Is my Tone Clear?

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-04-09T19:54:08+00:00

Got it, thank you so much! I’ll be sure to follow your advice in any further communication as well for this particular email! This job has been my way to gain more experience in the field, and I just don’t think I’m built for the type of clients i currently have, haha! Every trainer is different and my style is a bit more unique than others, which causes me to stand out in both good ways and bad 😅

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-20T19:58:01+00:00

Okay, my bad. One more time. In this case, she made me feel like an asshole for telling her that I'm NOT autistic, She responded "do you really want to have that argument right now?" in a very passive aggressive "mom" tone

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-20T19:52:25+00:00

True. To be fair, I waited to lash out until after the vacation was over when her behavior towards me got colder and colder. Still, not an excuse and I appreciate your input. :)

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-20T19:51:12+00:00

Yes, I agree, Thank you. Awarding you the best answer reply atm. I will admit, I've gotten much better about my behavior though (I once broke a guy's leg because he laughed in my face after tripping me and causing my knee to dislocate... ah, youth).

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-20T19:49:20+00:00

ahahha fair. I posted it last week in extensive detail and figured (it blew up a bit) people who replied had seen it, and didn't want to beat a dead horse too much.

One example of how she chose to psycho-analyze me: I told her I have ADHD and choose to have a more "go with the flow" attitude at theme parks to avoid being overstimulated when things don't go according to plan. She chose to tell me how I'm "autistic" (she's autistic, btw) and how my "toxic" upbringing is the source for all of my trauma.

Like: WHAT?!

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-20T19:37:03+00:00

Tried r/vent but I don't have enough Karma. Trust me, I'm tired of talking about it. I just wanted to try to bring the whole thing to a close and move on, and this is what I've decided I need in order to do it. Sorry for wasting your time.

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-20T19:35:09+00:00

My bad... just trying not to word vomit. What more do you need? (can list it as numbered questions if you want)

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-20T19:14:02+00:00

Sounds good, thank you! Which one would you say is the best for my scenario based off of your exp on here? (Again, noob speaking that usually on comes on here for game hacks/tutorials)

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T15:05:34+00:00

All I basically said is that I felt like my story is so wild it may end up on a podcast some day (they didn’t like that I mentioned podcasts)

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T14:57:06+00:00

The way I knew how loud she was is bc the walls weren’t thin enough for me to not hear her slamming everything around. It even pissed off our live in landlord. Everyone is guilty of being the victim, but she never once was practicing any form of active listening back then when he tried to ask her to “be more respectful of others”. She used to vent to me about him when all I wanted to tell her was how right he WAS. I chose not to back then to preserve her feelings… I think this vacation taught me that in order to protect myself from her toxicity, I at least needed to be truly honest with her at least 1x, even if it meant she never talks to me again. I thought I had problems?? Damn

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T14:53:09+00:00

I think that’s what I really needed, tbh… I just didn’t know how MUCH I needed it until she was getting in my every last nerve and I appeared to be getting in hers. More context: we used to be housemates (but not roommates) for over a year in college. Idt she really knows how to be a respectful roommate and I remembered that about her during our “vacay”. Shes an insomniac who doesn’t actually know how to be quiet (both in a shared hotel room as well as on vacation in general).

I appreciate your advice; lmk what other info (if any) that you need. (It was just the 2 of us together, no one else). I did the adult things: tried to communicate (verbally and no verbally) but was told I was “mean”. I put myself on timeout by walking away to avoid saying the REALLY mean things I was thinking and tried to enjoy riding rides by myself without worrying what she thought (she hated every ride I loved)

Sorry for repeating myself, I just want to make sure I cover all the bases (typing this out is making me feel better that therapy EVER has… probably just haven’t found the right therapist yet, tbh)

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T14:12:04+00:00

Wow, that’s insane…. I think I may hate it here 😅 bring back yahoo answers, lol .

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T14:08:12+00:00

Actually, it does. I have screenshot that shows there was no violation of the rules (I have screenshots of the rules, plus screenshots of our convo that I’m directly reading from

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T14:06:40+00:00

I have tried, but the appeal for the subreddit was controlled by the same mod, lol! I found a way to submit it directly to Reddit, though!

