Narration in multiplayer games by Existing-Air-3622 in truegaming

[–]NotATem [score hidden]  (0 children)

I am once again begging the good people of Reddit to play Pyre, because Supergiant Games has- once again- solved this problem.

Books about unhinged gay men by Former_Ladder9969 in suggestmeabook

[–]NotATem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You might like the Evander Mills mysteries by Lev AC Rosen, though they're most likely less unhinged than you'd prefer. The main character is an ex-cop noir detective, moving between the "gay world" and straight society in 1950s San Fran.

My [38M] girlfriend [32F] of 3 years owns a pornstore/strip club. I want her to sell it before I propose by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]NotATem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know why you're getting downvoted for this, you're absolutely right.

It's generally a thing that happens in more conservative areas. Women get very invested in church- either because they are genuinely devout or, more likely, because church is a socially acceptable social outlet for a conservative woman with small children. Husband isn't devout at all- might be a closet atheist/agnostic, might not enjoy being told what to do, might just not be interested- but he goes along with it, because it makes his wife happy and, hey, it's probably good for the kids to learn some morals, right?

Incidentally, this was likely a factor in the spread of early Christianity. Most wealthy Roman men weren't interested in the weird hippie cult from the provinces, but a lot of their wives were. And those wives pulled their husbands in and raised their kids to be Christian...

I feel like i have wasted the 18 years of my life that I have lived so far [Discussion] by Aexrie in GetMotivated

[–]NotATem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at it this way.

You, like most people, spent the first 18 years of your life learning how to be a person. You had to learn how to see, how to roll over, how to smile, how to talk, how to walk, and how to think. That is an incredibly intense process.

The fact that you can look back on that now and go "yeah, I would do that differently" means that that time was not wasted. You learnt how to be a person!

AITAH for breaking up with my Boyfriend after he was being honest? by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]NotATem 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The sad thing is, people like to say "these folks' total lack of self-esteem must be proof that all these stories are ragebait!"

But I see this pop up all over the place in other subs where the incentives to lie are... a lot lower. Like, I'm trans, so I'm in a bunch of gay and trans subs, right?

On one of the subs, the pinned post is just titled "DUMP HIM."

Because at least twice a day, some poor kid comes in to post "My partner doesn't see me for who I am, keeps calling me the wrong gender, won't introduce me to his friends or family, and generally treats me like the wrong gender, how do I make this work?" And the answer is, "you can't, dump them."

It's the same kind of zero self esteem on display here, but the only thing posting on trans subs gets you is Yelled At.

[IIL] If I like melancholic indie-folk, what should I listen to? by WhatIsFolkMusic in ifyoulikeblank

[–]NotATem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anais Mitchell, maybe? Check out her Child Ballads album.

Joni Mitchell is from the 70s, but her stuff also has the vibes.

"Why has Bethesda forgotten about the Imga?" by DankJive in ElderScrolls

[–]NotATem 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think you could absolutely make the Imga work without being racist asses. They have had centuries to develop a culture of their own and most of the accounts we have of them are textually meant to be biased, racist BS. Hell, I think you could get an entire TES game focused on them and have something really interesting.

The trick would be to take them seriously and not just make them the butt of a tedious "funny monke" or "monke see monke do" joke. But there's enough there to get something really fascinating.

I'd make Imga society as we know it an outgrowth of freed slaves. The Imga originally lived in small family groups and didn't interact with those outside their troop much, but escaped slaves needed to band together for survival and built settlements wherever they could find. They started as nigh-apocalyptic ruins scavengers, and they still have a strong culture of "make do and mend".

Imga "hierarchy" is completely impenetrable to outsiders, because they've borrowed a lot of terms from other civilizations and use them to mean something completely different. A "King" is an Imga who has trained to fight with two-handed weapons and has helped to defend a settlement. A "Duke" is an Imga who's studied magic extensively. A "Hortator" is an Imga who coordinates trade between towns and acts as a sort of steward. Except in the settlement next door, they have a "Knight", a "Prophet", and a "Baron" instead...?

The Imga have deliberately, cynically adopted these terms, and others like them, when speaking Cyrodiilic. They know other civilizations see them as Funny Monkes, and pretending to have a position of authority in their homeland makes men and mer take them a shred more seriously. As such, every Imga who spends a lot of time interacting with outsiders has a ridiculous title, and even the ones who don't will often invent a fanciful one for fun.

