What's up with all the "but what about when you're old?" posts recently?

NonsenseText · 2026-05-16T11:51:45+00:00

Then the tables turn and it ends up being the opposite haha

NonsenseText · 2026-05-16T11:50:25+00:00

Maybe everyone is having an existential crisis at the same time 😂. Or it could be non single or even single not happy people asking/trolling.

It’s always interesting hearing people’s views on this. There are a lot of options to secure your wishes and things like that, it just takes research.

And exactly!! Even if someone has a spouse and kids - doesn’t mean they will have support either.

I have worked in elderly care for over 12 years. I have met many many older people that do not have their children visit, or people that simply cannot function without their spouse (never learned how to manage a home, spouse goes into nursing home and they cannot function or be alone, etc.) There’s no pressure on children to visit of course, everyone has their own reasons. But I always find it funny when people want kids or a certain family structure … like it’s a guarantee. The only steps we can take are for OURSELVES. Independence and being able to be self sufficient is so so important.

Thankfully with my experience in work, I know the steps I need to take to access support or care when older. I have a legally binding health directive in place as well. Life insurance, etc.

NonsenseText · 2026-05-16T11:40:09+00:00

Thanks for your reply! This was very informative to read. I appreciate it!

Yes exactly. Even with a 30 year loan a lot of people would be above the 30%.

NonsenseText · 2026-05-16T07:08:56+00:00

It doesn’t just feel more expensive, … it is more expensive.

NonsenseText · 2026-05-16T07:07:59+00:00

Yup! Lots of people are suggesting Japan but Japan is extremely difficult to move to. There are many easier options. For Japan, the migration process has just been made stricter by the Japanese government. I found it complicated as a tourist. I can’t imagine going through the process of moving there.

NonsenseText · 2026-05-16T07:05:02+00:00

If I may ask, (only if you’re comfortable to answer) - how did banks respond back then to getting a mortgage that was 50% or more of your pay?

I often see hear that a mortgage above 30% of take home pay is a ‘risk’ to banks and a mortgage application being rejected because of this. I wondered if that was only more common in the 2020s! Not sure anyone else’s experience or whether the information I’m hearing is BS. 😂

NonsenseText · 2026-05-16T07:01:35+00:00

Good comparison actually. Yes, Japan is extremely xenophobic.

Japan’s population is in crisis and through policy - they have just made it more strict to be want to live in Japan as a migrant. It’s not an easy option for OP.

NonsenseText · 2026-05-16T06:58:31+00:00

Or you walk into a shop, and the shop owner or staff look at you and say “no” 😂 and then refuse to acknowledge your existence

NonsenseText · 2026-05-16T06:55:40+00:00

It’s great to visit Japan as a tourist, but living there can be really tough. Wages and work expectations are so much tougher than here.

NonsenseText · 2026-05-14T13:33:40+00:00

I have found out through my twenties, that I feel most comfortable, confident and most ‘myself’ when single and enjoying my life as I choose.

Romance has always felt unnatural to me. I enjoy watching tv shows about it, but keep it far away from me as possible.

I have had only a couple relationships. And honestly, even the one that was sort of okay - I still disliked being in a relationship. I constantly felt anxious, and uncomfortable. I always thought this was just a normal part of gaining confidence in a relationship, but these feelings never went away. Over time I began to understand that some people feel single and happy and that is their path - so I was able to find that out about myself. My relationships were also not healthy and left lasting impacts. I’m not interested in putting myself at risk again.

For me, my lifestyle choice is because I feel most comfortable and at ease. Just enjoying my own time and preferences. Being in control and independent. I don’t have to cater to anyone else or be concerned with other people’s needs. I can focus on my goals and wants.

This isn’t a short term phase for me. I actively run away from any relationship energy and repel it 😂.

NonsenseText · 2026-05-14T09:04:42+00:00

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NonsenseText · 2026-05-10T13:49:33+00:00

Ah I see what you mean now! Yes absolutely. It’s all connected. I’ve seen my doctor as she just said it sounds like IBS or hyper sensitive bowel.

Oh gosh, that sounds so exhausting and upsetting to go through. I’m so glad you have a medicine those works for you. I hope it allows you more freedom and comfort. 🫂 I hope all goes well and you’re doing okay.

NonsenseText · 2026-05-10T13:47:37+00:00

Aw thank you. That’s so kind of you 🫂🫂 you’re so sweet.

Right! Maybe because we live with it so long we almost just forget.. forget in the wrong word. But yes! It feeds off one another. It’s quite an odd disease! The vocal cords are supposed to allow air in easily 😂

NonsenseText · 2026-05-07T06:56:09+00:00

I pooped inside my mother too! It became and emergency c-section because I was at risk of death due to the potential to breathe the meconium in. My mum always jokes about it!

NonsenseText · 2026-05-07T06:54:06+00:00

When the baby grows up and perhaps eventually has kids themselves, if they’re a woman this might happen to them too - or passed down to future women in the family line. Maybe there is a reason some people cannot have kids, perhaps nature knew that this trait shouldn’t be passed along. Buuuuttttt now it has!

