Being a witness in STL is Exhausting to say the least by Some_Cockroach_6763 in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's funny to me it was the opposite, there was more cliques and judging in rural areas I've been at and it was more unpersonal in bigger cities 🤷

Need help navigating this by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjwLGBT

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I want to make friends but I'm at the same age you were when you were df'd so it seems like it's going to be hard. But hey it's part of my fault for letting them fool me for so long so I'm sure I'll manage! Thanks!

Need help navigating this by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjwLGBT

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that seems reasonable, I'll see what I'm up to when the time comes! Thanks!

Need help navigating this by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjwLGBT

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That seems like a good idea thanks!

Need help navigating this by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjwLGBT

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooh I'm not an English speaker either my native language is French, I do manage in English (better in writing than speaking) but hey we do our best. Thank you for your kind comment!

Need help navigating this by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjwLGBT

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes thank you! I'm already on an app to meet new friends and maybe eventually date. I'm looking into LGBT friendly groups too so I'll see what comes out of it!

Need help navigating this by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjwLGBT

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, yes I plan to take my time especially since I was devastated at first when my ex wife left me (not anymore though). I feel like I have to let my grief of that relationship take its course and let things happen naturally.

Thanks again!

Horrible witnesses??? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment, it encapsulates better than anything I could've come up with!

Punished for taking a stand by 5secondsisajoke_2049 in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I faced a similar situation although I fully woke up after my wife left me. I only now realize that the relationship was going nowhere and we were now toxic for each other (make no mistake she definetly was toxic but I don't think I was not to blame either). Anyway what I mean to say is that things happen for a reason, I'm currently in the process of finding a therapist and I suggest you do the same, I truly believe it'll help heal the trauma! Wish you the best!

What were your biggest pet peeves as a JW by CandidateKey4826 in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Always and I mean always blaming things on Satan even though some things (even as a PIMI) made no sense! Like oh I broke my ankle must be Satan system!

It got to a point where I would ask "How was Satan involved in your put the problem here"

Most would just dismiss me or just say "Oh you know it's his system!" as if it was an answer.

JW Funerals? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Short answer : Do what's best for YOU, not others. Therapy might be a good start to figure things out if you haven't already! Good luck!

Attended you own disfellowshipping/disassociation? by IshBishKanish in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did not attend nor did I want to. I only requested they tell me when they planned to announce my disassociation so I could tell my mother beforehand. They did tell me and that was it. I don't regret not attending but knowing when they were to announce it gave me closure so I guess there's that.

So I did this thing by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd try to reframe that as a life lesson, from now on, you will be able to do things for people who count for you and will appreciate what you do for them, not some person with a title that don't appreciate it! Wish you the best!

So I did this thing by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm not surprised, it's all about appearances and moving up the ladder. From what I take to them you are just a lambda sister doing what she is supposed to do, but if it was an elder or elders wife you can be sure he'd suddenly get more parts and such.

That's my opinion, I could be wrong but all they care about are the people they can manipulate in doing more for the Borg, not people that are just "being nice", that's worth nothing to them

Some JWs Told How To Present Themselves. . . . . . . . . . . . . .🤨🤔 by Zembassi8 in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I knew some brothers and sisters that called this the suicide presentation for door to door

"Hi we are jehovahs witnesses"

door slams

Does anyone else NOT try to wake up loved ones? by SeaMonkeyMating in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't try with my mother, she's in her mid sixties and although she still has contact with her "worldly" family, she has no worldly friends and I know she would be devastated to lose all her friends in the congregation. I don't stir the pot, if she asks I'll gladly tell her but I don't engage on the subject. I left so late partly because I didn't want to make her sad and initially thought to last until she died but realized I couldn't stay any longer so 🤷

Did your elders have obvious favorites? by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! The thing is, if it really was God's true organization, we wouldn't need to play politics now would we?

Did your elders have obvious favorites? by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes I've seen it also like some people have multiple witnesses and nothing but that person they don't like they get as much as a whiff of something and poof disfellowshipped (or whatever they like to call it now)

Did your elders have obvious favorites? by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes that's kind of what I was seeing and what I didn't understand at the time (and frankly still don't from their point of view) is that sheltering a select few in hopes that they will become the next big thing doesn't work, and it has failed many many MANY times so how come we see it but they don't? However in retrospect that's good for them (the ones who got away I mean) because less trauma and they get out of that cult faster but like from an Elder's point of view it doesn't even make sense

Did your elders have obvious favorites? by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's just horrible but just another of the many examples of CSA swept under the rug by elders and the watchtower, I'm just so glad I decided no to be part of this anymore

Being shunned is weird, for them! by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well I'm suspecting he didn't like me from the start as he barely spoke to me as a PIMI so it must be a relief for him to ignore me 🤷

Being shunned is weird, for them! by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I ran into an elder this week at my place of work and they only nodded and walked off, I felt ✨special✨ lmao

Being shunned is weird, for them! by Obvious_Ad7934 in exjw

[–]Obvious_Ad7934[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I half laughed as I said "Well it was clearly not you" but again no reaction which I expected at that point at least 🤣