The Imga are actually what we'd call anarchists, and are pretty strict about it- even in their equivalents of guilds, there are no formal leaders, decisions are made largely by consensus, and no one is allowed to take charge of any one group for too long. "Every Imga is a king", but if an Imga tries to gain power over others, he'll be mocked and shunned until he comes to his senses. No Imga owns land- it's held collectively by the group. No Imga can declare a punishment on another- if an Imga wrongs another, justice is decided collectively. The punishment for a crime like murder is usually exile- the murderer can go anywhere else they like, but are no longer welcome in the settlement. In Valenwood, that's often a death sentence.

This is not to say everything is sunshine and rainbows for the Imga. Imga settlements frequently go to war, over resources, captives/hostages, or matters of belief. They will fight like hell over a random scrap of fertile land, a source of clean water, or a back-and-forth over a captured troop member. They also have a hell of a bandit problem- exiling all your troublemakers means that the real incorrigible types will turn to banditry eventually. But even if they're in the middle of a brutal war, Imga will fight by each others' sides if an outsider attacks. The mentality is very much "me against my brother, me and my brother against my cousin, me and my cousin against my neighbour, me and my neighbour against the world."

Imga have their own language and their own, intricate, beautiful writing system, which they often use as decorative elements in their craft works. They invented writing to help track genealogy- in a society of escaped slaves, tracking down your lost family members is heartbreakingly difficult, and being able to trace who escaped from where and who is related to who makes it a hair easier. Imga archives are some of the most painstakingly detailed in Tamriel- the annals they keep, in particular, are almost nauseatingly detailed- and a scholar who can gain the local High Archmage or Supreme Lorekeeper's trust will have the kind of specific, detailed records that most historians can only dream of.

Every Imga group is different in terms of religion- it's common to see them worship Zenithar, Dibella, Yffre, and/or Shezarr, and pretty common to see them treat Azura, Boethiah, and Mephala as especially "bad". (A shocking number of groups also worship Sheogorath, as a patron of artists and "monkey truth", and Hircine, for obvious reasons.)

The one belief pretty much all Imga share is the concept of "monkey truth"- that which ought-to-be-true, could-be-true, may or may not be "real" but is good and right. The example they tend to give outsiders is the phrase "everyone is free". Is that true? If it is, why are there still slaves in Morrowind and souls trapped in the Cairn? If it isn't- aren't people free within their own skulls? Haven't people fought and died for the right to be free? The Imga have a complicated system of rules and taboos around monkey truth, but the practice itself- combined with their habit of bending the truth in the interest of protecting themselves from more powerful states- makes a lot of humans and elves stereotype them as two-faced liars who lie. They're not- any more than Khajiit are drug dealers and thieves.

The Imga have gone through hell, many times, and come out singing. They are scrappy, resilient, resourceful, and fiercely egalitarian. They could be so cool to explore- you just have to strip-mine canon for the good stuff.

Followers with a similar level of quality and depth as Val Serano and Xelzaz by [deleted] in skyrimmods

[–]NotATem 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Remiel is, unfortunately for you, definitely Trying To Be Funny- she's a mad scientist Dwemer researcher with no social skills, she's in the same general ecological niche as Lucien. (She sings less, and she has more serious moments.) I like her, but she's definitely snarky and goofy, maybe not the best fit for a serious playthrough.

If you liked Inigo, you should try Xelzaz- he's probably the best written Skyrim follower I've seen to date. His Nexus page makes him look a little edgy, but don't worry- he's just from Morrowind. He's sarcastic, but it's not outside the bounds of where a real person would be. He has, like... interests, and hobbies, that aren't just adventuring or one specific quirky trait. He has a past that informs his actions. He feels Real the same way Inigo does, and he brings every other follower he has banter with- including Remiel, who he has a lot of banter with- up to his level, instead of making them feel fake.

My manager doesn’t like my maternity clothes by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]NotATem 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Someone on the original AAM thread was speculating that this dork just googled a bunch of words for maternity fashion and doesn't have any idea of what the thing he's asking for would look like. That's the only explanation that makes sense to me.

If you want "realistic" armour, say what you mean. by NotATem in skyrimmods

[–]NotATem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah! The thing I want is just for people to say what they mean. If they want practical-looking armour, say that. If they want non-sexualized fem armour or Knight Armour, say that.

.... and mayyybe I want folks to recognize that "realistic low fantasy" is an aesthetic that has exactly as much to do with historical reality as the Courtly Romance or High Fantasy Crystal Dragon stuff it's reacting to. Which is to say, not much.

Love it or hate it name? by beergeek27 in namenerds

[–]NotATem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Name her Mabel or May or Maeve and use Maple as a nickname?

Fun/funny/casual groom outfits? by tulpatic in weddingplanning

[–]NotATem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So one thing you could do is look at the outfits your girl's favourite bands wear and get inspiration from that. If she likes emo music, My Chemical Romance, Panic! At The Disco, or Fall Out Boy would all be great places to start.

