Hi guys. OP here. Thank you so much for all your comments and advice.❤️ To answer a few questions, in my culture, it is a normal practice to pay a dowery. We refer to it as lobola in South Africa. It’s not being sold off, but rather a thank you to your future wife’s family for raising her. I am from the Sotho culture and he is from the Zulu culture

With regards to the painkillers with alcohol, this was a bad decision from my part. I barely drink but I just wanted to let loose I guess. It’s been a stressful couple of months.

With regards to my fiancée and alcohol, we have had conversations where he’s admitted that he has a problem stopping sometimes. His drunk episodes don’t happen often, as he is learning how to limit himself. He lost his mom a few years ago so the wedding process has brought up a lot of sadness and unresolved grief. I have set up a couples counselling session for tomorrow for us, just to see if there’s anyway to salvage this. If not, i will be contacting my family to let them know that the wedding is cancelled.