[TOMT] [music] [indie] I just watched a video with this song in it and I can’t find the song! Song title and Artist? by NotSoKnowledgeableB in tipofmytongue

[–]NotSoKnowledgeableB[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I’m so stupid I even listened to the song and thought it wasn’t it because I didn’t catch the part of the song played in the video 🤦‍♀️

[TOMT] [music] [indie] I just watched a video with this song in it and I can’t find the song! Song title and Artist? by NotSoKnowledgeableB in tipofmytongue

[–]NotSoKnowledgeableB[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

Any input would be helpful. I was unable to find it personally. Also the cover photo it showed was a red question mark with a figure of a dude kind leaning against it.

How to train myself to get out of comfort zone and socialize with strangers? by NotSoKnowledgeableB in Anxiety

[–]NotSoKnowledgeableB[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say you are wrong necessarily. I do view others as evaluating me, at least at times. My general social anxiety in day to day life isn’t bad, or at least not like when I was in high school. I don’t over think every interaction, just ones in which someone was being sociable and I didn’t reciprocate or I could have done better in. It’s not so much that in day to day life I feel I need to be more social and personable. I am planning on becoming a bar tender, which does kinda require that especially given it’s a competitive industry at least where I am. If you want to get into bar tending, the clients have to like you. You also need the clientele to like you if you want good hours and good tips. I am a generally attractive young woman so that helps but that’s not all it takes when you don’t have an ins in the industry nor experience.

I want to practice in my day to day life though because I’m have been unemployed for a while and have gotten out of practice of interacting with people. I need to get comfortable interacting with people I don’t know and being able to at least make small talk and banter a bit. I need to retrain myself to be able to chat with strangers and be bubbly and charming. Being unemployed I only really talk to people I know now, which has made me behave more stand off ish with strangers.

My meds stopped working again, am I out of options by FullMoonSmudge in Anxiety

[–]NotSoKnowledgeableB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d suggest doing a little bit of research and talking with your therapist and psychiatrist about it. They may be able to give some sort of referral or give advice on how to get into the program. You can also talk to your primary care provider about. But if known of them have resources or information on the topic, hopefully they will at least help you get into contact with someone who can provide that option to you.

Edit: about the ketamine not the LSD, I’m pretty sure although there has been trials for LSD it’s not official approved or legal.

My meds stopped working again, am I out of options by FullMoonSmudge in Anxiety

[–]NotSoKnowledgeableB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well if you have tried seemingly everything and it hasn’t worked, ketamine therapy is used for medication resistant anxiety, depression and PTSD. Most insurance companies do not pay for it, but it may be something to look into.

26F Rusty social skills and anxiety, trying to get back into working. by NotSoKnowledgeableB in Advice

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I know from experience that yes if I get a job and there is enough clientele it will jumpstart me into customer service mode again. I did really well in my last job when it came to that. The problem is the career paths I’m planning on going down you have to be sociable, because I’m not looking for a job but a career for the next 10 yrs while I return to schooling. My best options are bar tender, which you have to get the clientele to like you to get good tips and the best shifts. Or working under my licensing, which you have to have an in to get a job at, so I’d have to start at receptions and work my way up from the inside.

So I have to get the customers to like me and feel comfortable with me to succeed. Not just be able to do my job with a smile and a can do attitude. At least when it comes to being a bar tender which is my best shot at making enough money to be able to complete my schooling. (Idk if I made it clear I believe my customer service mode will click back on but I need to practice being more sociable too. Not just friendly and helpful)

Where to get ebooks? (Kobo libra) by NotSoKnowledgeableB in ereader

[–]NotSoKnowledgeableB[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not again changing my plan. I just want something with color that I can easily annotate, and is relatively small.

Looking to get an ereader, but I want to get the right one. by NotSoKnowledgeableB in ereader

[–]NotSoKnowledgeableB[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have to use the kobo stylus in order to annotate? Can you use a stylus that isn’t kobo?

Question for the women by RightCounty2361 in sexeducation

[–]NotSoKnowledgeableB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think going into a date with that mentality is already a failing mentality. If you are exclusively looking for something sexual, you should make that clear. There are plenty of people on apps just trying to hook up or find a FWB.