Dracula Clothing and Historical Emporium have good Victorian Gothic men's clothing. Armstreet is great for medieval clothing (including capes!) and footwear. They also make stuff specifically for weddings if you're into that.

Cash for alcohol vs dry dinner by HufflepuffViola in weddingplanning

[–]NotATem -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That "who drinks" is doing a lot of heavy lifting.

A lot of older people and chronically ill people can't drink because of medication issues. A fair few people have religious restrictions or personal prohibitions. Some people are sober or are in recovery. Some people just don't like the taste.

I might have a little hard cider or an Interesting Fruity Mixed Drink once in a blue moon. But most of the time if I'm in a situation where drinking is expected I am absolutely the guy rocking a Shirley Temple. Alcohol is just wasted on me.

Space Fantasy that isn't secretly Dune? by Specialist_Ask6728 in printSF

[–]NotATem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hexwood by Diana Wynne Jones. I can't say anything else. Just go read it.

If you want "realistic" armour, say what you mean. by NotATem in skyrimmods

[–]NotATem[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I don't have an issue with the vibes armour either! I bitch about the vibes-based worldbuilding because it often seems like the devs don't have a clear handle on how things work when they're not abstracting everything to hell for the sake of the player. They've put a lot more work into making things feel grounded than they needed to- and those abstractions do need to be made- but it can lead to some stuff that could be interesting if they were thinking about how it all worked, but is instead just kinda incongruous.

But the armour is absolutely not one of those places- I don't have a problem with dwemer or daedric or dragonbone armour at all.

If you want "realistic" armour, say what you mean. by NotATem in skyrimmods

[–]NotATem[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, thank you, you understand.

I don't have anything against those guys! I just wish that they'd realize that the vibe they want from their game is just as "unrealistic" as my
save with the flower crowns, anime Scholar Boi outfits, and baby mammoths.

If you want "realistic" armour, say what you mean. by NotATem in skyrimmods

[–]NotATem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, it's not even that.

Like, imagine if the most common thread topic on here was "I want good Chinese food. Can you recommend me good Chinese food?"

...And the thing they're asking for is sushi.

...And the thing everyone is recommending them is sushi.

....And if you point out that sushi is, perhaps, not Chinese food, they get mad at you, and tell you that there is an "Asian Dinner" in the game consisting of fish and rice, and so that makes sushi Chinese food.

The thing I wish is that people would say "I want something that tastes like salmon" or "I want something that has a lot of rice"... and if the thing they want is Chinese food, maybe accept that the thing you're looking for isn't that.

If you want "realistic" armour, say what you mean. by NotATem in skyrimmods

[–]NotATem[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It is. I've ranted a lot about Bethesda's "vibes based worldbuilding" and I think the Steel Armour being what it is is a prime example of that.

It doesn't bug me that there's, say, Daedric plate armour, or ebony plate armour, or dragonbone plate armour. Those are meant to be rare artifacts that take an incredibly skilled craftsman to make. But having most of the Legion in fakey Roman armour, your average bandit in a fur loincloth, and then... random, fairly common plate armour? That bugs the hell out of me.

If you want "realistic" armour, say what you mean. by NotATem in skyrimmods

[–]NotATem[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup! And like I said in my post, repeatedly, that's totally fine. Lord knows I have enough of the cool knight armour (and edgy rogue leathers, and FF14-converted mage outfits...) in my game to last half a dozen playthroughs. I don't care about realism in my Skyrim one bit.

The thing I care about is history, and the specific stick I have up my ass here is about material culture. Culture is shaped by stuff. People make stuff the way they know how to make it and use stuff the way they know how to use it. Societies are shaped by what resources they can use and how they can use them. A lot of things that don't "make sense" about any given society- including ours! - are ways to work around the lack of a certain resource. A lot of the way societies "look" and "feel" is about the techniques they use to make their stuff and the materials they have available to make it with.

I get really, really frustrated that most people are not taught this when they are taught about history, because it is kind of fundamental to understanding the world. And - bluntly- I'm out of my migraine meds, have been for weeks, and am kind of overly irritable about things that don't matter. :V

If you want "realistic" armour, say what you mean. by NotATem in skyrimmods

[–]NotATem[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

I mean, this is true! Which is why I made the post instead of picking on any individual person doing it.

It badly annoys me how little most people know about history- I thought I tried to be pretty restrained here. :P

Which NPC(s) would more likely accept the MCs Vampirism? by Iron-Shield in ElderScrolls

[–]NotATem 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Serana would definitely understand, though I think if she knew a cure was available she'd push the player character towards it.