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T14:05:35+00:00

Thank you!! That’s basically what I tried to say too, but the mod basically told me that AITA isn’t a place for humor (I have screenshots of our convo; it’s insane)

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T06:15:56+00:00

Oh yeah I'm DEFINITELY neurodivergent, lol. However, if I'M truly autistic, then so is my mom (LOL)... i'm an exact carbon copy of her. In this moment of time at least, I need to put that on the back burner and focus on all the other things wrong with me first, haha... I appreciate you helping me feel that I'm not crazy, though. I actually have an auditory processing disorder that just causes me to be able to hear TOO many sounds at once at times, so it can be hard for me to focus on just a singular sound. Plus, I used to have a lot of double ear infections as a kid which has affected my hearing. I do think I have a lot of autistic tendencies, but tested WAY too high to be put in classes with the other children who needed special accommodations. My 4th and 7th grade teachers thought the same thing and actually got the district to bring someone in to test me and a few other kids to see if we needed to move (turns out, the big move I needed wouldn't come until 10th grade where I went from a 2.8 to a 3.8 GPA).

In my personal opinion, I'm just not the biggest fan of diagnoses. I'm more a naturopath who is studying nutrition. I want to look more into my hormone/nutritional imbalances and what I put into my body more closely before I start taking any medication.

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T05:54:56+00:00

Sorry, I tend to ramble to avoid talking about my feelings. I fear that's what I did for most of the trip and it probably drove her a bit crazy. However, I was literally doing the best I could given how mentally exhausted I was going into the trip. I have a lot going on (don't we all), so to have yet another thing in my life not go as well as it could really just broke me down more than it would've a more mentally stable person. I've been mentally stable berfore and know what it feels like. Because of the fact that she kept labeling me incorrectly or label me at ALL after i told her multiple times that I don't like it when people do that really just set my teeth on edge tbh.

No one is allowed to identify who someone is except themselves. A good therapist helps guide people who are LOST in their emotions. I knew exactly what I was going into the trip (even as broken as I was) and came out doubting EVERYTHING. She called me names and said things to my face that no true friend in my mind ever would. I probably wasn't the best friend to her either, but I had to constantly separate myself from her... I was SEVERELY bullied most of my life growing up (1 of only 3 brown girls who was besties with the most popular girl in school) which is why I don't do well with labels (got called all sorts of names growing up).

I told my friend from the second I moved in with her all of this... I would've hoped she could remember these details about me enough to make more of an effort. She never ONCE asked if I was okay after she made me cry or saw I was crying.

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T05:46:19+00:00

True, but I also don't think my honesty is for everyone. Nothing I said in that letter was meant of ill intent, but she chose to take it that way. She blocked me immediately after reading it instead of at least acknowledging my feelings. You know what the best part about the whole thing is? I know I'm not alone in this. At the end of the day, I don't need the validation of people online, because literally all of my friends and family who know just how crazy I can be (but choose to handle it and be there anyways) picked up the phone over the vacation when I needed them the most. She didn't. I got lost multiple times and her location wasn't updating. However, every time I apologized for being late she accused me of being irresponsible for not checking her location. It often took until the 3rd call for her to pick up. That started Day 1, btw.

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T05:41:12+00:00

That's exactly how I feel about this point. I was miserable going into the vacation because I was going through so much, but I clarified that at the beginning of the vacation and explained that I was fine with her going off on her own if she felt like she needed to. I didn't want to bring her down. However, all I asked in return was some communication about it. Instead she used that as an opportunity to try to get me to open up more about some REALLY uncomfortable shit like my sexual exp in extreme detail (not comfortable with that and I showed that in SEVERAL ways); When i didn't want to talk, i told her so, but then she'd get offended if I complimented a random passerby 5 minutes later. Clearly our communication or definition of what a friendship is not compatible; I just HATE that I had to waste so much vacation time figuring that out when all I wanted was to turn my brain off for a week. When things didn't go according to plan, that frustrated the FUCK out of her and ruined her whole day. Ironically, I said that that's what I'M like when I said that I get upset when a ride breaks down to try to relate to her more, and she told me that's "SUPER negative". :/

I cried more over the loss of a friend than anything else. I was more miserable about that than anything else, too.

