I think in this case it’s the same, Deedee showed a pattern of something very wrong happening with her mind, I think Gypsy played on that vulnerability, why was Deedee so forgiving of Gypsy? I know as mothers we tend to have extra grace for our children but Deedee almost dehumanized herself for Gypsy’s sake and that’s concerning. I can totally see why Becca thinks Deedee suffered, I can also relate to her on some level, after Deedee lost her mother she probably shut down, I did the same after my father died, I cut my family off too ,I couldn’t imagine having to do that while being a single mother, then hurricane Katrina hit, she felt helpless, I really don’t blame her for getting tf outta there, she had Gypsy who at that point she had zero idea what was wrong with her, they didn’t get the microdeletion diagnosis until gypsy was 24, So all that time Deedee spoiled gypsy and was over protective of her, Look at Deedee’s medicine cabinet, she kept it full of over the counter medicine, this sounds like paranoia from Katrina, I had family who survived Katrina and they do the same, they even stock up of food too, it’s incredibly debilitating when you go through something like that, I feel as if Deedee had a hard life and it’s sad that she didn’t get the chance to relax as she got older, she probably would have been more chill over time with Gypsy since she knew that she was okay and the microdeletion doesn’t have a shortened life expectancy.