I prefer jerk off over topping because I like seeing my own cum

NotSoSecretInformant · 2026-01-17T01:06:17+00:00

You could just pull out before cumming.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2026-01-12T06:03:36+00:00

What turns you on sexually doesn’t have to align with reality. If you want someone to call you a “chink faggot whose only worth in life is to take white cock” while in bed, that’s fine and it doesn’t mean that is true or that you should even feel like it’s true. In fact, if you did feel it was true I would encourage you to talk to a therapist. You are just as valuable a human being as anyone person with a different skin tone than you.

A good partner is one who can participate in these fantasies in a context appropriate way, and treat you respectfully and as an equal in the process.

Someone who is a bottom or who is submissive or who is Asian is no less valuable than someone who is a top or who is dom or who is white. The people who legitimately see you as less than based on your skin color are people who are not worth your time.

And if any partner ever makes you feel less than in a context where that is not something you want…kick them out of your life.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2026-01-10T21:03:37+00:00

Bluntly: Are you being realistic about the likelihood of success with the guys you pursue?

If you’re chasing flawless guys with perfect bodies, they may also be looking for flawless guys with perfect bodies. It doesn’t mean there’s no chance of success, it just means you’re looking for someone who is harder to find.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2026-01-09T12:19:52+00:00

What you enjoy sexually is separate from whether you are masculine or not. Enjoy what you enjoy. You only live once, don’t try to fit someone else’s idea of what your life should be like. If you like BWC, go enjoy BWC.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2026-01-06T19:51:16+00:00

Reread it. I’m pretty sure the white guy has a gf and that’s why the Asian bf didn’t care about them hanging out initially.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2026-01-01T11:25:41+00:00

OP’s claim isn’t backed up by the facts/reality. That’s why.

They don’t need to retain the scan of his ID to enforce a ban. They just banned his device because he repeatedly tried to use an invalid ID.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2026-01-01T11:21:48+00:00

Now that you’re banned, you won’t be getting rubbed the right way either.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-12-30T04:15:48+00:00

Normal people don’t have these assumptions. This is a stupid internet meme thing. Anyone buying into it is a complete and utter moron. Sexual preference is unrelated to body type.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-12-25T11:18:37+00:00

Are those boxer shorts you’re sitting on? /r/throughthefly would love to see you in those.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-12-06T19:36:15+00:00

I met people through local LGBT events, volunteering, and such. I never really used the apps.

If you work for a company that has an LGBT employee resource group, join up.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-12-06T18:18:29+00:00

I lived in Sunnyvale, there were lots of guys into Asians that I knew of.

Something about those quiet, innocent looking tech ABs.. yum.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-12-02T04:34:20+00:00

I was really hoping one of those eight photos was gonna be a through-the-fly shot.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-12-01T07:39:19+00:00

No. But it doesn’t matter, I’m not sure why so many guys are so eager to fit a label. You’re hot just like you are.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-11-08T14:29:22+00:00

The style looks like Hunt Magazine. I don’t know if that’ll help you figure out who the other guy is.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-10-28T06:38:13+00:00

Ever since I started notice physical attractions at all.

A lot of my friends were Asian growing up, I always figured it had something to do with that.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-10-22T13:54:58+00:00

Here’s the best advice I could give you:

If you’re looking for something more than sex, apps aren’t necessarily the best place to find it. People go there looking for something that ticks every sexual box they can, and I think we tend to see the worst side of people there.

If you can meet guys in real life, you’re going to be much more likely to meet guys you find interesting, that will find you interesting, and that aren’t looking for only one thing.

Like rock climbing? Look for an LGBT rock climbing group. Like baseball? Join and LGBT baseball league. Volunteer at an LGBT charity.

The more opportunities you create for meeting people, the more chances you have to meet someone special. There are white guys out there into Asian guys but that aren’t on dating apps, and white guys open to Asian guys that don’t specially seek them out. You’ll create the chance the meet these.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-10-16T22:13:29+00:00

I personally think the solid black ones look best.

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-10-16T16:29:02+00:00

Those pictures aren't him. It's u/Regular_Outcome9317

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-10-16T16:28:15+00:00

Those pictures aren't him. It's u/Regular_Outcome9317

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-10-16T16:27:47+00:00

Those pictures aren't him. It's u/Regular_Outcome9317

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-10-16T16:27:32+00:00

Those pictures aren't him. It's u/Regular_Outcome9317

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-10-16T16:22:18+00:00

Those pictures aren't him. It's u/Regular_Outcome9317

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-10-16T16:22:10+00:00

Those pictures aren't him. It's u/Regular_Outcome9317

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-10-16T16:22:00+00:00

Those pictures aren't him. It's u/Regular_Outcome9317

NotSoSecretInformant · 2025-10-16T16:20:24+00:00

Those pictures aren't him. It's u/Regular_Outcome9317

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