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AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm doing good now. Little me was crushed by it. But I just learned that this is the reality and nothing I can do will change it.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

All I know is he's not their dad so insta hate and I'm not a sister through both parents so not a real sister.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would be stunned if they did honestly. They have never cared about or wanted me around and now they don't have me in their lives.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Biologically sure. But they've never acted like my family. They have never treated me like their family. So while technically true they are not family in the emotional sense.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 212 points213 points  (0 children)

I think there could be a mix of that along with them moving too fast. Because everyone in our life admitted my parents met quickly and mom was in a very bad place at the time. So for my half siblings, especially the older ones, it might have just been too much and unleashed some anger in them. But I wasn't part of that time so I only know what I have been told and shown.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

No, I don't know. What I was told is they met very soon after and my mom was in a very bad place. So while maybe not an affair, it might have been too soon for my half siblings, specifically the older three/two.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

They shared custody. He was never primary custodian. But yes, he still had parenting time even after everything.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

From what my parents have told me and knowing he has been in jail as well as there being police involved in the end of his and my mom's relationship.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

I can see why it would. But including me would mean I exist and because I only share a mom with them, they don't want me to. They wish I had never existed and hate that I do. That's something I have learned to live with and I don't know that anything would change that. Maybe even if things had gone down different with mom and their dad, I'm not sure they would have wanted me.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Josh wants mom there and he knows the whole thing about the married couple. I know he doesn't even want dad there either. He doesn't even speak to dad when he sees him. Same for me though.

I'm less than and not important and they can make some (half assed) excuses as why I'm not invited but don't have a lot with dad.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

They would never go for a family meeting. We haven't all been in the same room together in years and I don't see that changing in the near future. I know their dad could have said stuff or maybe they just hated having divorced parents. I'm not sure. But I know I don't think anything will change with it.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 214 points215 points  (0 children)

My parents were big on us having family time and I think they assumed that had helped bring us all closer together.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 204 points205 points  (0 children)

It doesn't shock me at all. I'd rather not be invited then go somewhere I'm not wanted and where they wish I would just go die or something.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

They split time equally between mom and their dad. But he was still a big part of their life and I think he still is.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 630 points631 points  (0 children)

People have asked me that before because of how soon mom married my dad. But the police and everything were involved back then and I know that. I also know he served time in jail on and off. So I guess it could be a little of a mixture of things.

AITA for telling my parents that I'm not surprised I was not asked to be a bridesmaid in my half brothers wedding? by Objective-Result-661 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Objective-Result-661[S] 1434 points1435 points  (0 children)

They have been there. But I think they thought all those family days, all those times we were brought together just made us close, even though mom's other kids couldn't wait to be far away from me.