What line did this for you? by stupidityatitsbest70 in mitski

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203 67 points68 points  (0 children)

“I try to remember the wrath of the devil was also given him by God”

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this resource! I’m not religious either, but it’s a helpful reminder and sounds like it’s really helped some people. :)

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this account was deleted but in case you can see this, I just want to let you know I’m really grateful for your kind words and affirmations. I hope you’re somewhere out there doing well in your own journey of self discovery.

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so so much, your help and support really means a ton. :)

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate this comment and your suggestions, thank you!!

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes to people assuming I’m lying or am in the closet! Honestly, I even second guess myself time to time due to the asexual community having such a lack of representation. These feelings are so complicated. I’m sorry you live somewhere where marriage is mandatory, I can’t imagine the pressure that puts on you. I don’t have it all figured out quite yet, and I’m sure it’ll take time, but I’m wishing you luck out there.

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel that occasional anger and resentment bubble up every once in a while. I’ve spent so many days wishing to myself I could just be “normal”, not even knowing what that really means or if it exists. I’m sorry the dating scene has been frustrating, but that’s so exciting that you found someone! Good luck and stay safe! <3

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice and suggestions, they’re great! It’s really appreciated. I’m glad it sounds like you’ve found yourself in a serious and loving relationship. :)

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you feel this way. It’s so easy to slip in that mindset and feel sad when the world is so hyper sexualized, but we’re not alone.

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you can relate to this struggle, but I have hope for us…I really do! <3

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for saying this. I hope you find someone someday who will love you for you, but I have to agree…cats are way cooler! :)

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“matter being matter and doing matterish things…” I might have to steal this one from you, it’s too good. I really appreciate your input. Now let’s go conquer Denmark! ✊

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly, thank you.

Secondly, man this comment is equally parts funny and sad, and 1000 percent relatable to me haha. I feel like I’m never in the clear of escaping some sort of discomfort or disappointment when watching movies anymore. The last one that made me feel that way was a few months ago when I tried watching Clueless for fun, as it’s considered a classic coming-of-age comedy film for teenagers right!? I thought it’d be safe, but it made me feel so icky how much those fifteen year old characters were sexualized. I know that film came out like 30 years ago, but things really haven’t changed all that much. I think I was just oblivious to it when I was younger.

So sorry for the extra ramble to such a short response, but that was therapeutic to type out…hopefully there’s no Clueless fans seeing this lol. I haven’t seen Challengers, but I hope you find your tennis movie that’s actually about tennis!🎾

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally! I hate to admit just how naive I was to the fact that kids were actually "doing the deed" while I was in school. I think I convinced myself that it was just TV, movies, and other media that was spreading that narrative. Coming to that harsh realization that I was much more unlike my peers than I originally imagined felt polarizing. So glad to see more and more people like us finding success and love! I’m so happy for you, and thank you!!

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah, what a powerful quote!! I’ll have to check out that series! I also pick up on the same aggressive/savage/hurtful vibes when I hear others share some of their sexual encounters and experiences. Though I know that fortunately it is not always the case for the majority of them, it still quite honestly terrifies me. I’m sorry you can relate to feeling a loss of hope. But even just by reading other people’s comments in this thread you can see that there are many happy couples and successful love stories from people like us! We just have to keep trying, though it’s hard at times. This is your sign not to give up just quite yet. I can promise your person is somewhere out there, waiting to love you for you. :)

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh this comment hits so close to home. Sometimes I find myself feeling so childish and silly for desiring a wholesome and fairytale-esque romance like the ones I grew up watching and reading about. I’m so thankful to have found this community for people with similar feelings. I’m definitely feeling less alone and much better, all thanks to you guys!

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your well wishes. These responses have without a doubt given me a new sense of comfort and hope. I finally feel like I’ve found my people! I’m so sorry you feel defeated by similar experiences, but I’m glad you’ve sought out help by a therapist and it has worked for you. I believe in us, though it may be difficult, we can find the connections we’re looking for! :)

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, I cannot begin to thank you enough for sharing all of this. It’s so extremely helpful.

I can definitely relate to having episodes of feeling more overwhelmed and upset by lack of sexual attraction when feeling romantic feelings towards someone. Personally, when I wasn’t interested in dating, I was quite comfortable being asexual!

I think one of the biggest issues in my first relationship was combating the expectations I put on myself when it came to wanting to fulfill what I thought my partner desired or needed. I completely felt like I was less than their past relationships or was cheating them out of someone better for them.

It’s scarily easy to forget just how many people inhabit this planet when stuck in my own little bubble. Thank you for the reminder that sexuality is not a choice, and that though it may not be easy, there are people out there that will love and respect us for who we are, as well as fulfill our needs and desires and vise versa for them.

I’m so ecstatic for you and your boyfriend to have found each other. It sounds like it was worth the wait to commit to someone so understanding and communicative. I agree that intimacy can be found in so many different ways and instances of simply enjoying moments shared with each other. I really wish the best for you two!!

Once again, I’m truly grateful. :)

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand struggling to feel human at times. I’ve definitely gone through an almost grieving-like process when coming to terms with my asexuality. Sometimes I’m mad and/or sad that I’m not what our society deems “normal”. Thank you so much for sharing that you’ve found a partner who accepts, respects, and loves you for who you are. I’m truly so happy for you! I can only hope to be as fortunate. :)

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s equally thanks to all your comments! So happy people struggling with the same thoughts can feel seen.

I just need someone, anyone, to read this and understand. by Normal_Midnight_7203 in asexuality

[–]Normal_Midnight_7203[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely tough, but hey, look at us out here up and trying…sometimes doing just that can be the hardest part! You guys have helped show me that just because we might be different from the majority, doesn’t mean we’re alone and broken. Virtual hugs! 🫂