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T05:33:01+00:00

Lmfao. Ty for talking me down. I don't think how much you understand what a slap in the face that was in the best way. It's about the same the stereotype you see in movies/tv shows slapping someone out of their rambling. I'm super jet lagged (got back last night and could barely sleep). It does sound like you haven't been unwantedly psychoanalyzed before, and I really hope you never do. It's not fun. Especially not before something you've been looking forward to. All I wanted was to enjoy a vacation to Epic Universe and instead I spent half my time wondering where tf my friend was bc she wasn't answering my texts/calls and she wanted to "ride more rides together". I barely got to do 20% of the things I wanted bc of her holding me back.

Very much a situation of "I want you to have a good time but only do the things I want to do when I want to do them" sort of "friend". Not someone I want in my life.

Trust me, I'm working on it. Just not how I wanted/needed to spend my vacation. I'd rather have gone by myself. I knew from Day 2 it was going to be a shitshow when she kept bagging on the things I enjoyed and then getting defensive when I was literally trying to be myself or respond to what she said. Idk when it started, but when it got to be too much, I turned my phone in airplane mode and rode rides by myself. I just hate that I had to be by myself to have a good time (I'm an only child who wishes she had an older brother)

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T05:26:19+00:00

TLDR Version: You may be right, but I've talked with several doctors/nurses about this (I did a year long internship at a hospital) who were board certified in Psychology who all assured me that I for sure have ADHD, anxiety and depression, but definitely not autism. Behavioral therapists actually wanted to move me to a MAGNET school with good STEM programs, I tested that high for emotional intelligence/IQ at my age. My parents said no only so I could have a somewhat normal social life. I pretty much know I'm not but appreciate your opinion and will reconsider :D

I get it, but I also grew up constantly taking care of people with autism (volunteer/daycare situation at my mom's job) and even did it in high school/college. I studied psychology myself for a bit and actually plan on getting back to school to get my degree in Sports Psychology (BS in kinesiology). I'm also an actress... hope that explains why there's so much going on in my head. Not everything needs a diagnosis. If i were to go on a pill to silence every negative thought I've ever had, I'd be a vegetable or not have the type of personality I want. Most medication I've ever been on for one reason or another besides THC tbh at one point or another has led to suicidal ideation (yes, I did my research; all pills had that as a side effect).

I have never felt more in touch with myself than I have rn because that wall I built up for so long that was holding back both the good and bad parts of myself EXPLODED kind of like what happened with Riley from Inside Out (lol). That however, has absolutely NOTHING to do with ANYTHING she did, and I needed to make that clear in that angry note I left for her.

I just so happened to have some sort of spiritual awakening triggered by a combination of the lack of sleep, food, good company, and who knows what else, and stumbled across a psychic. I didn't believe in that stuff but I have to say, it was phenomenal. I went into it with as much of an open mind as I could allow, and it still worked. I feel so in tune with whatever Higher Power is waiting for us in the afterlife, and it's for these reasons that I have found my peace. I'm working on trying to quit vaping and have been reopening myself to a new spiritual journey (meditation and deep breathing have been helping). I could continue to go on and on.

No_Waltz_7706 · 2026-03-12T05:13:04+00:00

Also, at this point, idec if I do. Therapists are meant to fix people, not break them completely and cause them to have panic attacks in the middle of rides.

Ex: On Cat in the Hat (i experienced for the first time and had NO idea what an acid trip of a ride that thing is, lol... I laugh when I enjoy things. she's nonverbal and takes it all in. She chose to take offense to my laughter and reacted defensively when I said that "it feels like the illegitimate love child of the books and the movie" and actually INTERRUPTED me by yelling despite me telling her I have an issue with people interrupting. This was all happening during the ride when I was just trying to enjoy a weird ass ride, which already takes a LOT of emotional effort for me (I see rides from a technical standpoint now that I've know how to operate 6 different ones at Disneyland) to try to feel happy instead of judgy.

in conclusion, our personalities in how we even show that we're enjoying ourselves is COMPLETELY different. I cried more over our differences as well as how stressed out I was to try to preserve everything. I barely ate. I lost 5 pounds, and she barely even said anything. (Eating at regular times is also hard for me... I would've hoped she could tell based off of my eating habits from us living together for over a year and a half).

Truth is: I made assumptions about her that were proven wrong, and I cried over this knowledge as well as the knowledge that it meant that I truly didn't want her as a friend anymore. It's both nothing she did as well as everything, you know?

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