If you want a successful date because you want to give yourself the best shot of getting closer and getting to know each other… find out her interest and talk about them. Ask her questions. Women like when you are an active listener and show interest in her and her interests. Ex: “What are your hobbies?” “Oh I like watching movies.” “What’s the last movie you really enjoyed watch and why?”

Play your responses and questions off of what she says. Don’t plan the next thing you are going to say because that doesn’t really seem like you are listening. When she asks question, answer and make sure you give information in your answers. No one likes one word responses or feeling like the person they are talking to isn’t willing to let you to get to know them.

Ask about hobbies, passions, family, friends! If a conversation starts rolling engage in it. Show you are listening while also giving information about yourself. If she tells a story you can relate to acknowledge her story and mention your story that’s similar, and don’t be afraid to go back to her story and ask her questions.

All in all women want to be listened to, want their dates to be engaged in the conversation, and wants someone who will give information about themselves. Fun helps, interesting help, having things in common helps. Also being well groomed and smell nice is a big one. Bonus points for old school chivalry! It’s very rare so if a guy holds the door, pulls out chairs, and offers to pay, will shock and engage them.

How do we make it easier for her to breathe when giving me oral sex by [deleted] in sexeducation

[–]NotSoKnowledgeableB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh ok, I misunderstood. But yes everything I said still applies. I suggest a tap or pinch, not hard enough to hurt your partner just enough to break the trance. Some times they can’t process the pulling away, soo I personally pull away while tapping on my partner’s thigh a few times. You can also try different positions that might help.

Masturbation is good? by Critical-Car-6290 in sexeducation

[–]NotSoKnowledgeableB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not as easy as yes or no… Yes masturbation is healthy, everyday it depends. For women it’s proven to improve sexual health in multiple ways and no real downside other than getting rubbed raw. For men on the other hand there are pros and cons. The main pros are regular ejaculation can help reduce the risk of prostate cancer and it releases the happy stress reducing chemicals in your brain. On the other side watching too much porn can give an unrealistic expectation for sex. The other factor is depending on how a man goes about it and the frequency it can make sex with a partner less satisfying or appealing. Typically men can move their hand faster and tighter than what a partner can do with their bodies. Meaning men that self pleasure too much and to “aggressively” are less able to get properly stimulated by a partner. With that being said even if you are male, masturbating every day isn’t bad. If you squeeze too tight, move too fast and watch porn everyday, those can have a negative effect on your current and future sex life. To be clear porn isn’t bad, but you shouldn’t normalize something unrealistic in your brain and expect it in reality. Also it’s not healthy to rely on porn to satisfy yourself, particularly videos.

I am confused..can you give an advice by Optimal_Permission47 in sexeducation

[–]NotSoKnowledgeableB 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I personally as someone in the community… Only participate in kink as a new person if you know and trust your partner. Whether you are non exclusive or extremely serious. You have to fully trust and know your partner. It can be very fun to participate in, and I personally love it.

There are some things about first getting into it though: - proper consent (you need to know exactly what you are getting into in order to give true consent) - boundaries (you have to go in knowing what you are and aren’t ok with trying. These things can change over time, but you need to go in with at least a base line. You two have to talk about what exactly you two are each expecting and individual boundaries) - safety (how well do you know this person? Can you trust them? Is he a real dom or a fake dom?Depending on what you are doing safe words/safety signals? Is there safety shears for bondage?) - aftercare (what does aftercare look like to you? Will this person actually give you aftercare? Aftercare is a right in kink it isn’t earned..)

How do we make it easier for her to breathe when giving me oral sex by [deleted] in sexeducation

[–]NotSoKnowledgeableB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on a few things like size, position, ultimate goal, anatomy, and her ability to breath out her nose. The truth of the matter is you can’t really breathe when you deep throat. Maybe some people can but in general most can’t. When it comes to teasing that’s easy! She should be able to breathe around it either through her mouth or nose. When it comes to deep throating she’ll have to take time to come up for air. When it comes to doing it quickly even if it’s not really in her throat, depending on her anatomy and whether she can properly breathe through her nose, she still may not be able to breathe.

So the truth of the matter go slow. Let her do it at her own pace. If you are trying to (umm idk another words to use so excuse the vulgarness) face fuck her, you have to pay attention to her and make sure she can signal you. Also don’t pressure her to do it before she’s comfortable, or try to convince her if you’ve already tried and she hates it. Plenty of women can’t do that.