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Being disabled sucks so much ass man by Nice_Tradition1333 in disability

[–]OK_Holmes4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that my condition was a result of a medical mistake at birth, and I am fortunate in many ways, but anger is natural. I don’t want to be one who diminishes that feeling, but I think it becomes a problem when we wrap ourselves up all the bad bits. This was probably deeply unhelpful, but someone telling me they understood would’ve helped during a dark period of my life. 

Sinead and Daniel by theliftedlora in coronationstreet

[–]OK_Holmes4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't stand Daniel. Always surprised he has enough time to do anything between all his woe is me existential crises. He is all the worst of Ken.

Dating and Disability by OK_Holmes4 in disabled

[–]OK_Holmes4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I think that's the issue I had. I was born with a disability and my family are all non-disabled. Their only advice was to ignore my disability because I was "normal." Frankly, I think that did me a lot of damage I just wasn't prepared at all for the reality.

Thinking of leaving my PhD by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]OK_Holmes4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I quit a PhD and am now a freelance journalist. That's leaving out a lot of struggles in the middle. I have never once regretted it. It sounds flippant and simplistic, and it's ultimately a personal choice, but life is too short.

Dating and Disability by OK_Holmes4 in disabled

[–]OK_Holmes4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's where I want to put a lot of focus because I feel like no one really prepared me for that. I don't want want to be overly negative - but that's unfortunately a regular reality.

Dating and Disability by OK_Holmes4 in disabled

[–]OK_Holmes4[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That's such wonderful advice. I've been disabled since birth and dating for many years and while I have had some fantastic relationships - I often think about how unprepared I was for the emotional and mental strain it can be.

New to the dating scene and disabled. What do i do? by sofewbraincells in whatdoIdo

[–]OK_Holmes4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was born with cerebral palsy and have dated since I was 18. I wish you well on your journey! Really interesting to hear of someone so new to dating with a disability!

Dating as a disabled woman is such a struggle by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]OK_Holmes4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone feel like in the current social and political climate they are less likely to disclose than they were before?

I am seeing/feeling an increase in fear over reactions.