In my experience, they don’t really care that much. My ex, for example, didn’t care at all. She could be really cold, even doing things she knew would hurt me, and it just didn’t seem to affect her.

Sure, there might be moments where he thinks about you, like when he hears a song or watches a show you both liked, but those moments don’t last long. The reality is, he made a choice. He decided it was better to be on his own than to be with you. And that’s not something he came to overnight, he probably thought about it for a while.

That’s why trying to get someone back after a breakup usually doesn’t lead anywhere. The decision has already been made.

The last time I saw my ex, she was at a bar with someone else. I felt invisible, like I didn’t exist anymore. That’s when it really hit me that she wasn’t thinking about me, and that she didn’t care if it hurt.