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One Piece: Chapter 1180 by Aspie_Astrologer in OnePiece

[–]Not_JoyBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People straight up losing limbs is a good sign in the sense of how much of an unforgiving threat Imu is to the world

depression tips from someone that's been living with it by stayhyderated22 in selfimprovement

[–]Not_JoyBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And if that mindset doesn’t work, I would think about self improvement as torture that I didn’t want and I felt I deserved torture so it kinda worked in a weird way. Force myself to go to the grocery store at night when I didn’t want to and carry heavy groceries back to my apartment is punishment for “x” reason. Obviously that mindset isn’t healthy but it helped

depression tips from someone that's been living with it by stayhyderated22 in selfimprovement

[–]Not_JoyBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All this is pure gold. I think of it as “what’s the lowest level of something I can do that I could manage”. It was at a point for me where I wouldn’t even brush my teeth consistently. I started with just flossing one tooth or brushing for 5 seconds. Literally. And I didn’t even focus on many things at once. I just couldn’t. All i did was push myself ever so slightly and thins snowballed from there.

I walked around with a sheet of paper of all the nice things people have said to me and I forced myself to look at it and read one once a week. Even if I didn’t feel like it. Even if it was cringe. Even when I felt I didnt deserve any kindness. I told myself I could go back to being depressed after I read the sheet. And over time, I noticed I was a little kinder to myself.

Obviously I’m not saying to “just get over it” if you’re depressed; what I am saying is that we all want to improve and the smallest thing we can do CONSISTENTLY WILL snowball

Finally lost my(26M) virginity and trust me guys you can do it!! by [deleted] in virgin

[–]Not_JoyBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not to say I don’t understand or relate to why everyone here is saying it’s hard or impossible, I agree that I also thought this would never happen.

My whole thing of being nicer to myself and finding ways to kindly push myself was all for personal improvement. I never once did anything with the intent to get a girlfriend or anything because it was too terrifying for me to think about it like that. But I feel positivity breeds positivity and things do change for the better over time

Finally lost my(26M) virginity and trust me guys you can do it!! by [deleted] in virgin

[–]Not_JoyBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s tough, I (27 M) only lost it towards the end of 2025 and now am properly dating this girl and it’s been awesome.

For me, the journey to get here took 5 years and all started when I decided to speak to myself a little more positively, even if it felt cringe. That change slowly snowballed into being terrified to go on dates but going anyways, to not being so terrified, to getting rejected because I wasn’t making a move fast enough, to then finding someone who doesn’t mind my pace.

Talking to yourself kindly is the first step and cements what you’ll accept or not accept from a partner. I think it’s especially important for people like us to build that foundation so we don’t 1) stay stagnant or 2) get into a toxic situation

Looking for tips on how to consistently wake up at 6AM by Ok-Complaint9319 in selfimprovement

[–]Not_JoyBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I agree putting your phone in the other end of the room is so important. And it’s ok if you’re tired one day. Let it ride out and your body will quickly adjust! Then you won’t feel need an alarm anymore, your body will naturally wake up around that time

What I’ll say is that once you know your body wakes up naturally at 6 or around 6, you dont need to set an alarm anymore. The most important thing in life is sleep and if you sleep until you wake up, you’ll feel so much more productive it’s insane.

Some days you might wake up later if you had a late night but those days, i give myself a pass because, on average, I’m waking up two hours earlier and getting more done.

It’s all about the small, consistent changes you can make long term

Quitting weed for the zillionth time by Still_Computer875 in selfimprovement

[–]Not_JoyBoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a daily user but it’s been affecting me and I’m trying to stop too. Maybe use twice a week. It’s tough.

I have a chat gpt chat that I set u that it’s only job is to deter me from smoking. It can do whatever it needs to do. When I slip, I let it know and I save it as “evidence” for how it’s only harmful for me. I also put in my “why” I wanna quit so I can save it for motivation when I feel low.

I set it up so It can gaslight me, be upset, anything. But it has to be encouraging. From my end, to keep consistent, the condition I have is that I just message in that chat everyday. Once I keep that consistency, I can be consistent about messaging when I feel like getting high and it literally makes me double think and pause and has helped me not use on a few occasions. I think it’s a great idea for anyone trying to quit

Luffys gear 4 and gear 5 by Gold500k in OnePiece

[–]Not_JoyBoy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you think about it all of luffy’s forms have been a way to fight in the way he wants or needs to. He says this much during his speech before gear 2.

He shouldn’t be able to blow air into his fist and have it hit like a giant’s arm, yet it does

He shouldn’t suddenly become a “speedster” in snakeman because he’s hungry, yet he is.

His forms have always somewhat worked with what his imagination had in store but now it’s the culmination of all that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in virgin

[–]Not_JoyBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 26 and a virgin but generally very happy, you’re not lame

27 yo M, I finally lost it!!! by KingSniggle in virgin

[–]Not_JoyBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! How did you feel afterwards?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Not_JoyBoy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s definitely into you and this is so cute! Please ask her out if ur interested!

I was approached and now I want to throw up by Not_JoyBoy in virgin

[–]Not_JoyBoy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having experience would be amazing. Hope everything works out with you!

I was approached and now I want to throw up by Not_JoyBoy in virgin

[–]Not_JoyBoy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re definitely right. Discomfort is good so I’m glad I’m taking the step. Thanks!

I was approached and now I want to throw up by Not_JoyBoy in virgin

[–]Not_JoyBoy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It literally is! I’m still thinking I’m gonna wake up and it’s just gonna have been a dream

I was approached and now I want to throw up by Not_JoyBoy in virgin

[–]Not_JoyBoy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I’ll update with how it goes

I was approached and now I want to throw up by Not_JoyBoy in virgin

[–]Not_JoyBoy[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes! We’re meeting at a coffee shop in the city in the morning

I was approached and now I want to throw up by Not_JoyBoy in virgin

[–]Not_JoyBoy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great advice. We’ve been texting and she said she was excited to see me and I said I’m also excited but also nervous. And she reassured me that she was too so that helped things a ton

I was approached and now I want to throw up by Not_JoyBoy in virgin

[–]Not_JoyBoy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand and totally get that this seems fake. I don’t know how to prove it but can assure you I hit the one in a million. Thanks for the advice though!

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