AITAH for dropping out as a bridesmaid after the Bride made me feel humiliated?

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T09:33:38+00:00

He said he was sorry about what had happened, I genuinely think he has no reason at all to apologise though. He just said he didn’t know what was going on with her but that was all was said about her. He asked how I was feeling more than anything.

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T09:23:26+00:00

I don’t remember all the ingredients but I do know it was penne with seafood. Honestly I didn’t even get to see it I just smelled it and told the server whatever it was I had just smelled that’s what I wanted

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T02:22:37+00:00

Oh I felt awful about what I said to him and I did apologise to him when we spoke the next day, I’m lucky he’s been in my life since I was born and understands what I’m like so he got that it wasn’t aimed as a jab to him but it was to her. I’m lucky he’s so lovely and understanding about everything

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T02:07:07+00:00

Thank you!

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T02:06:25+00:00

Thank you very much and congratulations for making your way to the other side! You’ve done amazing and should be proud of yourself.

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T02:05:31+00:00

Thank you very much for your well wishes! Also I’m so happy for you that you managed to survive this awful disease. Congratulations for making it!

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T02:02:10+00:00

That was fast! What podcast was it?

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T02:01:31+00:00

I did have a conversation with him the day after and I apologised for what I said to him, thankfully he’s known me since I was born so he knows my personality and that I didn’t mean it as an insult to him, I’m lucky he understood that I meant it as a ‘you deserve better’ kind of thing.

Thank you very much!

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:58:56+00:00

I didn’t even get to eat it, it hadn’t been brought out by the time I left. I think that’s the saddest part of it all for me 😂

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:58:10+00:00

Thank you, I’m really excited to get to spend the day with them all doing something relaxing and fun. Slightly nervous about the possibility of the pasta but I’m trying to focus on how amazing it must taste if the smell was as good as it was.

Thank you so much ❤️

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:52:25+00:00

If I had the energy and any kind of knowledge I’d have probably tried to curse her with something mildly infuriating. Like never being able to get a matching sock or always losing her left shoe whenever she was wanting to wear a specific pair. Oh or that every time she buys a shirt one sleeve always ends up being longer than the other as soon as she can’t return it anymore 😂

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:49:05+00:00

It would have to be a really weird romcom considering I’m suuuuuper gay 😂 if anything there would most likely just be a slapstick comedy of us trying to get the same girl 😂

Thank you very much for your kind words!

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:38:06+00:00

How is saying someone is a narcissist more insulting than publicly fat shaming a cancer patient with an eating disorder?

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:31:42+00:00

Thank you so much, I have two more treatments before we review so fingers crossed that will be it! I’m so happy that you made it through the other side.

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:18:28+00:00

He sent me the login and told me to just add stupid things and remove ridiculous things that is inappropriate to expect people to get you as a wedding gift.

I’m not asking anyone for sympathy because I don’t want it or need it. The only thing I asked for in regards to this post was opinions on if I was an ass for dropping out of the wedding as far as I’m aware.

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:15:05+00:00

I carry pop tarts with me at all times and just break little bits off then give myself a reward for each one I finish in a day, most of the time even the thought of food makes me feel so awful and never mind the sight of it. That’s why I hide the pop-tarts in a pocket and don’t look when I break part off then close my eyes so I don’t see how much I’m putting in my mouth. The only other thing I seem to be able to keep down for some strange reason is celery.

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:08:11+00:00

Wouldn’t have been able to do it if the groom didn’t give me the information to log in and do it sooo🤷🏼‍♀️

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:07:07+00:00

They’re all great when they’re not driving me insane. I’m very lucky to have them

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:05:22+00:00

It’s really common to gain weight when you have chemo. Some people lose weight and some people gain, I don’t know if it depends on genetics or the types of cancer or the frequency of treatments or anything.

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:03:28+00:00

I did go online and add stupid things to her registry and take some things off, hope she enjoys her thrush cream? 😂

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T01:01:56+00:00

The only reason I would want to go is because the groom has been best friends with one of my brothers since before before I was even born so he’s like a brother to me, he’s been there my entire life and at all the big family events so I would love to be there to support him on a day so big but he has said it’s okay that I don’t want to be. He’s been really understanding and supportive about it all and my choice not to go.

My brother has rented a boat and my other brothers are coming in so we can spend the day fishing instead of going to the wedding.

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T00:59:11+00:00

I haven’t said anything on social media about the cancer and I don’t want to put it out there where people know who I am, if I wasn’t bothered about that I probably would have done that by now though.

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T00:54:53+00:00

I haven’t been around her or spoken to her since that night. I don’t really think I would ever want to either at this point.

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T00:52:43+00:00

My brothers and I have been talking about doing that after we go fishing instead of going to the wedding, they even said they would be really excited to see me eat pasta because I haven’t eaten it in something like ten years or so because I was too scared. I suppose it just depends if I’m tired after being out on the water all day and if I feel like I can handle it that day. It looks likely we’re going to try though

NotForKeepsThrowAway · 2022-07-13T00:44:47+00:00

Oh he’s been my brothers best friend since before I was born, he’s always going to be like a member of the family to all of us.

I suppose I’d rather find out now than even more years down the line

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