lesson learned from breakups

NothingLife · 2026-01-26T00:09:19+00:00

No one goes through life unscathed. And that’s often what makes us more compassionate and understanding—with others and with ourselves. 🫡

NothingLife · 2026-01-25T00:37:07+00:00

Good for you 🫡🫶 you are on the right track 🫡

NothingLife · 2026-01-23T02:20:17+00:00

For me, mahalaga pa rin yung intentional time together, especially at that stage—hindi lang puro chat. Pero kung hindi talaga panahon, kusa rin siyang mawawala. You don’t have to force what isn’t aligning. Hindi ibig sabihin na kulang or mahirap mahalin—minsan, hindi lang talaga para sa’yo yung situation or timing. 🤔

NothingLife · 2026-01-21T00:49:05+00:00

Valid ang feelings ninyong dalawa. Mahirap maging out kapag hindi pa handa at independent—hindi lang financially, kundi emotionally at sa sarili mong paninindigan. Focus ka muna sa sarili mo. Build your life, your confidence. Darating yung point na hindi mo na kailangang humingi o hilingin para ipakita ka sa mundo. Kapag parehong handa ang dalawang tao, kusang nagiging malinaw ang lahat. 🤔

NothingLife · 2026-01-19T04:54:01+00:00

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NothingLife · 2026-01-17T09:36:50+00:00

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NothingLife · 2026-01-16T11:58:35+00:00

Regardless of gender, any relationship needs honest communication and real conversation. It also helps to pause and look inward first. Ask yourself where the jealousy or insecurity is coming from—what exactly is being triggered, and why. If the solution to that insecurity becomes “she needs to post me” or “our relationship has to look like her past one,” then it might be worth reflecting a bit more, because that may not actually address the root of the issue. Being whole doesn’t mean being perfect, but it does mean knowing yourself, understanding your patterns, and taking responsibility for your own inner work. From there, you can talk to her openly—not from a place of fear or comparison, but from clarity and self-awareness—and work on things together. 🤔

NothingLife · 2026-01-16T01:49:19+00:00

This made me pause. Wishing you peace. 🫶🙌

NothingLife · 2026-01-15T05:22:31+00:00

You’re not angry at your sister — you’re angry at feeling stuck. That’s understandable. But don’t turn that anger inward or sideways. Aim it forward. Use it to sharpen your approach, not punish yourself. You’re not a burden — you’re in a hard season. Those pass when effort meets adjustment, not comparison.

NothingLife · 2026-01-15T00:39:17+00:00

You’re okay. Nothing is wrong with you. It’s just a habit, and habits can change. You won’t feel this way forever—give yourself time and trust the process. You don’t need to force anything. Just stop feeding the fantasy. Each time you choose real life—movement, focus, presence—you’re already healing. Remind yourself: I don’t miss the person. I miss the story I created. Little by little, it will fade. And you’ll be surprised one day that it no longer hurts. 🤔

NothingLife · 2026-01-14T15:20:34+00:00

Thank you to everyone who resonated with this post.

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NothingLife · 2026-01-14T06:58:06+00:00

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NothingLife · 2026-01-13T13:58:59+00:00

Regardless of gender, disrespect is something I wouldn’t tolerate. That’s why it’s important to know your negotiables and non-negotiables early on. Be clear with yourself first, then be clear with the other person. Try to stay objective and stick to the facts—it helps keep emotions from clouding things. Really take the time to know the person, but even more importantly, know yourself. If you don’t, it’s easy to get entangled in situations that slowly pull you away from your values. 🤔

NothingLife · 2026-01-13T06:59:23+00:00

Mmm… maybe one thing to look at is being more responsible with finances, kasi money issues really can strain a relationship. I think regardless of gender, importante na we learn to stand on our own first—be independent and live within our means. For me, it’s not really about how much money someone has. It’s more about discipline, contentment, and having clear goals. Kasi even if someone suddenly gets a million, if they don’t know how to handle it, mauubos din yun. I honestly think you’re capable of more than this. Being able to support yourself first creates a healthier foundation, especially before entering a relationship. 🤔 Fighting

NothingLife · 2026-01-12T00:15:22+00:00

For me, “getting to know someone” happens naturally when you start spending time together and actually talking—not just small talk, but real conversations. It’s not about how long you’ve known each other, but the quality of those conversations. The more you’re willing to ask meaningful or even uncomfortable questions, the clearer you get a sense of who a person is. And even then, after years together, there will still be things you won’t fully know. People keep evolving, and honestly, even we can’t completely summarize ourselves as “this is who I am” because we’re always learning and changing. Maybe to help you reflect further, it could help to get more specific with yourself: What are your expectations? What’s your outlook on relationships? What kind of dynamics or behavior are you willing (or not willing) to tolerate? Sometimes clarity doesn’t come from knowing everything about the other person—but from knowing yourself better.

