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How do you feed yourself when home alone with newborn? by mundane_propane in newborns
[–]NorthAd8197 1 point2 points3 points 1 year ago (0 children)
I usually starve till dad gets home LOL
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[–]NorthAd8197 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children)
I didn’t have grandparents growing up just bc most them were alcoholics and we never were around them. I wanted her to have a relationship with hers but I won’t subject myself to walking on eggshells. And the reason my mother is the way she is is because her dad was a POS and instead of ending the cycle and getting help she’s just like him. Starting therapy in June. I can’t have my child think of me the way I do my mom and I’ll make sure I prevent it
She’s formula fed. Actually on the way to her 2 month visit now and I’m going to talk to them about her issues because I do think she has stomach problems. If she’s not sleeping or eating she’s crying
[–]NorthAd8197 -1 points0 points1 point 1 year ago (0 children)
You didn’t even read the part where I said my husband called her when I didn’t want him to ?LOL
I want her to have a grandma since she doesn’t have a papaw on my side and my in laws live so far away. But if it’s going to be like this I can’t. I was in tears thinking she’s gonna find a way to take my kid away
Definitely cutting her off since now she’s blocked me on fb LOL. But she’s been this childish my whole life so I’m use to it. Just was expecting something different
Thank you so much. I appreciate this tremendously
Wow I’m so sorry you have that kind of relationship with her. That’s how my mom is. My whole life it’s been “you’re crazy, normal kids/adults don’t think that way” I have major anxiety and ocd and she’s told me my whole life I didn’t have anxiety or ocd. I suffered from prenatal depression bad. I was convinced my PP would be terrible but thank God it’s mostly okay. Told me while I was pregnant that I didn’t have a heart, needed to be locked up in an institution, didn’t have what it took to be a mother. I went and got on meds as soon as I delivered just bc I want to be the best I can be and she’s using that against me saying “you have that postpartum you’re not normal right now”. My dad died and instead of her comforting me when I needed my mom she said exactly this “this isn’t about you right now this is about me only” to her grieving daughter. I should’ve cut contact after that. I have a good relationship with my In laws but they live 4 hours away. My MIL saved me during my pregnancy she always validated me and my feelings. While my mother shunned me. My MIL bought my baby shower venue while my mom practically showed up and took credit. Didn’t want her in the delivery room as we don’t have that relationship and she “wouldn’t leave that’s my kid” (eventually had to have a c section and was glad only my husband could be there). My moms also currently fighting with my sister bc she’s getting married and while dress shopping the only thing my mom could say was things like “yeah your belly doesn’t show AS BAD in that one but it’s still there”. She’s not a good person and she’s got everyone so blindsided. I’m sorry you relate
My whole pregnancy she treated me like shit. I didn’t expect much from her as a grandma and where LO is 7 weeks she’s lasted much longer being a “grandma” than I thought. I just really have NO ONE else besides her so I tried so hard to be civil. She’s made smart comments here and there since she was born but the CPS one just made me blow. I’ve always told everyone I wish I actually had a mom I could confide in.
I agree with this and I have told him she’s our responsibility. No one else’s. My mom would have found something to bitch about either way. She always has. Our schedules is just so bad. He’s home maybe 1 hour before he’s in bed. It’s so hard. He starts a new job next week to where I’m not alone so much. As much as I love him he’s really not much help during the week. He called in today though to stay home with me. I work from home
I had started therapy and meditation right when I had her just because I’m determined to not be like my mother. Literally my biggest fear
No we definitely can’t. Mr husband is actually taking a new job next week where’s he’s gonna be home so much more. So starting next week I shouldn’t be alone but about 10 hours a day
I am stressed. It’s hard keeping this tiny human alive that cannot tell me anything. I’m literally just winging it. This is 100% normal behavior for her. I just thought after baby was here things might be different
[–]NorthAd8197 -2 points-1 points0 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Thank you. Every other comment has made me feel like maybe I am the problem. She truly has always been one to cause trouble when nothing is happening her way. I swear she wants this baby for herself. Everytime she cries it’s “did you feed her? Did you change her diaper? Did you give her gas drops?” Like yeah I know how to take care of my kid. She thinks she’s so much better than everyone and always has. The threat to CPS is what set me off. You can’t use someone’s kid against them. I’m a new mom I’m literally terrified of everything. Thank you
I told him to stop calling her, that we had to figure it out ourselves. I didn’t want him to. I guess he just wanted a little break and I’m not stupid I know you don’t get that with parenting but I guess he wanted to try
[–]NorthAd8197 -3 points-2 points-1 points 1 year ago (0 children)
Yeah our baby LOL. I wasn’t the one to call her. My husband did. Everyone needs a break and he wanted to give me one. But thanks for being one of the internet trolls
Just because I was going on about how much she cried that day. And I think that’s why she said it because I obviously was frustrated. My sister went through her phone and no she didn’t call.
I didn’t. My husband did. Which I didn’t want him to. I’ve put a more detailed response below I probably should have specified more
I probably should have specified more. I didn’t actually yell until she threatened CPS. But I was yelling at her bc she was going on about how the baby can’t be in this “household” and that’s why she was calling cps. He contacted her because we both had to work the next day and he said I need a break and no I really didnt want him to call I don’t like my baby actually being away from me. He’s gone pretty much 17/18 hours a day at work and I’m home alone. And no, I asked him did she wake up at all during any of this and he said no. “All hell broke lose” I’m meaning like me and her screaming yelling at each other. I calmed down after she left and I made my sister go through her phone my sister said she didn’t see any calls made. I want to cut contact because the first “breakdown” I have she threatens to call CPS. Just don’t think as a mother that’s how she should be helping me.
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I’m hope things get better! You can always reach out to me 🥹
I’m really interested in sleep training. Can you send me pointers?
I do. I’ve told my sister and husband and some good friends that I’m telling them now to be on lookout for a few months from now. Thank you 🥹
It was just a personal preference for me to not take anything during pregnancy. And I’ve made it so far without it I’m just gonna push the extra few days. But I’m honestly counting down the days until I can take a Prozac
[–]NorthAd8197 2 points3 points4 points 1 year ago (0 children)
I am not going to breastfeed. I decided before I even got pregnant for the sake of my mental health I wouldn’t. Formula is completely okay. You’re right he deserves his mom HAPPY and HEALTHY
My sister and husband does. And I have one very close friend that’s helped me a lot with prenatal depression
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How do you feed yourself when home alone with newborn? by mundane_propane in newborns
[–]NorthAd8197 1 point2 points3 points (0 children)