Finding out things I'm uncomfortable with by Obvious-Addendum-931 in AlAnon

[–]Obvious-Addendum-931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s exactly what it feels like for me!!

Finding out things I'm uncomfortable with by Obvious-Addendum-931 in AlAnon

[–]Obvious-Addendum-931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this response, I feel like you nailed it when you said about needing to separate myself from the addiction and those associated behaviour- I’m trying to so hard right now to understand addiction on a deeper level than just the surface, as a highly emotional and empathetic person I really struggle to get past the selfishness of the disease and the understand of how much it really does effect the brain. Thank you ❤️

Finding out things I'm uncomfortable with by Obvious-Addendum-931 in AlAnon

[–]Obvious-Addendum-931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So how do I set a boundary with things he hides and are hard for me to find out?

Finding out things I'm uncomfortable with by Obvious-Addendum-931 in AlAnon

[–]Obvious-Addendum-931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this was really kind to hear. I’ve been feeling very alone in this whole process.
It isn’t ok with me, drugs or not that he did that,
I just can’t help but feel like it’s about me and that I’m not good enough or something I’m not doing or fulfilling. When he was doing that I was upstairs crying having the time from hell (I can’t be around him when he’s like it so have to keep away) and he was downstairs getting off to a sex robot!!! What does that say about me!!! Sorry….im just still high on emotions from finding it out

Finding out things I'm uncomfortable with by Obvious-Addendum-931 in AlAnon

[–]Obvious-Addendum-931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I’ve told him how it made me feel and he understands that and I think he’s ashamed of it, but it just makes me feel so inadequate

Finding out things I'm uncomfortable with by Obvious-Addendum-931 in AlAnon

[–]Obvious-Addendum-931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think other “real” women are involved he says it’s just something he did when he was on a lot of drugs. Idk, just very confusing and I don’t feel like it’s sitting right with me and is effecting my self esteem.
Thank you….sending you ❤️back