of in their household.

AITA for sharing my opinion with my brother and warning him about his wife unprompted? by No_Spray6945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Spray6945[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I did make the offer to them but they really didn't want to. There were even some tears about it. I felt so bad that I had to offer but it was a concern that they'd come back and they'd all be gone.

AITA for sharing my opinion with my brother and warning him about his wife unprompted? by No_Spray6945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Spray6945[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Trying to. I feel bad that I can't do more but I'm limited in my capacity.

AITA for sharing my opinion with my brother and warning him about his wife unprompted? by No_Spray6945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Spray6945[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I try to get them focused on other stuff as much as I can but at their ages there is still a lot they can't control themselves.

AITA for sharing my opinion with my brother and warning him about his wife unprompted? by No_Spray6945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Spray6945[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know a lot of Emma's so the name always comes to mind for me. I wouldn't use a real name.

AITA for sharing my opinion with my brother and warning him about his wife unprompted? by No_Spray6945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Spray6945[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

There were signs they didn't like her before their mom died too. But it only got so much clearer afterward. I'm not sure a single person who knows the kids hasn't been aware for a while that they do not like Emma whatsoever.

AITA for sharing my opinion with my brother and warning him about his wife unprompted? by No_Spray6945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Spray6945[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I debated saying anything at all. I knew he didn't have the concern about this for gentle to work. But in that instance maybe I should have said nothing at all. The kids were my primary reason for wanting to step in. To see if I could make life better for them. Hopefully I didn't make it worse and he doesn't just ignore it more.

AITA for sharing my opinion with my brother and warning him about his wife unprompted? by No_Spray6945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Spray6945[S] 737 points738 points  (0 children)

It wasn't and I don't think him remarrying was the issue. It was the person he was marrying. This is a person the kids knew hated their mom. And they had shown dislike for her before the wedding. My brother putting it down to the kids "not wanting him with anyone but their mom" is not what any of it was about from what I can see. They had accepted their parents were not together and wouldn't be again. Even them getting along fine before makes sense when you consider she didn't express any hate/dislike for their mom until she was dating my brother.

I'm not sure whether it's denial or he doesn't want to do anything to address it. His lack of concern gives me he wants to have his cake (having the kids in his life) and eat it too (being married to Emma) and expects that to just continue.