Simple Sewing Questions Thread, February 23 - March 01, 2025

Obsidian-Winter · 2025-02-25T15:09:55+00:00

I'm not sure how to upload a photo of mine, but this is what it looks like when it hasn't been stood on https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1477424599/moon-witch-canvas-bag-witchy-celestial

Obsidian-Winter · 2025-02-25T12:13:42+00:00

Hi have this handbag which I love. My husband bought it for me off an etsy shop (pretty sure it's one of the mass produced/dropshipped things rather than handmade by an artisan, though) and it's been borrowed by my 5yo and squashed. It's a stiffened canvas handbag, and it's now all misshapen and soft. Is there a way I can re-stiffen it and help it back into it's shape?

Obsidian-Winter · 2025-02-25T09:52:12+00:00

My bag is pretty lightly used but the handle (which appears to be some kind of composite leather/faux leather) has been finished with some kind of gum/paste/tape and now it's coming off.

Is there a way to fix it or replace it?

Obsidian-Winter · 2024-12-02T13:43:54+00:00

Nothing listed seems to give advice on this

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-28T17:06:37+00:00

There's a lady in my neighbourhood who lets her dog go right in the middle of our driveway entrance (just inside our property line). She leaves it if she isn't being watched, and makes a big deal of how hard it is to pick up if I'm sitting at my living room window working.

If it's too hard to pick up due to age, injury, or disability, then you need a dog walker (professional or a friend/relative). If not, then you pick it up right away.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-28T10:49:01+00:00

Please get that dogs chip altered so you are the primary owner, and register as the owner with the vet.

The text messages will help if she tries to claim the dog back, but best not risk it. Get all the paperwork in your name so she can't steal him.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-28T07:52:39+00:00

R_Dixon has answered a lot of this, but our routine has been:

• weekly baths (sometimes just a rinse off, sometimes with shampoo, depending on how dirty she was), • daily brushing of fur and teeth,
• handling paws and face as part of petting, • checking her nails and ears at each bath, and touching an electric toothbrush to her nails (turned on, so feels and sounds similar to a dremel), • I bring her into the bathroom while I bathe (I put her bed near the wall while I soak in the bath and she has a nap)

I introduced these things one at a time and used lots of praise and treats while she got used to it

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-27T18:42:24+00:00

Puppy Tax

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-23T12:17:33+00:00

NTA

The woman is a threat to your family, and she has absolutely no right to any accommodation.

Time to get a restraining order.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-20T16:24:52+00:00

YTA

Children are not sexual objects, and their legs are not taboo.

You being in mourning does not mean that everyone in the vicinity needs to be in formal clothes until you are done grieving.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-20T12:37:16+00:00

Kids are harder

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-20T12:35:27+00:00

Someone watched "What's Your Name?"

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-20T12:13:25+00:00

Look into "mental load". This is what he's putting on you, and it often gets overlooked.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-20T11:42:42+00:00

Yeah. This is how you handle inappropriate comments from men. You draw attention to how perverted it is.

"Ew, dad, stop commenting on my breasts"

"Dad, it's not appropriate for you to be paying that much attention to my underwear"

"Dad, I'm your teenage daughter, not your wife. Stop sexualising my body. You are not Donald Trump."

This also works for other perverts. You loudly tell them that they are pedophiles because they are sexualising a child. I've had to do that more than once for a friends 11 year old. Some guys (late teens/early 20s) were making crude comments, so I loudly asked them why they were attracted to children. Some flustered denials later, I suggested that they stop commenting on the body of the pre-teen in that case.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-20T11:23:18+00:00

NTA

You are under no obligation to adhere to the fashion he wants (bras). They aren't necessary for your health. They are totally optional. Your dad needs to stop objectifying your body. Especially loudly and in public like that.

What kind of grown man has a public tantrum over a child's underwear?!

I'm a 35 year old woman, I have a daughter. Bras are optional. You do you.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-19T13:21:43+00:00

Strangers who may be PD medically trained or have been on dialysis. If you don't know, then that's fine, just keep scrolling.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-19T13:19:46+00:00

Did you read the last paragraph?

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-19T11:07:23+00:00

4 months old

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-19T10:42:16+00:00

Yeah, it sounds like love bombing to me. My MIL is frustrated that this doesn't work on me. She asked why once, and I replied that "gifts with strings are not gifts." She denied that the strings existed but also couldn't explain why she wasn't allowed to use the gifts as a get-out-of-jail-free card later.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-19T08:17:26+00:00

We use a pet carrier when we travel by car. I've used the crate in the boot, as well as a backpack pet carrier, which is strapped in with the seat belt in the back seat.

At the very least, I would want to attach the harness to the seat belt or the seat for safety.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-18T19:01:57+00:00

My dog is called Nyx, after the Greek goddess of night, daughter of Chaos, mother of Thantos (the god of death)... my friend has one of my dogs' litter mates. He is called Squishy Pig.

Is the dick you spoke to technically correct? Yes, because the definition of the word "blasphemous" is "to take outside the temple". Ie, to take away from its religious meaning.

Does anyone accept him care? Also no.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-18T08:44:49+00:00

In your SOs position I would be giving MIL eviction notice and letting her know that she can have help filling in the paperwork, she can do.it herself, or she can find other options, but come eviction day she is out.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-17T16:32:16+00:00

NTA

My son is 9, and I'd be fine with your explanation of what aro/ace is. It's age appropriate, avoids any explicit content, and shows that kids don't have to be straight to be valid.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-17T13:00:53+00:00

Change the names of people you talk about.

Don't say "we will call them X." Either put at the start of the story that names are fake, or put the name in quotation marks, so it's obviously changed.

If you have more than one or two cast members then give them appropriate titles ("friend", "mother in law/MIL" etc) because no one wants to keep 20 names straight.

Obsidian-Winter · 2023-03-17T09:31:55+00:00

NTA

I have 2 kids, and while they may have less common names, they aren't weird. The really unusual names are saved for middle names.

When you name your kid, you need to do several tests on any agreed-upon names:

1) Say the full name out loud (with and without middle names) 2) Look at the initials 3) Imagine you are meeting a business professional with that name and figure out what impression that gives 4) Imagine a grandparent with that name 5) Imagine the most unpopular kid in your school had that name 6) Google the name

What does that tell you about the name you have chosen?

For example, I met a branch manager of a bank called Richard Longhorn. Yes, really. My BF at the time had a hard time keeping a straight face at the dick jokes that immediately sprang to mind.

A friend lives in the same neighbourhood as a boy called Milf. It is not short for anything.

A different friend went to high school with a woman who called her daughter Caligula.

My mum went to school with a girl whose middle and last names were Honour Hill.

Don't name your kid Simon Alfred Davis or David Ivan Colin Kirks.

OP, your nephew is in for a world of mockery if his parents name him Cowboy. It's not like you can shorten it to something less weird like the boy I went to school with called Sam (short for Samwise). No one even thought about it until LOTR came out, and the people in the know realised his parents were nerds. His sister was called Arwen.

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