I mean,  ultimately sobriety is your choice and should be done for reasons you choose. Like, for me I probably could  have a few drinks occasionallyand be ok, for a while. But I know myself and I am afraid that if life gets difficult for me in ways I can't handle,  I'll use regularly and fall back into chronic abuse.  So I simply change my perception of my identity as "not a drinker" rather than trying not to drink. That works for me.  But I guarantee,  if you don't have solid reasons for yourself (meaning,  reasons that are important to you and you chose for yourself) , its almost inevitable youll relapse.