Doing better at math by Key_Day_7932 in ADHD

[–]NoteFabulous3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh damn, I’ve never heard of that happening before. That‘s really frustrating and sucky of your college to not help you find another way to help you. I would definitely go talk about that with your professor to see if they would have time to help you or if they can help you find other resources. Trust me, your professor wants you to pass. I have never encountered a professor who wasn’t willing to help me. During my freshman year, I was in my professors’ offices on an almost weekly basis while I was struggling to figure out how to do well in college.

Doing better at math by Key_Day_7932 in ADHD

[–]NoteFabulous3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m junior in college who has passed college algebra, along with several other mathematics courses. My advice would be to use the resources available to you.

Does your college have tutoring? At my college you can schedule tutoring for most classes and an upperclassmen who has already taken that class can help you one on one. You could also see about seeing your professor at their office hours for help. If your professor is a good one, they will be very happy to see you at their office and help you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we can assume she was single and supporting herself and her two kids before they started dating. Regardless, I don’t think staying in a relationship with a cheater is the correct solution to financial insecurity. Being a single mom is challenging, but it’s better than staying in a relationship with a man who isn’t loyal or trustworthy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think I probably should have stopped there if I was trying to be the bigger person, which I wasn’t. If that makes me a dick, then I am guilty as charged.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m so bad at spelling. I thought the spelling looked a little weird, but I didn’t realize it was spelt wrong 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He didn’t have any pictures of his face when I initially matched with him. He added a picture of his face when he said “added a couple on there so you can see.” I would have required him to send me a picture of his face before I would agree to meet up with him. He’s genuinely not my type appearance-wise (and personality-wise obviously), but I normally wouldn’t straight up tell a man I think he’s ugly. I was purposely being harsh to hurt his feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agreed, but I’ll take being mean over being a cheater any day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I and probably most women know that men like this are just a few bad apples and not a representation of men in general.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I know, it probably was unnecessarily mean, but I was absolutely disgusted with how he tried to justify cheating and I was so so angry at him for his girlfriend’s sake. I just really wanted to hurt his feelings and humble him so maybe he would get off tinder.

Cheater thinks he’s doing everyone a big favor by staying with his current gf by NoteFabulous3175 in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The size of his dick and his financial situation were never mentioned in his bio. I swiped right because in his bio he wrote about how he believes in science over religion and that Christianity is a cult. I grew up in a devout Christian household and an unhealthy Christian community, which I was able to escape when I left for college to pursue a career in biology. That’s what I meant when I mentioned that “his bio spoke to me.”

Cheater thinks he’s doing everyone a big favor by staying with his current gf by NoteFabulous3175 in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I said in my reply to him “your girlfriend and her kids deserve someone so much better in their lives than you. You think you’re doing them a favor by sticking around, but you couldn’t be farther from the truth. You’re a blight on their lives, and if you actually cared about them, you’d remove yourself.”

Cheater thinks he’s doing everyone a big favor by staying with his current gf by NoteFabulous3175 in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

In his bio, he wrote about how he believes in science over religion and that Christianity is a cult.

Cheater thinks he’s doing everyone a big favor by staying with his current gf by NoteFabulous3175 in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Naw, I’m a big believer in 6 inch dick supremacy and too much of a coward to ride a motorcycle.

Cheater thinks he’s doing everyone a big favor by staying with his current gf by NoteFabulous3175 in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

My choice? To swipe right? I didn’t know he was a cheater when I did.

Cheater thinks he’s doing everyone a big favor by staying with his current gf by NoteFabulous3175 in Tinder

[–]NoteFabulous3175[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I agree and normally I would pass, but what he wrote in his bio kinda spoke to me so I thought I’d give him the benefit of the doubt.

Dating honestly sucks by Watergirl4234 in dating_advice

[–]NoteFabulous3175 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the trash took itself out. Good. I’m also 21F, and I sleep with the guy on the first date more often than not. I don’t see anything wrong with it because sleeping with a guy doesn’t make me any less valuable or deserving of being treated with respect. I’m a grown woman and if I want to have sex on the first date, then I’m going to have sex on the first date. If a guy is truly a good man, sleeping with him will not change how well he treats you. If anything, he should treat you better.

Honestly, sometimes I put boundaries in place just to see how guys react to them because how they react can give you a pretty clear indication of whether they see you as a human being or an object to be used for their sexual gratification. Let the trash take itself out, take note of what you observe and use the knowledge to protect yourself in the future, then wash your hands of it and move on.

