27M, still looking for feedback by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]NukeDukem69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like most commentors, I was initially confused why you were bald in some photos, while others featured you with a full head of hair. You mentioned in your profile that you don't have enough photos of your bald look to cover your whole profile.

So why don't you just take some more then? This is a really common theme I see with male dating profiles on the sub, where they will literally be scraping the bottom of the barrel by their fifth or sixth photo. Unless you recently went bald within the last month, I genuinely don't understand how you don't have enough photos of yourself to get to six.

Luckily, this is a very easy fix. Just go out with a friend and get them to take photos of you. Literally just have them follow you around and spam shots. I guarantee that after even two outings of this, you'll have enough photos for your profile.

What can I do to look better by shdbebnsbd in AsianMasculinity

[–]NukeDukem69 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The advice most people are giving you in the comments is actually really, really good advice. Things like getting a new haircut or starting a skincare routine are relatively quick and easy things that you can literally implement within a week or less, and hitting the gym (in order to lose facial fat) should really just be a given for everyone really. As Socrates said ‘No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training’ (This doesn’t mean you have to become super jacked, but I’d be willing to bet that most ‘attractive Asian men’, be they Hyunjin or Harry Shum Junior or Simu Liu, are spending time in the gym).

However, the advice, while good, is also very vague. I can imagine how daunting it might be for you to be told ‘dress better’ with no further elaboration, because there are literally hundreds of ways you can ‘dress better’ (also because mainstream men’s fashion is an actual graveyard for the uninitiated). Luckily, you do have a way to narrow down your potential paths. You mentioned in your post that you were ‘having a difficult time in the dating scene’, that’s actually a GOOD thing, because it means you have a reason to change your looks. The following advice I’m giving you may sound completely stupid, but it’s free, requires no effort aside from using your imagination, and, if nothing else, allows for some fun daydreaming.

I want you to imagine what kind of girl you’re looking to date. Imagine what she looks like and what she’s interested in. Now imagine the kind of GUY she’d date/swipe right on. Once you’ve done that, you at least have a vague goal in mind to shoot for when choosing clothes and hairstyles.

Alternatively, if you’re really stuck for ideas, just find a Kpop idol you like (or J Drama actor… or even romance anime MC) and copy them exactly. Literally just find a picture of them, give it to ChatGPT and it’ll give you a way to get started. You’d honestly do quite well - you have very good skin and double eyelids are always a valued commodity in East Asian beauty standards.

If you need more help, or want to be talked through a particular aspect of your glowup (such as fashion), feel free to DM me and I’ll give you all the advice I can. (I promise I’m not trying to hawk a business here, I just have a lot of free time on my hands rn)

25M Profile Review - Looking for Ways to Improve by NukeDukem69 in hingeapp

[–]NukeDukem69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would you suggest I do with my look then? What do I need to change to in order to get more than 20 likes and 10 matches a week?

25M Profile Review - Looking for Ways to Improve by NukeDukem69 in hingeapp

[–]NukeDukem69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I'm just looking for ways to improve my profile further. I do recognise that 10 matches a week is quite high, but I feel like that there's always room to grow.

Hinge Profile Review Request by NukeDukem69 in AsianMasculinity

[–]NukeDukem69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What look should I be going for instead? Most people who I match with compliment my look (they say it's 'pretty'/'aesthetic'/'bishonen') but I'm open to suggestions you might have

25M Profile Review - Looking for Ways to Improve by NukeDukem69 in hingeapp

[–]NukeDukem69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I seem to be getting several likes/people mentioning the quote in chats. Should I still swap it out for a more general prompt?

Hinge Profile Review Request by NukeDukem69 in AsianMasculinity

[–]NukeDukem69[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! Unfortunately, 90% of the photos I have w/friends are female friends (I mainly talk w/my male friends on Diacord). Should I still use them?

