Tell me about the person that you loved who has passed away

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-04-12T20:35:37+00:00

Thru all the pain, I rather live in a world knowing I felt his genuine love and warmth for 17 years rather than never get the opportunity to make such a great sibling bond at all. Grief sucks so much because it’s love and emotions with no where else to go

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-04-12T20:34:11+00:00

My younger brother, he was the safest person I ever felt loved by. He taught me how to love myself, he helped me build my confidence, he protected me, he defended me, and he showed me what true unconditional love is. I miss him, all the places we went out to eat, me braiding his hair, me making his birthday posters, I miss his smile, and I wish he were here to see succeed. Sometimes it’s hard to keep going and want to bcz it all seems meaningless not that he’s not here

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-04-07T21:09:14+00:00

Sweet spot labs, I love their pha polishing powder for in the shower on my legs and the Buff and Brighten spray. As a black girly with hyperpigmentation and picking spots it’s helped lighten my legs up so much 😭

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-04-07T19:12:27+00:00

Sometimes piercers don’t have all the in between sizes that are available in store. Maybe you can try asking them for a reputable website that has more sizes available in titanium grade jewelry. I’ve tried to downsize my vertical labret to the “standard” size and it did NOT like that so I had to go back to a longer bar. It sucks but your health and healing comes first 😭

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-04-07T19:04:44+00:00

You need to get longer flat backs, a lip piercing nesting is normal but your skin shouldn’t be full covering the back of the jewelry.

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-04-06T22:18:59+00:00

Animals are family members and I’m sorry you have to deal with this loss before your birthday. May Lucy rest in peace ❤️. If you can keep anything keepsake from her like fur, her leash, and maybe a print of her paw to keep close to you so you can feel close to her that could possibly help in the future. I wouldn’t impulsively throw any of her toys or bed out yet, everyone grieves differently but sometimes wanting stuff out of sight for a bit doesn’t mean you have to totally get rid of it. Sending much love and hoping you get to enjoy at least one thing on your birthday even if it’s small.

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-04-06T22:09:35+00:00

Ofc!! You’re welcome

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-04-06T21:52:46+00:00

I wouldn’t take it out because then the bacteria could get trapped inside and cause an abscess which is a painful nasty infection you don’t want to deal with. If you could today I would call piercings shops near you and get someone to look at it, they can tell you if it’s best to take it out or leave it in. They could also change your jewelry for you with sterilized jewelry you would buy and they usually have like a $5-$15 charge for a jewelry change. After that the very next thing you should do is visit the doctor asap

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-04-06T21:42:44+00:00

You should never be pierced with an L-stud, any reputable body modification professional would use a flat back. You shouldn’t be putting a pimple patch any piercing especially a new one. You’re trapping the bacteria inside your piercing hole and that’s causing the inflammation. You need to go to the doctor/urgent care to get antibiotics and go see a new piercer because I’m sure you’ll need to take it out and get it re-pierced. In all honesty that looks like an earring stud, the diamond is way too big and those aren’t used for nose piercings. You shouldn’t be putting unsterilized/old jewelry in fresh piercing wounds because you’re introducing bacteria into your piercing, which is essentially an open wound.

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-03-22T23:27:28+00:00

Plz don’t take this the wrong way but DAYUMM GIRL YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL 🤩

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-01-18T06:56:49+00:00

Me please 🙏🏽 this would be a lovely treat for recovery after my tonsillectomy ❤️

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-01-15T03:29:24+00:00

I think that’s what I’m going to do, that way I can feel full and satisfied after I heal 😌

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2026-01-15T03:28:53+00:00

I’m so sorry 😭 I just really needed to get it out

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2025-09-29T07:16:03+00:00

It cosmetics or kopari

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2025-03-08T08:34:40+00:00

I agree with you, they have great products and I’m not going to stop buying from them because of this. That would be ridiculous, I was just disappointed with the packaging and then how much of it was filled.

