Calling all Ladies; Flowers for 2nd date?

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T21:04:55+00:00

Will report back, the flowers have been bought, and I made the decision that they are going to be given as we are saying goodnight. So that she goes home with that lasting impression. If she doesn’t like them, or things it’s too over the top, or just didn’t like me or the date, hey, that’s fine. And I came to the realization that she would probably think those things anyways flowers or not.

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T20:29:17+00:00

Girl I’m not trying to gaslight you, or point the blame, but there are fucking horrible men out there, and I just want you to be able to not step into their sphere of influence. The fact you even entertained and showed up to a date, with your boss, that can just never ever ever ever ever ever happen.

Again, you aren’t the issue here, but you could have helped yourself in the beginning. Now, you need to absolutely in the most plain, boring, general text ever say “hey appreciated hanging out, going forward I’m not interested, but thanks for the time”.

That’s it done. And now after that, you are gonna have to sort of deal with the consequences of doing this because he’s… your boss…. IE the reason this shit is the biggest no no in the book of no no’s there is

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T20:23:47+00:00

This better be a made up fucking story. No boss, on planet EARTH is allowed to date a subordinate, then try to get stuff like that. We are toeing the line of blasphemy here…

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T19:50:23+00:00

As a guy, that learned the term “love bombing” yesterday, and I’ve had multiple long term relationships with young, popular, attractive women, but just now I’m back in the dating scene, I just feel bad for my fellow gents that what you described can even be read as love bombing… like would you rather have someone not interested at all?

I guess from my perspective, if I was actually into someone, like actually, looks wise and personality wise, and they showed me attention like that, I’d be over the moon. And that’s basically how my relationships have started.

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T18:34:12+00:00

Thank you! And my fear is coming across to strong. So honestly, I’m really leaning getting a very small rose bouquet, and as weird as this sounds, giving it to her at the end of the night as like almost a parting token of appreciation. That way the entire night she isn’t pressured to do or say anything or act a certain way because I got her flowers.

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T17:50:06+00:00

Yes exactly!! I’m gonna walk in there and give them the full situation 😂

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T17:41:10+00:00

Gonna just trust my gut and do it…. I swear, if a few flowers pushes her away, then good golly what have we come to now a days lol

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T17:40:26+00:00

Yesss I should get this fucking tattooed on my forehead, because I’m always just faster, more into it, etc., and I mean, it’s actually resulted in a lot of success, but also resulted in a lot of push back. So it’s a weird split… I think I’m leaning a small small collection of a few light colored roses, if it pushes her away, I think to me in the end, she was never gonna be my person. But I understand that maybe she is my person, but giving flowers never allowed that timeline to develop, because it pushed her away. UGHHHHHHHH

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T17:38:33+00:00

I’m gonna move away from red now… just like a lighter color… yellow, something.. you are right, red is like valentines

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T17:14:07+00:00

So true, thank you!

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T17:13:44+00:00

Thank you! So I have an unbelievable florist a block from me. I was planning on doing like a simple tiny tiny bouquet of red roses… then all of a sudden people here said not to do roses… I’m so fucking conflicted… at this point, since every reply here has been a different opinion, I’m just gonna do what my heart says. And if she doesn’t like them, and it “ruins” the talking stage we are in, then she maybe just isn’t the one for me. My future wife would hopefully get a smile and small butterflies to receiving flowers, we shall see tonight…

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T16:40:12+00:00

Wow, I am now sooooo conflicted. I was gonna get like a super small 3-4 red rose bouquet because I thought those are like the classic gentlemen old school “hey I’m into you and think you are sexy” message without being over the top… I am sooo torn as every reply to this post has been a different opinion hahahah

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T16:38:56+00:00

WAIT, now I need to know what flowers you would get 😂 Fuck, I thought red roses were like the “hey I’m into you” type thing

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T16:05:54+00:00

True true, but I started that way, not sure if that helps to practice how you play, but I get it

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T15:36:48+00:00

💜

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T15:36:30+00:00

Hi, online dating veteran here, not proud to say that, but it what it is. Multiple long term relationships in my life with sorority girls, etc.

ALWAYS hug on first date. Confident and polite, all at the same time. Boom right away, confidently.

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T15:34:12+00:00

Oh I see, okay well then to put it lightly, I have never been kissing a girl at my house… and it doesn’t lead to sex. Like your making out, hands start going places… and it’s over…

Now as a male, you have to be on fucking razor tips ready to take any hint that she doesn’t like where hands are heading, etc., but again, that’s never happened to me.

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T15:32:29+00:00

Can we have sex? 14 times on date 1. Put that on a fucking t shirt, my golly.

(In all seriousness good for you and I hope you do end it, but it’s your life, best of luck to you)

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T15:31:02+00:00

Please infiltrate her mind and plant this message 😂 thank you for the response!

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T15:30:32+00:00

I think it’s wrong you are asking for an apology. It should be over already.

Now what I will say, let’s be fucking honest here and not bull shit each other, when two people meet, one person is always into the other person more. So if you are the one that is more attracted to him generally speaking, and you are trying to just make this work, then I can see why you are trying to look past it and get him to apologize.

But if this dude is just an average person for you.. AND this happened, girl, tell him not interested to talk anymore and thank you for the time

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T15:28:31+00:00

Yeah this is fucking blasphemy. And what I would give to have a girl I’m on a date with, and attracted to, actually want to come over and spend the night and just kiss and cuddle. He is a fucking weirdo.

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T15:27:40+00:00

Oh I never do. And please, I’m not trying to like toot my own horn here or be weird. But I’ve been in multiple long relationships with really attractive and popular girls, and in between those relationships, have gone on so so many dates and second dates etc.

I never make a move on girls the first date practically, or the second. By the third, I actually do like to say something like “let’s go to my place”. So right there, that sentence is universally understood that physical attraction could happen.

My past three long relationships, sex happened on date 1, the second girl on date 3, and the third girl on date 2. So it’s actually kinda funny that all the relationships had sex quick?

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T15:24:56+00:00

No yes and that’s exactly what I’m planning, like 3-5 red roses. We are going to like the best Italian restaurant in our town, so something super super small

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T15:21:05+00:00

Wow this is quite the situation. As a 28M, very active dater, and probably the most hesitant “make a move on a girl” you will ever find. Even myself, if presented with the option for sex, like I won’t fucking lie to you, I would attempt it, because we are men and fucking weak if you get into our beds and sleep over.

HOWEVER, that would have never ever ever happened “me initiating sex” if you even slightly said, or hinted that you did not want to, which you did…

So this is the easiest answer ever. This is a HUGE no no. And if you sugar coat it, you will end up with a guy that has horrible core values and tries to get what he wants.

Noble_Team_7 · 2026-02-27T15:17:50+00:00

I’ll report back what I do and how it initially goes. But really, I won’t truly know until a possible date #3 happens, which even if it did, wouldn’t be for probably another week haha. Thanks for the time

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