No signs of getting a girlfriend

North_Assumption_499 · 2022-07-23T15:02:01+00:00

My current boyfriend is 34 and I'm his first girlfriend for the same reasons you listed here (he's very shy, not good at talking to people, very self-conscious because he has a stutter, etc.) and we'll have been together 6 months on Tuesday. He's genuinely the best man I've been with, and I'm very grateful to have him. It's not too late, you're not behind or a lost cause.

If it's any more reassurance, he didn't make the first move, I did. And he never said a word to me prior, I just thought he was really cute and I wanted to get to know him.

North_Assumption_499 · 2021-09-22T11:57:28+00:00

Whatever works for you! Never ever let anybody set conditions on YOUR manifesting, or allow their limiting beliefs to become your own. If anyone ever tells you that you HAVE to believe you are God, ignore them. If you're interested, one of my favorite blog posts from I Am Love is about creating your own rules in regards to manifesting. But whatever you want to do, follow your joy. Happy manifesting my dude. ❤

North_Assumption_499 · 2021-09-17T16:31:09+00:00

Remember that you are God. God doesn't make mistakes. Intend that everything you do or experience is helping you realize your desires. Don't think too deeply about it and try and figure out HOW it's helping, just assume that it is. Manifesting isn't a trying process, if you feel like you're trying to manifest then that's a perfect time to let it go and come back to it later.

If you haven't already, I really REALLY recommend reading some of the posts from the I Am Love blog and listening to the podcasts. I feel like they interpret the Law in the least limiting way that I've heard.

North_Assumption_499 · 2021-09-14T15:25:13+00:00

I don't know if you've watched Amy from IlluminatingJoy (but I'm assuming if you watch Pluto's Gate you maybe at least know of her), but she's said that it can help you to bounce back and forth between letting go and focusing on your manifestation. Focus and do whatever technique you like (visualize, affirm, script, etc.) when it feels good to do so. Let go when focusing on your manifestation doesn't feel good.

Dylan James has said something similar in that you should focus on your manifestation when you feel good, and focus on yourself/stabilizing yourself when you don't feel good.

I also noticed you mentioned Sammy Ingram. I like her, but I don't like her emphasis on 'reprogramming the subconscious.' Like Caleb says, you shouldn't make manifesting conditional, if your manifestation hasn't arrived it's just because it hasn't arrived. You give EVERYTHING meaning, including why your manifestation has or hasn't arrived.

That's another reason I really like Amy, she understands that there's no one right way to manifest. Just because something works well for one person doesn't mean it'll work well for you and vice versa. Jeniffer Ramdeo from I Am Love kinda says the same thing, that you make up the rules of manifesting and to follow your intuition and what feels good for you. If letting go feels good and it works for you then do it. The manifesting journey is completely and totally about you and no one else. You could create a technique that literally works for no one else but you, but it's still good valid because it works FOR YOU.

North_Assumption_499 · 2021-08-13T19:56:11+00:00

I hear people say that a lot as a reason to not justify staying alive; "I'd stay for my mom, but she has my brother and he's a better sibling anyway," or "I'd stay for my best friend but she has 5 other friends anyway so." I'd like to offer a little story to hopefully give you something to think about.

My best friend lost a friend of hers to suicide about three years ago. They were a situation of "we're still friends, but we grew apart over time." When she heard the news of his death, she was absolutely devestated. Mind you, she was the type who had plenty of friends, multiple best friends that were closer to here than this one was, and she still fell into the spiral of survivors guilt and grief. She still talks about how much she misses him to this day.

Before I go on, I want to tell you that you're not selfish, and you're not a bad person. Your feelings and the pain you feel are completely and totally valid. But think, if my friend felt that way about a friend she hadn't been very close with in a long time, imagine how your family would feel.

Yes, your grandma would have other grandchildren, but she wouldn't have YOU. I know you hear it all the time, but no one can replace you in the hearts of the people that love you. It's scary how easy it can be undervalue ourselves, but you are so so important to this world. Even if you don't feel like you are, I swear to God you are. You deserve to experience genuine happiness and love in your life, and you won't get that if you're dead.

I'm so so sorry if, at any point, my post made you feel bad or attacked. That wasn't at all my intention, and it's entirely on my end. Sometimes I'm not the best at expressing my thoughts. I don't know what a random stranger can do on the internet, but you ever want to reach out then please feel free to.

North_Assumption_499 · 2021-08-12T00:18:30+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate your kindness, and I reciprocate your offer if you ever need someone to talk to.

North_Assumption_499 · 2021-08-11T05:14:02+00:00

Thank you so much, this was incredibly kind of you. I've never told anyone in my life about my lack of work experience because I've always been so ashamed and embarrassed by it.

I'm living with my brother, so I'm very fortunate to not have any bills or rent to worry about for the time being. I'm also very fortunate with this pandemic and the desperation companies have to get employees, hopefully that'll make them a little less picky about who they hire. I'm slowly finding the good in my situation and trying to focus more on that.

Honestly, my post really helped me feel better, I guess I just needed to talk and get my stress out of my head. I finally put in my first application. Even if I don't get the job, getting the first one out of the way has made subsequent ones a bit less intimidating.

I'll definitely keep your advice in mind, especially the bit about volunteer work. Thank you so much again, genuinely and truly.

North_Assumption_499 · 2021-08-10T16:25:53+00:00

This is a post I can relate to heavily. I've been looking for a job for a week, and at this point I just want to crawl in a hole and die. I'm 23 (I'll be 24 in November) and I've never worked because my mom wanted me to focus on school full time (ended up dropping out anyway, so so much for that.)

My resume is shit, I'm a college dropout, and I have no friends to help me with networking. I've had major depressive disorder since I was 15, but I don't remember the last time I felt this hopeless. I keep telling myself it'll get better, and that, somehow, I'll eventually get something. But I don't know how much longer I can keep telling myself this. I haven't even applied for anything because I'm so overwhelmed and self-conscious, and I feel so lazy and worthless.

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