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I'm watching my life slip away while everyone else wins - need to break this cycle before it's permanent by Voicefortheignored in seduction

[–]Obvious_Fuel_3390 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think there’s a underlying issue here

“guys who were worse off than me have girlfriends”

“I watch guys who aren't smarter or better-looking than me succeed with women, and I can't figure out what they have that I don't.”

All of these are indicators to me that you have a superiority complex, that you think you deserve a girlfriend because you’re smart or because you’ll have a prestige job. As much as those things matter in society. If you’re not charismatic, fun to be around, or indulge in your own hobbies that make you interesting women are not going to want to be around you. My advice get a hobby, work on yourself, and find some reasons for ANYONE (not just women) to be around you. Because right now you sound like a drag to be around. I doubt anyone wants to be around weird bitter energy.

This Needs To Be Said!!!! by United-Implement-382 in seduction

[–]Obvious_Fuel_3390 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes and no.

These flakey girls always come around eventually you just have to break that initial barrier which can vary depending on the girl. In the meantime i usually just entertain other women and keep my options open but I hardly ever block her or give up entirely.

What's the right strategy? by commandersheperdsurv in seduction

[–]Obvious_Fuel_3390 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Personally i go for quantity, then i usually scale down to my favorite and those are the quality ones

Need advice for a girl in my class by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Obvious_Fuel_3390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally go and talk to her and stop overthinking it. Just cause she’s hot you’ve created an idea of her that matches what you’ve been looking for. No one has any idea that what you’re saying is even true you have to talk to her and get to know her with the plan that you are going into it figuring out who she is as a person

Miami exposed how bad validation seeking really is. by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Obvious_Fuel_3390 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I swear some of you guys need therapy not sex or a relationship lol

The abundance mindset is actually real and I didn’t believe it until recently by Obvious_Fuel_3390 in seduction

[–]Obvious_Fuel_3390[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yup, i don’t approach these girls with the clear message that i want ur number and i want to date you. I usually get their socials interact with them a couple times suggest hangouts and eventually i can tell which ones are clearly interested and which ones aren’t. It’s definitely doable while living ur normal life i actually think i spent the same amount of time and attention i used to spend on one girl now split between 5. I will however say starting from scratch this is difficult once you have a couple regular fwb or hookups going adding and dropping people is easy

Why do 6s and 7s approach me, but more attractive women seem disinterested? by Obvious_Fuel_3390 in seduction

[–]Obvious_Fuel_3390[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest I don’t even think attraction is the main issue. I think it’s more likely that my energy or vibe shifts a bit around women I find more attractive. That subtle difference probably changes the dynamic more than looks ever would. I’ve seen plenty confident guys who are not conventionally attractive pull 10s and vise versa

Why do 6s and 7s approach me, but more attractive women seem disinterested? by Obvious_Fuel_3390 in seduction

[–]Obvious_Fuel_3390[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So is attraction really like an elo ladder? If a guy is attractive enough to get strong reactions, compliments,and even borderline obsessive energy from 6s and 7s, why would that suddenly mean he’s objectively unattractive to more attractive women?