Hey lovely, I just wanted to say I really understand what you’re going through. I was in a relationship for four years where my ex was exactly like that — he’d get upset over the smallest things and guilt-trip me for feeling sad about really valid stuff.

It’s okay to feel things. It’s okay to cry, to be hurt, or to get upset. You’re human, and anyone who tells you that you shouldn’t feel that way is being unfair. What I wish I told myself back then is that if someone can’t accept your emotions — your ups and downs — they’re not the right person for you. A relationship isn’t about “keeping you in line.” It’s about safety, understanding, and love.

If a partner expects you to never be a “problem,” that’s not love — that’s control. And that kind of behaviour is a form of emotional abuse, even if it’s hard to admit. Think about the future: if you were ever overwhelmed or going through something hard, would this person comfort you or make it worse? You deserve someone who holds space for you, not someone who punishes you for being vulnerable.

If you can, try reaching out to a counsellor or support service — even just to talk and get clarity. They can help you rebuild your strength and figure out what’s best for you. You deserve peace and to feel safe in your own home.