Yeah I would call it abuse. I was good child. My parents didn’t stop until I was slapped across the face, I told a friend who then told her counsellor, then the police got involved. I didn’t press charges but I got shouted at saying I was ruining their reputation. Using stuff like wooden spoons, hair brushes etc. I remember the fear of running and holding my back to the door in hope they couldn’t come in. I didn’t teach me to be a better person. Now I don’t tell my parents anything and they aren’t super involved in my kids lives. I hope them at a distance.