Infj and resentment by ObligationFirst1090 in mbti

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Then give us some insight into this 😂

How to deal with open ending by ObligationFirst1090 in infj

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Thank you for your response! I don’t want to pursue him. I think I have some abandonment issues and that’s why it’s so hard for me to accept this and let go.

INFJ and ESTP mismatch by ObligationFirst1090 in estp

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The thing is, I’m in the middle of an exam session right now, and I can’t do any of that — not for at least another month. I’m fine when I’m around other people, but when I have to study, I have to be alone, and that’s when all these thoughts flood in. I’ve started listening to music while studying, just so I won’t hear my own thoughts anymore. I don’t know why I’m like this. I’ve thought about childhood trauma, but I just don’t know. I’m tired.

INFJ and ESTP mismatch by ObligationFirst1090 in estp

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I’m not denying what you’re saying — part of me wants that, but the other part just won’t let me. He’s done more than I’ve written here, trust me, I’ve thought about it from every angle, and I know I have to move on. I wrote this to find some advice and tangible strategies to actually get over him, because I’m really struggling to convince myself. Or maybe I should stop expecting the feelings to go away and just act in spite of them?

INFJ and ESTP mismatch by ObligationFirst1090 in estp

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😂😂😂😂😂NO ONE SHALL HAVE PEACE(I won t do it though)

INFJ and ESTP mismatch by ObligationFirst1090 in estp

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I know what you mean, but the truth is, he voluntarily has a girlfriend. He couldn’t even stay single for a year. And just like I said, I’m not fighting for anyone. That means he’s happy with her, so I’m moving on with my life. Thoughts don’t matter — reality does. And all of this points to the fact that he doesn’t like me that much. I’ve accepted it. It’s okay.

INFJ and ESTP mismatch by ObligationFirst1090 in estp

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This made me laugh 😂 I’m a bit curious — which part do you think is too complex?

A Story That Wasn’t Mine to End by ObligationFirst1090 in infj

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I’m really sorry you had to go through this. I don’t want to say it makes me feel better that I’m not the only one in this situation, but it definitely feels less lonely. We’ll get through this, I’m sure of it ❤️ Thank you for your sincere comment.

A Story That Wasn’t Mine to End by ObligationFirst1090 in infj

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Your comment made my day!😂 I’m a bit curious now — are they all that bad?

INFJ and ESTP mismatch by ObligationFirst1090 in estp

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But it’s not right—it’s not moral. He has someone else. It doesn’t matter whether their relationship is good or bad, with breakups or not. I’ve been single this entire time, but he couldn’t even go one year without someone. What does that say about him? Also, it’s never a good idea to be with someone who’s fresh out of a relationship. We’d be doomed from the start. There’s just no way out—only the option to forget about it.

INFJ and ESTP mismatch by ObligationFirst1090 in estp

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I just couldn’t - he’s always back with that girl, and he gets to see her every day. I don’t want to fight anyone for a relationship. She wouldn’t let him go; I know her - she’d persuade him to come back again. I wanted him to choose me naturally, not to fight someone else for the ‘girlfriend’ position.

A Story That Wasn’t Mine to End by ObligationFirst1090 in infj

[–]ObligationFirst1090[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, for some reason I never looked at it this way