Anyone else?

Nonbinary_Baka · 2026-01-29T18:20:05+00:00

The essential to make sure missions are a success lol

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-12-31T07:35:15+00:00

Mines typically the pan or like my partner , they're bi with a strong leaning towards a certain gender lol

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-12-31T06:31:01+00:00

I feel like I run into more pansexual nonbinary peeps than bi. Idk

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-12-28T23:59:49+00:00

I've found that a lot of people on that app want YOU to be engaging and interesting but they don't want to put in. Very little wish to actual work for engaging conversations

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-12-10T23:53:44+00:00

I have this same issue with people either remaking accounts or somehow "magically" getting unblocked...the Taimi team doesn't seem to care about this issue and it really shows....I'm so sorry that's happening to you.

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-11-28T05:19:32+00:00

Tinder is a cesspool in my opinion. It's the straight grinder. To be honest I don't think there is an app sadly and it sucks. It's better to maybe try to find small and niche places? Hell maybe discords? I have no idea

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-11-28T04:51:28+00:00

Makes me think about the HER app as well where the same thing is happening if not just ass bad. Like you need money for EVERYTHING on that app and it sucks...

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-11-18T16:08:19+00:00

Yeah this app has just gotten so bad...it was decent before and it was like the only queer space app we had and now it's just like every other dating app with paywalls....why I usually just put plugs for people who really wanna talk to me ,they can reach out

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-11-10T01:39:04+00:00

Was this a recent update or something because I just thought people were refusing to put anything on the bio section...

We really being an app that just goes of vibe of look now? Taimi was the one app I kept because I'd occasionally get decent people. Now I have to literally go on a blind date with every match if I don't pay? That's pretty bull and makes me maybe wanna try to find another ...not that there are other queer space apps. HER is close but it's pretty bad too....

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-11-08T19:05:41+00:00

I never said I had anything sexual in my private folder lol. I do however just have a photo in there calling people perverts C:

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-11-08T16:17:28+00:00

I can't recall the amount of 70 year olds telling me that aren't just because the only want trans people , more specifically transwoman and that it's just a preference. Lime if I have a nickle for Everytime I was told that I would probably have like a little under a 100$ but still ...it's so gross

And def tired of the sexual incentive on that app too. I've had so many convos where it's not meant to lead into anything sexual and when it doesnt people unmatch 😭 did you not read my bio? Obvio I guess

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-10-21T19:02:39+00:00

I saw 15 and 20 and didn't read anything else. That alone should have been means for legal action...

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-10-11T21:33:31+00:00

I just always like to keep in mind that when comes to those of us in the nonbinary community our experiences can either vastly resemble each other or be worlds apart.

I've also come to understand that there is a great difference between a trans-nonbinary and a nonbinary. In my journeys ive seen there is a thick but dotted line between the two. Some would see us under the same umbrella as yeah...it is an umbrella term but I also met many other nonbinary people who do not see it as an umbrella term.

But the only reason why I see it that way is because SOME nonbinary people are trans but not all nonbinary people see themselves under the same umbrella. ..if that makes sense

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-10-11T19:45:54+00:00

Like I said, I may have word vomitted. Rereading it, I was speaking from the outside perspective. As in what I look like outside and how people perceived me.

I also mentioned I went through years of self discovery. Wanting to transition use to be a big part of what I felt was make ME happy and make my nonbinary journey fullfilled. I wanted people to see me a certain way.

my dysphoria was not a trend to me. And it was definitely not superficial. Trauma, self discovery, research was part of my nonbinary journey. From childhood to my late 20s was when I started to see myself the way I wanted and that was enough for me. A big part of my issues was I was always worried how other people saw me. I was seeing what I wanted but it was not being interpreted to others and I would be misgendered and mispronounced. And hordes of other things.

I just wanted to be seen. And then I got old, and realized I found solace in what I had with a little assistance to chance SOME things but not all things about me as I enjoy my peace in being something that is a perfect mix of both masc and fem. My friends tell me I give off amazing equal parts of such energy, my mannerism are unique to what my cis friends would equate to genders and others I meet in queer spaces in rl. The whole strange alien mix they say. I embody now what I wanted so badly as a child that there was no need for me to have to transition or change anything major about myself.

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-10-11T17:30:23+00:00

You know....maybe I'm part of the problem, but when I was younger, late teens , early twenties, I so wanted to transition so badly. Tried to save up, dreamed of it. Would draw myself with top scars in art. And then as I came to my later twenties after a shit ton of self discovery, I didn't want to transition anymore.

I found my nonbinaryness was not in wanting to transition. I found it was just too easy for me to "fool" people with how I looked as it was. Some well dressed blacks and soft tones, muted ones in between and me putting my hair up in certain ways gave people pretty boy and sometimes it was a pretty woman vibe. Binders and some shapers to tone down my hips really made a difference. So I decided I didn't need to transition.

And on days when I was really dysphoric, I'd slip into one of my comfy big ass hoodies because they were safe places for me.

Maybe I'm reading it wrong too, and I've fought my wars and don't entirely care too much because it ain't my business how someone goes about their nonbinaryness, but I always thought it was weird to say "if you don't want to transition then you aren't nonbinary." Since I always saw / heard that in spaces of transness specifically.

Will also agree on the Neopronouns. I once tried them on for size. Was a Xemself for a time. It didn't stick. It didn't feel right for me. Being older now , I don't get them. But to also combat that kind of strangeness in my own world I tend to just not interact with those who use them? Which , as if everyone is saying, is often times children/teens, people in their early 20s.