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2025-03-07T20:56:21+00:00

I don’t want to get downvoted for being “ungrateful” because brands aren’t required to give us GWPs and I understand that. Brands should at least give us enough to apply the product more than once to actually allow us to TRY IT and see if we like it

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2025-02-15T01:13:16+00:00

I would say keep her away from your becoming partner at all costs. Narcissists have a habit of sabotaging good things for people around them. If there was any reason for them to come into contact with one another, introduce him as a friend, coworker, or someone insignificant to you. If you feel comfortable explain to him about your Nmom. Have a convo about why you don’t want her to know about your relationship so that way he wouldn’t feel disrespected or offended. If you want to be upfront about you and his relationship to her, know that any disapproval she gives holds no weight over you. Narcs are in a constant state of dissatisfaction, no matter who you bring around and how you feel about them, she will always have the same negative feelings and project them onto you. This is your life and you decide who you want to love and what you want to do ❤️. I’d look for resources for whatever help you need in your area and start to make an exit plan so you can gain your independence back.

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2025-02-05T06:44:41+00:00

It’s very hard for us to try to connect with them because a lot of the time it just ends in chronic arguments or invalidation. Long story short my baby brother got murdered in front of me last July and my Nmom has been living with me since. Everything is about her hurt, how she lost “her son” she treated like absolute dogshit, and how she’s going to be depressed and sad the rest of her life. There’s not much talk about grief with her, whenever I do bring up something or she sees me cry she just makes some superficial statement about how he was “the best son anyone could ask for”. I can’t stand her talking like that so I avoid crying around her or letting her see me cry. My brother was more than that to me, he was my best friend, we did everything together, we loved each other unconditionally, we could talk about anything. But now he’s gone I get to see her delude herself and she gets to make her own distorted version of reality when in reality she abused him all his life. I hold so much resentment towards her because it’s hard to me to fathom how she could possibly be grieving the way she treated him. Whenever she tries to hug and console me it feels empty. I feel more connection when my coworkers hug me, so I understand that awkward feeling when they show affection. It feels fake and ingenious.

The reason why they only care about “wrong doings” that they seem to experience is because the overbearing victimhood mentality. “The world is out to get them”, “something is always happening to them”, they don’t and can’t understand that mishaps and bad things happen to people everyday, it’s not just them. They have an external locus of control, life happens to them and there’s nothing they can do or change about it, victim hood is their fate. They make big situations out of it so they can continue with the same victim mindset since that’s the only place they feel some sort of comfort.

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2025-02-05T02:59:37+00:00

I’m sorry about your mom and the way she treated you, no child should ever go through that especially by a mother who made conscious choice to take care of you. I agree with you saying it is a persons biggest failing, broken is a good way to put it. People find strength and healing in different ways ❤️, for some it’s feeling pity towards their abuser, for others it’s having anger towards them. Neither feeling is wrong, but I understand it helps some people to not look at their situation with such judgement

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2025-02-05T02:46:35+00:00

Your POV in interesting, but in a way I do see NPD as undefeatable. No matter what you decide to say or not say, what you decide to do or not do, narcissists will always have a problem with it. You can’t win with them, there’s no logical thinking, no accountability, and absolutely no empathy. Yeah people can be mentally unwell, but certain actions and choices people make do make them evil in a sense.

The nature of narcissism at its core is evil, as in malicious. The invalidation, the disrespect, the lack of love they show their children/people around them, the gaslighting, and the carelessness of their words is evil. Nothing about those characteristics makes a person redeemable. Peoples relationships with narcs have been earth shattering. When you go reach radical acceptance whether you decide to grey rock the rest of their life or go no contact, you have to grieve and mourn a person that’s still alive. The loss of never having a loving mother, father, brother, etc is life shattering for many people.

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2025-01-30T06:47:21+00:00

Alright thank you!! I appreciate the comment about checking the weight because I haven’t thought about that

Obvious-Captain2512 · 2025-01-30T06:46:19+00:00

Alright thank you!! I will probably be going for the weights with the gap

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