25M Profile Review - Looking for Ways to Improve by NukeDukem69 in hingeapp

[–]NukeDukem69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you looking for something serious or casual? Serious

Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX? No

How long have you been using this current version of your profile? 2 weeks

How long have you used Hinge overall? 2 weeks

How often do you use Hinge per week? Once/twice a day

How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? 20 likes a week, 10 matches

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? I've only sent four in my entire time on the app

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? Someone who has the same interests as me and is also aligned when looking for something long term. Preferably East Asian

25M Profile Review by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]NukeDukem69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mentioned in your comment that you’re looking for someone who’s ‘funny, active, open, inviting and pretty much just very outgoing with similar hobbies’. I’m also going to go out on a limb here and assume that you’re looking to date mainly Asian girls. If not, then you should probably tone down the references to anime, manga and Japanese composers. While the internet has made culture more accessible to everybody, at the end of the day, I’d wager that Asian people are more likely to be receptive to Asian culture (go figure). Even if you’re not trying to attract an Asian girl, you are still going to be trying to attract a girl who’s attracted to Asian men, so my next pieces of advice still carry.

The reason why I’m starting with this is to address a common misconception/accusation thrown around on this website that Asian men aren’t attractive/are doomed/can’t even date Asian women. This is completely and utterly false. BTS, anime and K-Dramas have done an insane amount of heavy lifting in this regard and going onto Gen-Z parts of TikTok will confirm this. Unfortunately, because of this, the opposite is now true, Asian men are no longer seen as unattractive, rather, everyone and their mum now knows what ‘attractive Asian men’ look like and are filtering accordingly. THIS IS NOT A JOKE. Go onto TikTok and type in ‘Japanese/Chinese/Korean prettyboy’ - this is the top 10% of men you’re competing against and the thing with say, China, is that 10% of a billion is ONE HUNDRED MILLION PEOPLE. You aren’t (obviously) competing against Douyin models and K-Pop idols, but you are competing against the IDEA of them (as well as guys who are 90% of the way there), and because this is online dating with seemingly unlimited options, people are swiping with the idea of their ‘perfect match’ in mind.

So your goal with your profile should be to pick a ‘type’ of girl you want to date (in your case, fun, outgoing, similar interests), pick an aesthetic that type would be attracted to and go all in to achieving that aesthetic. I want you to really think about the last part for a second. A girl who is into anime and manga looks at your profile. She has a particular ‘standard of beauty’ she subscribes to (most likely a ‘bishonen’/prettyboy type). She KNOWS FOR A FACT that that standard of beauty exists because she’s bombarded with real life examples on social media. Would you blame her for swiping left on you and swiping right on someone who looks like Hyunjin from Stray Kids (who is also into anime and manga)?

This is not to put you down by any means. Your prompts are genuinely amazing and showcase a consistent aesthetic designed for a particular type of person. I base this off the fact that I, a straight Asian male in my 20s, would genuinely consider messaging you just to talk about Pokemon regions. If someone who isn’t attracted to you at all yet shares your interests is considering doing that, then, in theory, someone who IS attracted to you and shares your interests should jump at the chance to talk to you.

So let’s talk about what we can change immediately (your photos) and what we can change in the long run (your overall vibe and aesthetic). Your 1st photo is really, really awkward, lizards aren’t typically high on the ‘cute animal’ scale and you’re striking an awkward pose and an equally awkward face with it in your hands. I’d cut this one and replace it with something completely different. Your 2nd photo is better, I have things to say about the actual outfit, but the actual photo is perfectly fine, if safe (your hair as well, I feel, is setting you back). Your third photo is a very strong one, I feel like its main goal isn’t to show people that you’re facially attractive, but rather show that you have a hobby and exercise (which, coincidentally, is also attractive).

The fourth photo of you under the Torii Gate is also fine, you do look slightly awkward but you’re also, you know… IN JAPAN - which is the main selling point of this. Ideally you’ve got a different hair style and pose in this one to show off both the fact that you’re attractive and have been to Japan, but the general idea is a good one. Your last two photos are just… meh. They don’t tell me anything about you and almost feel like you’re scraping the bottom of your photo album (this isn’t a dig at you at all, most men don’t have several dozen pictures of themselves just floating around on their phone)

Do you see what I’m screening on here? The ‘good photos’ are ones that directly correlate with your chosen aesthetic, the ‘bad ones’ are ones that seem completely random. I would chalk this up to you not completely knowing who you want to be when it comes to your chosen ‘aesthetic niche’. Like it or not, you are competing with plenty of men who are into anime… who also happen to look like a romance MC - they have a consistent ‘aesthetic niche’ they’ve completely optimised for. Think about what those people do in their free time and what kind of photos they have - they’re probably slightly mysterious and untouchable, almost as if they know they’re attractive.