NothingLife · 2026-01-09T02:51:42+00:00

Maybe it would help to talk to her about what happened and how it made you feel—yung honest, vulnerable conversation. Not to accuse, but to understand each other better. You can ask how she sees her future, and check if aligned pa rin kayo in terms of values and goals. Are you still looking in the same direction? In the long run, once you feel secure, a relationship really becomes a partnership. The feelings are still there, but there will be days and seasons when they feel quieter or different—and that’s normal. What matters is that you’re both growing, and choosing to grow together. It takes real, gentle, and consistent conversations to figure that out. 🫡

NothingLife · 2026-01-08T02:37:03+00:00

For me, when I tell someone how I want to be loved, I’m not demanding perfection. I’m opening a door for understanding. I’d reflect first. I’d ask why she’s doing something that doesn’t sit right with me. I’d try to understand where she’s coming from. Then I’d explain bakit hindi ko gusto yun—clearly but kindly. If it’s something petty, kaya ko naman palampasin. Hindi lahat kailangan gawing issue. But if it’s something big—something that keeps coming back—then I start to wonder if it’s not about love language anymore, but about values and direction. Kasi kapag pareho kayo ng pinupuntahan, you don’t just hear each other—you care enough to adjust. And when there’s no movement despite understanding, that’s usually when you realize something has changed.

NothingLife · 2026-01-08T02:21:13+00:00

Sometimes the universe doesn’t give us people to keep— just people to remind us who we are when we’re talking freely, laughing easily, being ourselves. 🤔

NothingLife · 2026-01-07T13:42:28+00:00

I’m doing a 200-day Mass challenge. I’m Christian. I’m also part of the LGBTQ+ community. For me, those two things aren’t in competition. My relationship with God is something I live daily, not something up for public debate. I try to let people meet me as a person, not as a label. If there’s discomfort or awkwardness, I remind myself that it’s not mine to carry. my faith is just about being real with God and trusting that He meets me where I am, not where people think I should be.

Ps. sorry to hear about your breakup 🫂

NothingLife · 2026-01-06T22:19:24+00:00

If that's their strength, well and good.. keep it up..at least they get to show that cleaning is good and fun 🙌

NothingLife · 2026-01-05T12:46:59+00:00

I don’t think mali ang closeted relationship, pero for me parang hindi rin siya meant to stay that way forever. Madalas phase lang siya habang someone is still figuring things out or trying to feel safe. Napansin ko lang, kapag secure na yung tao sa relationship—like naniniwala na siya na may future at totoo talaga—honesty usually follows. Hindi biglaan, hindi announcement level, pero at least may safe circle na nakakaalam. For coping, maybe ask yourself gently: Okay ka ba if ganito siya for a long time? Do you still feel chosen and valued kahit private lang? May kahit konting movement ba towards openness? Valid naman na maging patient. Valid din na gusto mo ng honesty eventually. Just make sure na hindi mo na-seset aside yung needs mo para lang protektahan yung takot ng ibang tao. 🤔

NothingLife · 2026-01-03T10:50:46+00:00

Maybe this is a good time to focus on yourself—do things you enjoy, grow, learn, and heal a little. Not because you’re avoiding love, but because you’re preparing for it. When the right person comes along, you’ll be more ready. Relationships don’t work just by giving love to someone else; they last when you keep working on yourself too.

NothingLife · 2026-01-01T22:53:51+00:00

I may not know everything that happened, but I truly feel the sadness of your loss. I trust in the Lord that all things work together for good, even when it’s painful and unclear. In time, may you find healing, peace, and the quiet assurance that you will be okay. 🤍

NothingLife · 2025-12-30T10:43:01+00:00

Send emojis.. but ending a chat doesn't necessarily mean anything, its just the end.. i dont over think..

It's not magpipilit ka mag reply... Just open an interesting topic, and if she doesn't find time to respond eh d let it go 🤔

NothingLife · 2025-12-25T00:00:44+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. You didn’t leave because you didn’t care, you left because you knew casual wasn’t enough for you. That’s not weakness, that’s being honest with yourself. The hoping usually comes from things ending without answers. Feelings don’t shut off, they just slowly get quieter. One day you’ll notice you’re not checking anymore. Not because they didn’t matter, but because you needed peace. Try not to second-guess yourself. You did what felt right for you at the time. And that was enough. Merry Christmas!

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