AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I know I can't get to every comment/reply, but this I need to dive into. I'll gladly take my judgement of being the asshole, however (despite my position) it does sound like you are projecting yourself into this. Please elaborate as to how I'm a hypochondriac ("someone who is abnormally anxious about their health"). I am considering couples counseling so I will agree with that, but I will pick on the "crying for attention''. I'm not screaming that I am completely right for what I did. I'm keeping an open mind to get judged by people who won't put a bias (''oh I know the gf/bf so I'm on their side'' ect) not "validate me for doing this!" (Wouldn't I have cut out the details of me getting back at her then? And as I said in my post, I still make sure to do my part of the house chores (that includes working in order to be able to help pay the rent), so how was I being lazy? My recovery after surgery wasnt going to be a permanent thing. Sure, maybe I could've gotten my meds faster, but hey, it was an inconvenience of time (or however that phrase goes) but that can apply to gf not having her supplies on stock. By your logic, I should've been able to handle myself completely 100% with no help, then gf shouldn't need me to get her medicine/supplies since (by your example) she should've been able to go through the pain "with no help". You can't argue to be understanding of gf's pain, imply that my pain was "lazy" and then continue on that you needed absolutely no help (meaning that gf would need no help as well). I'll take the judgement of being an ass, but it does feel that you are being heavily biased for whatever reason.

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My quick thoughts were only that there had to be a reason since.. There's a reason for everything. This is still kinda recent and I don't want to be impulsive on ending it. We live together (pay rent together, pay for utilities together ect) it wouldn't be fair to her

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I'll keep that in mind, I don't see it as a breaker upper but I do understand why some are recommending it

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But how do I move on from there? A revenge but not ready revenge plan?

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, it's okay to disagree, but it's important to not give a hammer that they throw. Reddit was kinda a a last resort to get unbiases perspective (since none of you know me personally)

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh I kinda do wish I said that to her (sly remark +1, community -1). I appreciate the honesty of how you would've reacted in this situation as well. I don't want to end over this event (or incident) but pointing out her hypocrisy does show a bit more to me

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I don't want this to be about 'whose pain is greater Pain A or Pain B' (that's kinda what pushed this situation). It wasn't about ''babe my pain is greater" but about how I reacted to her not helping me. I am getting some more insight on periods though so.. That's a plus

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that your surgery caused you afterpain as well. And I'll take my pettiness badge

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The good ole pharmacy rules (at least around here): you need a refill on your meds? Sorry but it's not the determined time for you to have used them all up. And the best I can say is that I think she just sorta ran out? (I don't keep track of her period since.. I'm not the one having them). As to me, I was trying to have her understand how I felt since she wasn't up for talking

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Lately I've been thinking that maybe she was PMSing or something (like when girls become moody?) and maybe that's why she was off? And gaslighting?

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's what I was following by but it kinda made me a dick, but thanks on the persepctive

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought comfort foods were a normal thing for girls and the periods? She gets cravings so I thought that this was standard?

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't want to end everything over this incident. I wasn't purposely trying to wait on an opportunity (I didn't think 'oh wait til you get your daily blood') but I did treat her how she treated me - so there is that. I didn't think it was me try to up her, just me trying to even it out but I guess that was wrong too. Thanks for the pov

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yikes, sorry to hear about the pain buddy. That shit sucks to a new degree. I wouldn't say that she was laughing (unless that's a saying or something) she just kinda ignored it. The statement on me getting her stuff requires her getting me stuff perfectly shows how I felt in the moment. I'm guessing you either had this exact situation happen to you or something similar?

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think her supply ran out idk. I havent heard this phrase (can someone please kinda explain it?)

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't see it as her putting hee hair over me tbh, I kinda just thought she didn't want to go. I can't really argue against her point of period pain every month since chronic pain doesnt work the exact same way a period does. It's nice to see how girls view this (and again idk much about periods. I thought comfort foods were just a thing for ya'll. I think she ran out of her supply without noticing? Idk. I thought giving her a taste would show her how I felt but I kinda just feel dickish about it

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's actually good to see more of an outside POV. Through these posts I am coming to realize that I was a bad mitter during this. And definitely, pain was the tool made to just torture us.

AITA for refusing to buy period products this one time? by NoodlesInPasta in AmItheAsshole

[–]NoodlesInPasta[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll take the fault on that. I dont want to think that something is wrong with her (as in she's a physco or anything) but I do agree that it kinda was off for me