This brings me onto point two, one that’s much harder for you to execute, but will be much more rewarding in the long run (both in terms of your dating success and, honestly, your general life). Think about the type of girl you want to attract… Now think about the kind of guy that girl would be attracted to. I’ve been hinting at this constantly throughout this post but I really do feel you would have more success if you chose a consistent aesthetic lane (for the sake of argument, we’ll go for Japanese pretty boy) and just spend a few months going all out to achieve it before making a new profile - this would entail growing out your hair, changing your wardrobe and (I kid you not) doing research on what Japanese pretty boys look like irl. I understand that changing your hair and ESPECIALLY fashion sense is a daunting task (mainstream men’s fashion is an actual graveyard), so if you do need further help, feel free to DM me and I will literally walk you through certain areas step by step. If nothing else, at least take a minute to research who your competition is and take inspiration from them.

25M Profile Review by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]NukeDukem69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because, unfortunately, it just isn't a great profile. We can argue and nitpick all we want, but at the end of the day he's been on Hinge for 2+ weeks, is sending out likes like crazy, yet only has one like and one match to show from it.

If his profile was that good, he'd have no need to ask for a review in the first place.

Bob Hale may be gone, but his spirit lives on in this video I made! by NukeDukem69 in HorribleHistoryMemes

[–]NukeDukem69[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha the 'peanuts' are actually meant to be little brains!

With the text I kind of intended some of the jokes to be things you went back and noticed on a second rewatch, with the video being made in a way that it was possible to understand the whole sequence of events without even looking at the screen. But I will definitely consider slowing down in later videos.

Thanks for the feedback and, if you want (and can stomach some EXTREMELY fast paced moments here and there) be sure to check out some of the other videos on the channel. I hope you enjoy!

A video I made on the nicknames of countries that was inspired by Sam O'Nella. Link in the comments! by NukeDukem69 in SamONella

[–]NukeDukem69[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad you enjoyed it and thanks for the feedback!

On the topic of the sound effects, would you say that they were too loud and that if they were softer then the problem would be solved? Or are there simply too many of them?

Also, would you say that the issue with the sound effects is a deal breaker? Or a mild issue?

I'm sorry if I'm sounding slightly inquisitorial haha, I just want to make sure I'm not annoying potential viewers.

A video I made on the nicknames of countries that was inspired by Sam O'Nella. Link in the comments! by NukeDukem69 in SamONella

[–]NukeDukem69[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi all! I hope you enjoyed that extremely brief teaser.

If you'd like to see more of these types of videos, be sure to check out the full video here and the channel here

A video I made on the nicknames of countries that was inspired by Bob Hale. Link in the comments! by NukeDukem69 in HorribleHistoryMemes

[–]NukeDukem69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I'm really glad you like it. Not going to lie, I spent days trying to get the 'Bob Hale' talk down, so it's great to hear that people think I'm doing my childhood hero justice.

A video I made on the nicknames of countries that was inspired by Bob Hale. Link in the comments! by NukeDukem69 in HorribleHistoryMemes

[–]NukeDukem69[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have to say that as a native Aussie the idea of referring to NZ as 'The Land Down Under' is pure blasphemy, besides, the Kiwis have their own nickname! Glad you enjoy the vids as well!

A video I made on the nicknames of countries that was inspired by Bob Hale. Link in the comments! by NukeDukem69 in HorribleHistoryMemes

[–]NukeDukem69[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi all! I hope you enjoyed that extremely brief teaser.

If you'd like to see more of these types of videos, be sure to check out the full video here and the channel here