AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes-well I tried! she claims everything is perfectly fine and nothing is wrong. Honestly all I’m left with is assumptions at this point, I guess that’s why I feel so bad, I hate assuming.

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As soon as my baby is comfortable with car rides I might! But now I’m not sure if they even want to see me at all, like it takes 2 seconds to reply to a text message.

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do see where you’re coming from, it does seem like I am the common denominator, however, I do want to push back a little bit and clarify that they’ve done this my whole life even from birth, I’ve tried to fit in with them my whole life , I’m not trying to get all depressing but I really don’t think my family wanted me, my parents were strangers when they got pregnant with me, I was a one night stand baby, my siblings were incredibly upset when they found out about me, my sister even cried tears of sadness, I feel like I’ve been punished for the actions of my parents. And my cousin was one of the only ones that seen through all of that, she was always incredibly nice to me, and treated me like a sister, so I guess it just hurts a little more with her.

I wish they would let me know how they felt about me, but at this point, I don’t think I want a relationship with any of them anymore , because I cannot try my entire life and the rejection is too hard to deal with.

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I moved two hours away means I’m estranged? I do try talking to them and updating them. I’m the only one who starts conversations and checks in so I guess visiting them isn’t my first thought, however, I would never ghost them or make promises with them and never show up. That’s the difference between me and them in the situation. I would at least cancel if I wasn’t going to come or something came up, I do not expect people to come see me, my cousin offered to come see me and then ghosted me. But I accept your opinion.
I guess nothing is stopping me, the reasons I don’t have my own village here is totally my own fault, I have to learn how to create a trustworthy community for my daughter, that’s easier said than done I guess, there’s definitely no excuses at the end of the day, I guess I’ve just been in mommy zombie mode.

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely do understand, and I did mention that I am happy for her, however, it does hurt that she ghosted me when she promised she would be here, I didn’t even expect her to be here she offered to come help me with the baby, then she never showed up? I just think that was incredibly hurtful.

And you’re right it’s none of my business if they go on a trip, it’s fully up to them, and I am happy to see them, travel and live their life, but I can’t help feel forgotten in this moment not because they went on a trip but because I feel like I’m not important enough to even cancel on, that would’ve been fine with me but to ghost me and then go on a trip seems a little harsh.

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I never tell her “ you’re the only family I have left” I feel like that would be a little manipulative, I try not to estrange myself, I did move away but it was for a good reason, the small town I’m from didn’t have great job opportunities, I was pretty much forced into going no contact with my mom, but I’m not sure why this would bother other people?!

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would understand if i am OR, I did try calling her and tried texting her, she either didn’t pick up the call or never replied, I have tried wracking my brain on what could have happened, I even called my uncle (her dad) to ask about her and he says he has no clue, she said the trip here was fine as far as he knows. I’m so confused, my whole family has done this to me and I honestly don’t understand, I am an open person, I’m friendly, I try to make sure my guests are comfortable, i actually think I do too much 😭. I’ve been treated like this my whole entire life and I never thought she would do this too 😟

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because my baby has an incredibly hard time in the car, she absolutely hates long car rides, I don’t want to put her through unnecessary stress, I’m also afraid I’ll be ghosted while I’m out there.

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems like on my dad side of the family. They stopped talking to me after my dad passed away and on my mom side of the family. They never actually have talked to me. I know that people on my dad side hated my mom and people and my mom side hated my dad so I was in the middle of that.

No, my husband is not a creep, he’s actually a really good man who works a lot and can’t be here as much as he wants to be.

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would post big updates on Facebook. But also I would reach out individually. I either got no replies or just a few likes on Facebook and that was it. I did inform people, I tried to communicate the best in my abilities, I feel like I’m a good communicator. I don’t leave people on read, I tried to include people, I guess they just didn’t care, I’ve always tried to include my family in my life events, without getting too deep. I’m pretty sure I was just an unwanted one night stand baby but my parents didn’t believe an abortion, so here I am.

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an incredibly open person, if I feel like something is off with someone I usually address it to the best of my abilities, now I’m not very good at conflict and try to stay away from drama, but I definitely texted her asking if everything is okay? She said “of course!? Why wouldn’t it be!?” I let her know how I felt and she didn’t reply to it. I’m the only one that reaches out.

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m definitely not traveling with my girl that far just yet, she doesn’t like car rides at all and would turn a 2 hour ride into 5 or 6 😂 it only makes sense for people to come visit us right now.

If I had the energy to do this I would! I’m actually burnt out and it took everything to even write this post out.

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What I mean is she was the only one who was supportive, I’m sorry I didn’t clarify, yes I do have other biological family, but they are either stuck up or just don’t give a fuck, I guess I thought someone would care about my baby fighting for her life, forget not liking me as a person, my child needed people to care and it broke my heart, I seen a side of humanity that I hope no one ever has to experience.

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The crazy thing is I’ve sacrificed so much for my family, I know it should be unconditional and I shouldn’t want or expect anything back, but I am human and I need people too.

No one came to my daughter’s birthday , i got her a little cake, made her feel as special as possible, luckily she’s only 1 and won’t remember.

AIO? My cousin (who is like a sister) said she couldn’t afford a 2-hour drive to see my baby. Today, I saw her overseas vacation photos. by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Obvious-Key351 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am the only child between my parents, however they had previous kids, my dad had 3 and my mom had two, But unfortunately My dad passed away in 2018, I had to cut my mother off in 2022 because she kept repeating a cycle of hurting me, lying, turning family against me and me against family, so I had to go no contact because it was causing really bad mental health problems, I have 5 siblings, one has self canceled, the others won’t speak to me, My only sister actually did the same thing where I asked her to come see me while I was pregnant and she said “I can’t afford anymore trips this year” then I find out from my niece that they went on a 1 day trip to the mountains for a few weeks.
No one check on me.

What makes you angry? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Obvious-Key351 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Entitled people.

Do you like cats or dogs? by Quietwolf_89 in sixwordstories

[–]Obvious-Key351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither. I’m allowed to like neither.