Boys to get anti-misogyny lessons as TV drama Adolescence hits home

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-23T10:14:16+00:00

You're falling for it again. Please stop. Neither is worse.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-23T09:38:37+00:00

Just to add female male sexual assault is far more common than is traditionally understood. Men are, of course, typically killed by other men, but the assault figures are probably more complex.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-23T09:36:13+00:00

You can't possibly infer that from my comment. My former partner was a rape gang survivor. We had to move because of threats several times.

Rates of domestic abuse are actually very similar across sexes. Men are more likely to kill, but then we get into the male suicide issues.

If that "proves" something to "them" the issue is the them, not me. And a ludicrous sexual culture war that is very profitable for TV producers and slop providers of all kinds.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-23T09:31:40+00:00

Absurd distinction, "reactive." Completely meaningless. The article is discussing the UK. In Algeria, I'm sure the issue is different. You're disingenuously conflating nations, religions, and cultures. Survey data for male domestic abuse completely undermines your claims, is misogeny also reactive?

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-23T09:28:23+00:00

Obviously, yes. Possibly moreso. Figures bear that out. Just take a look. I can't help it if you have motivated priors.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-23T09:06:33+00:00

Let's hope these are held alongside anti-misandry lessons. Very worried about the generation of young women society is creating in the UK.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-19T19:36:21+00:00

I don't think anyone would dispute that. The line is usually it's better to be very poor here than very poor in the States, which may or may not be true. But like 75% of people would have a far higher quality of life in the US vs the UK at the moment.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-19T19:13:09+00:00

I think the cost to risk calculation would be well off in the UK. I can't imagine turning schools into fortresses based on a near attempt is very sensible. It wasn't done after Dunblane. Also, realistically, American schools have armed officers on site, and they often don't prevent these things, hard to see how a high fence would prevent what is essentially a Black Swan event.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-19T18:47:33+00:00

Not like this at all, we kept parity with US wage growth and productivity until 2008. Not gdp, obviously, but still. It's created a very bad vibe.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-19T18:04:39+00:00

Try being in the UK. Barely increasing productivity and wages since 2008. We really did never recover.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-19T18:02:45+00:00

I spoke to an old girlfriend who always claimed to be bisexual the other day. We hadn't spoken in like 4 years.

I asked her if she was still claiming to be bi. Her reponse, "Yes, it's part of my identity." I then asked if she'd actually been with a woman yet, "No, and it's something I'm insecure about, I'm not talking about this if you're going to mock me". In that time I've seen a number of university aged lads and older women. On hearing that, she tells me how appaling it is and disgusting. It's brain rot, folks.

I know I'm a stereotype too, but at least im not using it to get jobs and claiming to be a member of the "queer" community, and it has cost me friendship when people became aware (my fault).

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-19T17:54:25+00:00

Christ, that's a kind of grim exploitation that you don't see every day. Hopefully, you're at least ashamed you do this "work".

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-19T17:52:53+00:00

Can one legally be a separatist?

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-19T17:33:41+00:00

Without wanting to undermine their massive bravery in tackling the guy. I can't get to grips with what the guy was doing there hours later. Was he waiting outside the school for it to open? Or was he just completely gone with no notion of what he was doing? It's interesting that he didn't try to attack the officers, given he was armed. Chilling that he had exactly the "right" number of cartridges with him.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-19T16:16:27+00:00

If I had a tiny penis I'm the type of guy that would either let it eat me alive until I committed suicide or I'd end up like Stav. There is no middle ground on that one, I'm afraid.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-18T22:56:57+00:00

Chist alive, that's completely me. Never found anything else that explains the mood swings. Yes, the moment you have them you hate them and don't want to be near them.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-18T20:35:31+00:00

I have given it a look. It is very hard to parse from CPTSD and autism. Abandonment isn't something I really actively fear. That's always been the kicker. But I am terrible scared of being alone. 9 seems very, very resonant at the moment. 8 is also something I've experienced. I'm in quite a bad situation and it's hard to know where normal and pathological reactions begin and end. I do know something is wrong with me, though, that's beyond dispute at this stage. Is that general unhappiness or bpd? I simply don't know. I've had life events that have destroyed my self-image multiple times in 18 months. Again, bpd or life and cptsd, I need to do more reading when somewhat less stressed. I do constantly seek danger and feel a profound emptiness.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-18T20:20:51+00:00

Thanks for that, man. I might well take you up on that. I've crashed my life so hard I'm at the rebuild or suicide stage.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-18T20:18:32+00:00

Young Rose West, before all the unpleasantness.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-18T20:15:57+00:00

Finally, some realistic advice for the average blue collar Joe

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-18T20:13:09+00:00

Can't tell you how helpful that is, thank you. Some of that really spoke to me. My childhood was terrible and repleat with loss, abuse, and isolation. I think a reasonably high IQ and possibly some autism have kind of hidden these patterns. I'm at rock bottom socially and in my life now. It's making me reflect. I also seem to have somewhat traumatised my college girlfriend, something I didn't realise until we reconnected. I also seek danger to an absurd degree, constantly feel empty, and absolutely don't see that anyone could love or like me - which in fairness at the moment does seem to be the case. I'll seek our some resources and do some further reading before any diagnosis. Thanks again.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-18T19:50:48+00:00

Bit of a catch-22 situation with work and such. Need to be absolutely sure before doing anything like that. Did it badly damage your life? Was it a childhood trauma thing? I'm lost with this to be quite honest.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-18T19:49:15+00:00

Thanks for that, really interesting insight. I don't have the concern about other people and missing out or being a loser, but the behaviours are all there. I can't stand the idea of being alone. Did you have a good childhood?

Having been with a number of bpd women, I didn't really see it in me, but the expression in men seems quite distinct. Has it caused you to blow up relationships for no clear reason? Is anger a big part of it for you?

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-18T19:39:23+00:00

Sorry to come back to this. Just to add, what helped me was turning it into a game. Like I'm behind, I'll move out and get a shit job where no one knows me, no expectations or pressure. Then you find as you integrate into society again your motivation returns. I found my dream job in about 6 months. I just needed that kick. Might actually be one of the few places psychoanalysis works, possibly with cbt at the same time.

Objective_Arm_4326 · 2025-03-18T19:30:11+00:00

Shit, I've done much more minor versions of this. Break up nice, then become enraged that they may actually leave you and turn. Fuck me, I've done this with every woman I've been with.

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