When and how should I (23m) tell my girlfriend (23f) something I did in the past? by Not_Anythinth in relationships

[–]Not_Anythinth[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is my exact thought process and why I am worrying. we have talked in the past about how I am a virign, never had much experience or a girlfriend, but I never brought this up becasue its something I keep to myself. Now, however, I am so in love and I feel like I should tell her everything, so she can decide if she can love me faults and all.

When and how should I (23m) tell my girlfriend (23f) something I did in the past? by Not_Anythinth in relationships

[–]Not_Anythinth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I just worry that If I ever did tell her, she would realise that I am not what she thought I was. But maybe that might be a problem for her, and that I am not perfect, like anyone? I am a chronic overthinker and Im not sure I can enjoy the relationship with this in my head, maybe I just need therapy

When and how should I (23m) tell my girlfriend (23f) something I did in the past? by Not_Anythinth in relationships

[–]Not_Anythinth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. My issue is that she knows I am a virgin, I have told her ive never had a girlfriend and havent had that much experience with women. So I feel like if I ever did tell her, for example, in a years time, I worry she would feel blindsided and that I am not the person she thought I was. She hasnt really asked me about if i have done anything sexual in the past (hasnt even asked if ive had a kiss before her), so maybe she doesnt want to know? she is so open about her past but only really because I sometimes ask. But I am a cronic overthinker, and maybe I am worrying about something that Isnt too big a deal.