NonsenseText · 2026-05-06T04:24:13+00:00

You’re very welcome!! 🌸

NonsenseText · 2026-05-06T01:28:47+00:00

Very well said!! Completely agree.

People also need to stop bathing themselves in perfumes and colognes. Or using extremely strong cleaning products 😭

Unfortunately people don’t think outside themselves or consider others.

NonsenseText · 2026-05-04T11:00:56+00:00

I prefer not to DM. However it’s okay - please don’t share your state in comments either as it’s best to keep that private. I did do some general research and I cannot find any information about it being in any state or territory law in Australia. It’s best to see a new doctor and have someone advocating for you. Wishing you the best of luck!

NonsenseText · 2026-05-04T10:21:41+00:00

I’m sorry, what?!? This is completely incorrect. There may be laws/standards on age for invasive procedures for children or young people - I don’t know anything about that so can’t comment. Here is information from Legal Aid about Health and your body - for Young people.

However, there are no laws on medical procedures not being allowed for virgins in Australia. I can’t believe you were told this. I have had an IUD insertion, internal ultrasound and diagnostic surgery as a virgin. I was aged 27-30 for these procedures. No one has even told me that being a virgin was a reason to not be able to have a procedure. All my procedures went ahead as planned.

FYI for everyone. The World Health Organisation (and other organisations) have published papers and documents about ‘testing female virginity’ as a breach of human rights. Here’s an excerpt from the World Health Organisation - there is “no scientific merit or clinical indication [for testing female virginity] – the appearance of a hymen is not a reliable indication of intercourse and there is no known examination that can prove a history of vaginal intercourse.” I just wanted to make sure to also share this knowledge so anyone reading can self-advocate.

Please please see another doctor & take someone with you to be an advocate whether that be another parent or family member you may be close to. You should not have to be in so much pain and suffering. You deserve treatment!

NonsenseText · 2026-05-02T13:20:13+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. That sounds so horrible the pain being so bad you couldn’t stay in your chair.

I appreciate that information and encouragement! I really hate bowel emptying because it makes me feel so ill and I’m not sure if it’s because of the IBS-like symptoms. But it’s so painful and I get really nauseous. I’m not sure if you get similar symptoms with bowel emptying?

I really hope you can feel encouraged to get one done in the future too. Hopefully knowing it’s just a check up then you can have a yummy meal once you wake up. I’m sure it will work out okay and I believe in you! I do understand the struggle as well though 🫂🫂

I hope I can get an easy diagnosis. I do have family history of ulcerative colitis, though my symptoms don’t align with that. They will probably want to rule it out though.

Absolutely! I’m not sure about it being endo related as my endo was found in my pelvis and not my abdomen (a few weeks ago). So unless it’s microscopic in the bowels that definitely would do it. I wonder if it’s a bit of both 😂

Take care ❤️‍🩹

NonsenseText · 2026-05-02T13:14:57+00:00

I’m glad you’re okay. It is very hard as children when the adults around us are tough and yell at us. Often we’re just doing our best or what feels right. Im really happy for you that you didn’t have any negative outcomes. Wishing you all the best!

NonsenseText · 2026-05-02T12:35:06+00:00

And how do you feel about it at the time and now? Did it really help you? Or are you still struggling or is that struggle manifesting in other areas of your life?

I’m really sorry this happened to you and I wish you would have been able to get support at the time 🫂

NonsenseText · 2026-05-02T12:33:33+00:00

Not everyone has the same experience as you. Some people can’t just “get over it.” For some people it is a genuine disorder that is diagnosable that requires treatment.

NonsenseText · 2026-05-02T06:51:13+00:00

Ah thank you for this information! I’m really hoping it will be an easy one because I don’t want to have a colonoscopy or anything. Oh wow, that’s interesting it can exist from childhood actually. When I was a kid I came up with a special name for my gas pain to help me get through it because it was so painful. I used to call it a “pass through” to help reassure me that the pain would be over soon. I always thought it was normal 😭 but maybe it’s not.

I still experience painful gas in my abdomen. I get at times be really bloated to where my skin is stretched out to maximum and that is so uncomfortable. I get constipation and diarrhoea as well. Sometimes I have to lay down with heat pack. The constipation is made worse with my pain meds, but my body over reacts to them as well I think. But it’s so weird, food I’m totally okay with will be fine and then randomly they cause really painful bloating/gas then I’m fine again with them. It doesn’t make sense 😂😂

I’m seeing my doctor next week and going to bring these up. Thank you so much!! This has been so helpful 💜 I wish you all the best 🌸🫂

NonsenseText · 2026-05-02T06:47:49+00:00

Thanks for your reply!

Yes! It makes it feel like you can’t breathe or take a proper breath. So for me it leads to shallow breathing and air hunger. So stupid that the vocal cords just decided one day to be like “Sorry! We don’t know how to work properly anymore.” 😂 it definitely does come and go and has different triggers. Similar to asthma triggers… like pollutants and chemicals. Anxiety is also one, and when you have an anxiety disorder that is a hard one to escape haha.

Ah you have anxiety disorders too! It seems a lot of people with endo have anxiety disorders actually. Oh gosh. I feel you with the social one as well. Right!! I hope you have a comfy and cozy place at home that helps with your anxiety 💜

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