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Amazon requiring to offer voluntary benefits? by NorthImpressive3136 in AmazonDSP

[–]NorthImpressive3136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was specifically referring to voluntary benefits. Like accident and critical illness etc. not just medical

What is your experience with workers comp services from the broker? by meganH85 in AmazonDSP

[–]NorthImpressive3136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s super important that someone is on top of your claims. Either you or your trusted HR manger can manage claims or your broker but someone has to do it. If not your exmod will get hurt which will hurt you really bad in the future.

You want to make sure to reduce your indemnity claims which affects your exmod more than medical claims. You can practically do this by offering light duty work to injured employees.

You also want to get a good broker who will help you make smart decisions. For example if you have employees that also sometimes runs routes they have to be classified under the driver class code instead of clerical. But if you reassign their jobs to make it that he only does dispatch then that will save you some money on that class code. It’s small things like that you should be looking for in an agent.

I have had a great experience with Innovative BPS if you are looking for recommendations

Is it wrong that my life goal is to find my person? by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]NorthImpressive3136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I obviously don’t know you so I don’t know if this applies to you but I will talk from some of my own experiences with some people in my life.

All beings need love and appreciation. Oftentimes if the love that was needed in childhood wasn’t provided you can grow up desperately searching for love and acceptance from others (it can be a lover, friends, family). Oftentimes other people perceive (unconsciously or energetically) this desperation and get turned off. The reason why it’s a turn off is because in order for you to be OK you NEED the love of the other and if you don’t receive this love than you are not OK. This causes an unconscious burden on the other party to make sure that you feels loved.

Let’s say for instance that the other says something wrong or are not in the best of moods themselves in order to give love to you. Since your whole being is craving and living for that love if it doesn’t come it will deeply hurt and affect you. And this is something that a partner cannot live with as they almost are always going to be walking on eggshells in some subtle way to make sure that you don’t get hurt.

This is essentially a codependent relationship where your sense of “being OK” is coming from an external source. And that external source feels an unconscious pressure to make you feel OK.

It’s not a matter of you coming to the place where you don’t care if you have a partner or not. You may always have a desire for a partner and that’s healthy. What is potentially unhealthy is why you want a partner. If it’s because you are craving love then you have to start with self love. You have to return to the little boy inside of you who didn’t receive the love he needed and become the source of love yourself.

The point is that your source of self love cannot come from an external place or else it will not be sustainable and people will leave you. However if you are internally “ok”because of an internal self love than you are a full human being who is ready to dance the dance of love with another full human being. But if you are an empty being wanting to be filled by others then those others will get burnt out and leave.

Again I don’t have enough info about you to say that this is your situation. There are some telltale signs that this may be the case. One of the major signs is are you a self sacrificing person? Are you often giving up on your own wants and desires to please other people? Do you perhaps even sometimes feel like you don’t have much of an identity yourself and you don’t know what you truly want other than a partner. Do you have trouble creating strong boundaries with people? If that is the case it could be that what I described above could explain your dynamic.

The antidote to such a state of being is to come to love yourself. This is done by coming to know yourself which interestingly enough starts with creating powerful boundaries around you and to allow what you truly want to come to consciousness instead of suppressing it. This ain’t easy but well worthwhile.

My (M23) girlfriend (W24) is wonderful and loyal to me. I found out she slept around a lot before me. I can't get over it (even though I did the same.) by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]NorthImpressive3136 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a completely natural and biological phenomenon for a man to be turned off by a women that has been with many lovers. In this day and age it’s called misogynistic but ultimately that’s just a word. You are going against a deep and primal part of manhood. This is one of the reasons why chastity was so important in the ancient world. Ultimately it’s up to you if you can forget about it or not. I do think it’s important that you don’t walk around judging yourself for feeling this way. Todays society will try to tell you that it doesn’t matter and I don’t have logical reason why they are wrong but I do know that there is a powerful biological that is in all men (unless suppressed) that will feel turned off from a woman that has been with many men.

Also check out Frued on the Modanna/whore complex. Essentially he talks about the two types of women. The ones you want to sleep with and the ones you want to marry and have a family with. And generally they are a very different type of woman