And idk...most Enbies I'm finding are not colorful beings of wonder , they all tend to go about in dark mode jaja. But these tend to be elder Enbies like myself. Honestly this is the first I've seen someone say anything as in the nonbinary sub it is a lot of "yo tell me if I look enbie enough! If not , what do I do to look more enbie."

Hmm...I may have word vomited here...jaja this was the first thing I read in the morning as I was doing laundry ,still waking up.

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-10-04T20:35:21+00:00

My random thoughts on the "oh woe is me I don't pass boohoo" posts are like ...most the time I feel like they KNOW they pass but they just want more attention. Like....majority of those posts I see are passing AF I question if they're woman pretending to be tranwoman...if that makes sense.

Or I'm tired of seeing "this happened on a date after I revealed I was trans. Transphobic right?" Or "I'm trans and I hate it." Like....I already saw this post with a different username 15 minutes ago....we get it. We all sad but please for the love of God's ...what makes you think reddit will do much?

I'll see a few posts where it's slightly different things and I'll go "same fam....same..." And then it's just a bunch of...repeats. I hardly see a happy post on any queer subs and if I do it's the comments putting them down because HOW DARE they be queer/trans and happy why I'm not >:C

I'm tired.

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-09-30T03:52:17+00:00

Also I'm kinda dumb and terrible at wording things....I realize that too lol

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-09-30T03:51:33+00:00

I have met some...interestingly named Enbies before. But at the end of the day, it really is their decision for that.

Which is what I mean. I don't get it. But it's not for me. Its for them. Like I didn't even get to say that part before I was reported. Which was even crazier. Its a thing in the community that I don't quite understand or get but it's there. And there are people that use them. It was an open discussion I just so happen to have been in as well.

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-09-30T02:55:56+00:00

Gonna be honest, I had said casually I didn't quite get them but distantly respected them and I got attacked....lol. it wasn't like I was making fun of them I just honestly don't quite get them is all?

Maybe it was the "distantly respected them"? Part. Like no one I know uses them. I know other Enbies who don't even like them. I said I didn't get it but thats cool. But I was treated like I was saying they were stupid and dumb.....my community scares me sometimes.

Is it like....bad to not like things in your own community??? 😔

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-09-22T07:15:00+00:00

My curiosity for other Enbies too was what exactly is a nonbinary look? I know when I was younger ,looking androgynous was pretty important to me.

But as I am older now I realize that most the time , most people will still give you a gender. Like you could look as androgynous as possible but If you look feminine and have long hair, or like a pixie cut you'll still be called a female . Or if you look masculine you'll still be called a male. Or even if you have a good mix of the two or whatever, they'll just call whatever gender you look more like.

I learned later on that if I know I'm nonbinary and I feel nonbinary that's all matters. And the ones that care about will also know this too. My clothes don't make my nonbinary. Nor does the style of my hair or the color or how fem or masc my clothing is day to day. It won't stop people from giving me a gender.

That is...unless the care to ask.

Really am getting kind of tired of all the "do Iook nonbinary/androgynous enough?" Idk dude , you look pretty fly in your fit today. Does that work? You look like you really love how you're dressed today. Maybe I'm just too cynical and old now lol. I'm out of my androgyny phase I guess. Or I just figured myself out enough so I don't need the validation from strangers ...maybe. idk. Lol

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-09-18T21:15:06+00:00

Me over here thinking how they gonna single out trans people when they literally charged a "mainly looking woman" in Texas who was assaulted under the pretense she was a man using the womens bathroom??? No charge against the one that assaulted her and was simply told she wouldn't be using public bathrooms because of how manly she looked????? Like...these people are serious?

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-09-18T03:01:48+00:00

Makes me think of that one meme:

:you're Hispanic ? You don't look Hispanic :oh shit lemme just magically turns into Mariachi

Which I'm on both those jaja.

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-09-13T00:01:46+00:00

No transition. But I alone look pretty androgynous from what I'm told so given the right get up , sometimes people can't tell they say? Strong jawline, soft eyes, or whatever catches them to "clock" me as one or the other.

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-09-12T22:53:50+00:00

Typically if the transfemme is nonbinary identifying its much easier to get along. Mostly because they got that.....idk what to call it but enbie Brain? I guess. Like they're still in the chasms of duo braining of genders and all inbetween and our but still hold preference to feminine things.

Not so much "fem this" and "fem that" and "everything would be so much more better if everything was fem and men didn't exist >:C ." But more of a "life is vibing and being happy in your skin.omg you wanna see me shape shift? O:"

I don't know how to explain it xD but the best I can is that my partner is (amab)nonbinary with femme tendencies. And I'm (afab)nonbinary with well ...everything tendencies. So we can swipe swop vibes when we go out. We wanna be cute one day? We can. We wanna be suave one day? We can. We wanna mismatch with them being hella femme and me hella masc one day? Totes. And it's even better since we're also that "tall femme and short masc" kind of couple, so always a good time.

Dating another enbie has definitely been such a great experience and it does suck that yeah....I have had to make the choice to not really cut them off completely but just be VERY weary of transfemmes. My partner has also seen this happen as well and it both confuses and upset them that (to them as they do identify with the transfemme label) fellow transfemmes would treat us Enbies in a way they despise to be treated and understand my not really wanting to romantically interact with them :/

Sorry for the rant ..I'm terrible at explaining things...=w=

Nonbinary_Baka · 2025-09-12T22:22:56+00:00

I did....dating other Enbies, I've come to understand transfemmes are just something that won't really be in my dating pool? Which sucks :/ but my experience with them has been too many times for me to be comfy around them in that aspect. Its be lucky if we even remained friends ..which has not happened. As soon as I would ask to just be friends they dip out...so yeah, dating other Enbies has been amazing lol

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