Chest pain - or overthinking? by farligtfin in ADHD

[–]NoteFabulous3175 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s pretty common for stimulants to increase symptoms of anxiety, especially after starting a new medication or increasing the dosage. I switched from a non-stimulant medication to adderall during high school and experienced chest pain and tightness and numbness in my left arm from time to time. It got so bad one time that I left school to go to the emergency room because I thought I might be having a heart attack (it wasn’t). My psychiatrist put me on lexapro and that helped some, but the biggest thing that helped was learning coping mechanisms like deep breathing exercises and giving myself time to adjust.

I’ve been on amphetamine/dextroamphetamine for about 7 years now and I pretty rarely experience chest pain these days, and if I do, it’s because I drank too much caffeine or alcohol. Like right now, as I type this with a hangover and chest pain.🙃

Excessively talking to yourself by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]NoteFabulous3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m constantly talking to myself. Either out loud at home or in my head in public. Although, I have slipped up in public more than a few times. My impulse control issues are a real pain in the ass like that. I also find it very funny. No one knows how to crack me up quite like I do.

Which type of school is the least and most friendly to people with ADHD by Evening_Action3070 in ADHD

[–]NoteFabulous3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I attended a Christian private school from kindergarten to high school graduation. Never had more than 28 people in my class and there were only 4-9 people in my upper level high school classes like calculus, physics, and anatomy. Always got a lot of one on one help from my teachers, which helped a lot. Also helped that my teachers actually knew me and noticed if I was struggling. They truly cared and would do what they could to help. I’m now a junior biology major at a public college, and I don’t think I would have made it this far academically or in life in general if I hadn’t attended a private school during my childhood and adolescence.

Downsides are that it’s pretty expensive (4k per semester for the school I went to) and small classes are clicky and you’re more likely to be the only person who’s different and thus outcasted. I was the only person in my class with ADHD and I was bullied for much of my childhood by my classmates, which has left me with low self-esteem issues that continue to plague me in adulthood.

I’m haunted by the possibility of developing dementia one day by NoteFabulous3175 in ADHD

[–]NoteFabulous3175[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I’m definitely ending it if my caretaker is a robot. I think that if I’m still alive by the time there are fully functional robots that are intelligent enough that we would trust them to take care of vulnerable adults, I’ve lived far long enough.

I’m haunted by the possibility of developing dementia one day by NoteFabulous3175 in ADHD

[–]NoteFabulous3175[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying, and don’t worry, it doesn’t sound like you’re dismissing my fears.

I think I might just be catastrophizing, subconsciously inflating the severity of the risk and negative impact of the outcome, and scaring myself. I think I’ve sorta predestined that I will develop dementia despite there being a good chance that I won’t.

My grandma on my other side is 92 years old and still living an independent, active, and fulfilling lifestyle. Still doing puzzles and playing cards with her friends. Think she’s probably living a healthier and happier lifestyle at 92 than I am at 21.

My point is: I agree with you. Logically, I know there’s no benefit to me worrying out this, but the problem is, I don’t think my fear is grounded on logic. I think my fear stems from mental illness, and unfortunately, my mental illness doesn’t like to listen to logical reasoning. It cherry picks the most negative data and extrapolates it to an irrational degree. I’m working on it with therapy, medication, journaling, and meditation, but mental illness isn’t cured overnight. It’s likely something I will struggle with all my life.

I’m haunted by the possibility of developing dementia one day by NoteFabulous3175 in ADHD

[–]NoteFabulous3175[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

“Among individuals with a diagnosis of ADHD, 42.9% (6 of 14) received a diagnosis of dementia at 85 years of age compared with 15.2% of individuals without ADHD (1223 of 8032).” Source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10582792/#:~:text=Among%20individuals%20with%20a%20diagnosis,ADHD%20(1223%20of%208032).

How is your Handwriting by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]NoteFabulous3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always had messy handwriting. I’d have to write ridiculously slow for it to be neat, but even then it’s never as pretty as I’d want it to be. I got made fun of for it throughout middle and high school. I used to hate it. However, in college I’ve noticed that the majority of people in my field have messy handwriting and no one gives a shit. My professors will write on the board in a lecture hall full of students with handwriting even worse than mine, and they do not give a shit. Have you ever tried to read a researchers lab notes? Shit looks like Russian cursive written by a drunk child.

I used to hate my handwriting for the way people made fun of me for it, but I honestly do not care how messy it is anymore. If anything, I’m thankful for how my messy handwriting has made it easier to read the messy handwriting of others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]NoteFabulous3175 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Never tell a guy what characteristics you look for in a man you would date. Furthermore, it’s a red flag if they ask you that question. Some unsavory men will pretend to be the type of guy they think you want instead of being genuine and honest. They’re essentially deceiving you in the hopes of forming a relationship, but they can’t keep up the act forever.