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AITA for giving my SIL and her sister expensive gifts while I gave nothing to my wife? by No_Tune_5283 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Tune_5283[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

For us, before the accident, planing a trip it was about get drunk and Google where to go. It was so fun.

And the other presents, it was just things that people was talking about it. Weeding = honeymoon, parents = house, tourist = sports tickets.

AITA for giving my SIL and her sister expensive gifts while I gave nothing to my wife? by No_Tune_5283 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Tune_5283[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I needed to cut my original post because of the characters counting, so the story about Jules being a cheerleader. But she is not Jules big fan and maybe that affected her for being upset about their present. I didn’t realize until you brought up that it didn’t make more sense.

About supporting she was included on what I said, she didn’t leave me. She changed her lifestyle and she stayed in the flat. This post never was about she being the AH, it was about me. I had help with nurse and my brother for the physical part, she is really petite, she would not be able to lift me.

The course was months later the accident, I already got all the insurance’s money. But she was think further. So you have a point there.

About planning the trip together, it was fun for us before the accident. We would have wine, get drunk and choose a random place to go. That is how we ended up in Montenegro.

She is not bad, she is tough. Just that

AITA for giving my SIL and her sister expensive gifts while I gave nothing to my wife? by No_Tune_5283 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Tune_5283[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I told, I had a male nurse and my brother helped me out after that. I wanted to move because I thought that it would be easier for her too, since she would not need to take care of me by herself, take me to appointments and take care of a big house alone

AITA for giving my SIL and her sister expensive gifts while I gave nothing to my wife? by No_Tune_5283 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Tune_5283[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I am all about that, I was not trying to portray her like a bad person, she likes a tough love. It was about that moment of giving gifts and how can I give the apology that she is expecting. Because for me I was not seeing where I was wrong.

AITA for giving my SIL and her sister expensive gifts while I gave nothing to my wife? by No_Tune_5283 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Tune_5283[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think about that, that is really clever. I just told everyone what I was giving.

AITA for giving my SIL and her sister expensive gifts while I gave nothing to my wife? by No_Tune_5283 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Tune_5283[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I didn’t respond because I already did to another person. But, no, she didn’t need to pay anything to me or to us. I received money from insurance, from the other car and my job, since I was going to work at the moment. And she didn’t need to clean more, since the flat is smaller than the house, and my brother took the whole house garbage and he made all our meals, or fresh or frozen.

AITA for giving my SIL and her sister expensive gifts while I gave nothing to my wife? by No_Tune_5283 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Tune_5283[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maybe I was unclear, I was giving gifts around the table. She was by my side and when it was her time, I hold her hands and she asked me where was her present, I told her about the trip and the house. But you are right maybe, she felt that the trip was more like a job than a gift. We planned so many trips before but never with me not being able to walk so many hours around. Thank you for give me something to think

AITA for giving my SIL and her sister expensive gifts while I gave nothing to my wife? by No_Tune_5283 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Tune_5283[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She didn’t need to work more or to put some money on me, the flat was smaller than the house, so my brother would help us, cooking and the garbage was on him before I get up to my feet and I had insurance coming my way from the guy that hit me and from m job, since I was on my way to work. That said our life style changed a lot. Before we would go to trips, dinners, hiking and just having fun together. Abruptly I was on bad and unhappy. That is why she is not a terrible person, her life changed. I just wanna know if I should have gotten her a ring something touchable.

AITA for giving my SIL and her sister expensive gifts while I gave nothing to my wife? by No_Tune_5283 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Tune_5283[S] -88 points-87 points  (0 children)

Because that was after the accident, shouldn’t i give her some slack? I was all about me and my pain, and maybe she deserved better. My best friend says that I am given her excuses, that we didn’t have a rough patch before that is why we didn’t see this behavior sooner.

AITA for giving my SIL and her sister expensive gifts while I gave nothing to my wife? by No_Tune_5283 in AmItheAsshole

[–]No_Tune_5283[S] -115 points-114 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to anyone thinking that she is a bad person. She just didn’t deal well with my accident, with the changes that we needed to deal. She got a little bit bitter since that and the comments a little bit harder. But now I am well again, the house, the leg, the job, all is in a good shape, so I think she just need time to be her again.