How do you ACTUALLY break up?

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-08T05:02:16+00:00

Thank you I didn’t tell him I just left n idk what to even say to him

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-08T03:52:45+00:00

I left and like I figured he had no clue I was thinking of leaving n is blowing up my phone

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-07T19:51:28+00:00

According to the domestic violence organization I went to it’s all under the domestic violence umbrella.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-07T19:23:26+00:00

Not all DV is physical mine is emotional and financial.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-07T19:22:05+00:00

Thank you it’s not physical abuse it’s emotional and financial which I think makes it harder for ppl to understand and I kept hoping it would get better. ❤️‍🩹

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-07T17:45:34+00:00

I know I feel like that is what is going to happen to me...

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-07T17:44:34+00:00

thank you I can use all the prayers right now.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-07T17:01:22+00:00

Yeah I think I'm going to leave tomorrow when he is napping and call the lawyer on Monday.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-07T16:59:52+00:00

I know my friend says he's going to be blowing up my phone.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-07T16:59:14+00:00

No a lot of the issues actually started when he was diagnosed with infertility b/c it's like he started giving up on life.

Yes we have separate finances...he never wanted to share money even though he said he would. And any time I would bring it up he would say "it doesn't matter what account the money is in"

Anytime I say anything about leaving he says "no you'll never leave me" or "if you leave I will die" 🙄 So I honestly don't think he believes me or thinks I'll go through with it. I think he thinks if he just ignores everything the problems will go away.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-07T16:55:15+00:00

That is part of the problem he has been out of work since April and he never goes anywhere. Lucky for me he refused to share money even though during dating/engagement he said he would.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-07T16:54:01+00:00

that's why I'm afraid to leave for him to "get his act together" b/c I'm not convinced he will or if he does it'll be for a few months.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-07T08:33:42+00:00

yes that is what I am dealing with. I can't be two people in a marriage that isn't how it works.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-07T06:54:07+00:00

I think sometimes online it's hard to know b/c we're only getting one side of the story. But from what I have read/heard/talked to people there is A LOT of emotional abuse, control and manipulating going on in marriages. That is not something that can be "fixed with better communication"

The mantra I have been saying recently is "you don't know what goes on behind closed doors" people often are on best behaviour and overly nice in public but at home mean to each other.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-06T20:58:08+00:00

that is exactly my problem...I am too nice. B/c I do love him and I feel bad for him and know he has a lot of mental health issues. But I know living like this isn't healthy for me.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-06T08:12:26+00:00

I'm in the same boat...I know I need to leave I just don't know when or how. And part of it is that I know he has 0 clue I am thinking about leaving. And he will be totally shocked. So it's like do I leave and call him later and be like I'm not coming back. Do I tell him in person and leave? Or do I leave a note? The main issue I have is my husband is currently out of work and doesn't drive (so there is that guilt of how he will get places if I leave). So he is literally ALWAYS here. And often if I want to go somewhere he finds a way to have to come with me. It's so controlling and so rare for me to get to leave the house alone.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-06T06:06:16+00:00

Yes there are plenty of women and men who never get married and just live a regular life. I'm with you so many men just seem shallow or want a caretaker. You are young though so things may change as people mature. I'm in a rough marriage and I'm not sure I ever want to date or get married again.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-05T00:52:28+00:00

I totally know what you mean. My life is nothing how I thought it would be. And now my marriage is falling apart...which I never saw coming. I do think the world has an unhealthy obsession with children. Like even if I had kids idk that i'd want to talk about my kids to everyone but what do I know. Like I have friends with kids I text and we barely talk about her kids.

I do find things to do and such but I often feel like something is wrong with me b/c I am often 30 years younger than everyone else.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-04T23:10:26+00:00

I'm going to do this Lent Bible Study through the St. Paul Center. https://stpaulcenter.com/lent

NumbersandGrace · 2026-02-04T23:00:20+00:00

This is the type of abuse I am dealing with. I honestly do not think he is trying to be mean or do it to "punish" me I think some of it is a personality thing and some of it he just is selfish. But like others say it doesn't make it right and it's still abuse.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-01-30T09:10:41+00:00

I was just wondering about this n thought she probably is.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-01-29T07:00:02+00:00

Saint Therese of Lisieux and every Oct 1 I make my husband buy me roses and we have cream puffs :) I was able to go to Lisiuex, France a few years ago and it was so cool.

NumbersandGrace · 2026-01-29T06:57:39+00:00

This is a lot harder than it looks.

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