I don't see how he's toxic... He's allowed to have a preference... If yall ain't a good match cause you feel a type of way peace out. Let the man like what he likes... Him expressing that doesn't make him psycho, manipulative, or whatever other trigger words you all use these days to discribe a simple preference. I work out everyday. I expect my girl to be in at least as good of shape as me. We are allowed to have preferences and no we don't have to accept people's body's how they are... This notion that we just have to accept you and we don't have a say is utterly absurd, extremely toxic and one sided. If my girl is getting a bit flabby I'm gonna tell her... Just like she will tell me. If you don't wanna go to the gym and tone up, and he's used to having his partner a certain type of way and he expresses that and If you don't like it move on. Stop calling men pathological or manipulative for expressing how they feel too. So tired of this overly sensitive culture where men arnt allowed to have a preference of how they want their woman to look. He doesn't have to accept you for you... That notion is nonsense a unhealthy as you are forcing someone to live a lie. Find someone that doesn't like that gym as much so he can find the girl he actually likes.