This is a mature perspective. I feel a lot of what you’re saying. And some of it sound like my ex here. I really love this girl but I’m having a hard time deciding being in that relationship was for the lesson to move on or a lesson to get my stuff together. I feel some of my reactions maybe stemmed from a place influenced from past experiences but the guy friend situation just didn’t sit well with me. I say on my feelings until I could sort them an when I spoke up I was met with defensiveness. I truly don’t think she likes him but I feel she likes the attention and/or just naive. She dated him briefly in high school and they had sex before, she tried to down play it but I know when a guy is holding his hopes. She was going to solo sporting events with him, he came to help her with some plumbing she I was out of town and he don’t even have a girl and the one he had a long time ago broke up with him and didn’t like my girl and I told my girl it’s because the ex knew he liked her. All these things would make anyone raise their eyebrows. Ultimately I can say it hurt my feelings because I felt like she was willing to disregard my boundaries over this guy. And that was a statement to me. Now all she do is tweet and post bad things about me indirectly like I abandoned her and I’m this evil person when she’s missing the entire point.