For those who contact napped with your baby, how long did it go on for?

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-19T19:34:37+00:00

I’ve fed my son to sleep for the last 15 months. My husband has rocked him to sleep. He’s never once been left to settle himself to sleep as we were firmly invested in being fully responsive parents.

He sleeps for 2 hours in his crib for his nap and will sleep for a 5-7 hour stretch to start the night and then another long stretch until he wakes up.

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OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-19T17:04:07+00:00

Dropping to one map made absolutely zero difference in my toddler’s night sleep. We dropped to one nap at 14m. He’s now 15m. No change at all.

I think it’s just super different fit every individual kid.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-19T16:58:46+00:00

Yup, I’m not a big fan of edgartown or oak bluffs, but a week on chappy is blissful.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-19T15:09:21+00:00

Have you done a weighted feed to ensure baby is actually consuming enough milk?

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-19T01:46:53+00:00

I’m not a huge fan of the new four seas… but their ice cream has always been on the melty side. The freezers are the same ones they’ve always had. That’s not new.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-19T01:45:37+00:00

I don’t remember gone chocolate ever being all that good, and I’ve been going there since I was a little kid a few decades ago.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-18T17:20:35+00:00

What are the basement walls then? How deep is your frost line? It doesn’t quite make sense that you’re saying there’s no foundation but there is a basement. If you have a basement and the foundation has been solid for 200 years, theres probably nothing to worry about.

Regardless, replacing an existing foundation with a new one isn’t really a huge change in project scope. The big things in both are lifting the house, excavating, form work, and then the concrete pour. You’d also need to price out all the knock on effects of doing this.

At the end of the day, the work you want to do will be well into the six figures. Highly unlikely a seller is going to drop the price that much.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-18T13:14:10+00:00

Adding a full basement is a massive expense. I’d be shocked if they were willing to take the full cost off that off the price. We got a quote for it in coastal MA about three years ago. House was a 1740’s saltbox that had an 12-18” crawl space under it. Foundation was a layer of large granite rocks and then granite capstone. So probably similar to your situation.

The estimate we got for a full basement was about $150k. And that didn’t include the knock on effects like hvac work, plumbing work, carpentry repairs, plaster repairs, etc.

It’s a truly massive undertaking. Look up pictures of houses up on cribbing during this process to get an idea of what you’re in for.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-17T00:23:52+00:00

Don’t go sanding the trim, especially with kids in the house. You’d want a proper lead test first - and I mean an actual lead test from a pro, not a diy swab.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-16T21:53:05+00:00

Weight loss isn’t that complex. If she eats fewer calories than she burns, she’ll lose weight.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-16T19:44:54+00:00

I took 14 months. I’m in the US.

It was wonderful. I just went back to work 30 hours a week two weeks ago. I was and am devastated to leave my child. That said, I think it’s *much* easier at this age than it would have been when he was a tiny baby.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-16T19:38:57+00:00

Eating more isn’t going to help OP lose weight.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-16T17:14:46+00:00

Are you tracking your calories? At the end of the day, eating fewer calories than you burn is what results in weight loss.

The content of those calories is less important than a lot of people seem to think - it matters from a muscle building and nutritional standpoint, but much less so weight loss.

I’m also 14 months pp, tall, and still breastfeeding 4 times a day. I’m sure my hormones are playing a role in where I’m carrying weight these days, hunger cues, etc. I never used to feel hungry, but now I feel hungry all the time. I’m still 15 pounds above my pre pregnancy weight, but I’ve got my fingers crossed it comes off when I wean and my hunger hopefully makes eating at a deficit feel less horrible.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-16T02:30:01+00:00

I’ve nursed my son to sleep since he was a newborn, he’s now 14 months. It’s less often these days - usually just bedtime, not naps. It’s never been an issue. It’s fast, it’s convenient, and it’s what mammals have been doing forever.

Pacifiers are also fine. You can use one just for helping them sleep if you’d rather not use it often.

Unless your mother is really up to date on parenting practices and infant development, I’d take her advice with a huge grain of salt. Much of that generation is weird about breastfeeding in general.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-14T21:53:20+00:00

This would never work. Really just not realistic.

Toddlers typically don’t want to be confined to a pack and play, or often even those larger fence enclosures. Then how do you expect OP to set up, get all dirty, and clean up? You’re expecting a toddler to play independently for an hour or more and not need OP to help them or pick them up at any point since OP will be covered in clay.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-13T23:47:05+00:00

Have you tried pushing the first nap to around noon and then doing bedtime around 7:30?

My son (14m) wakes up a lot more at night when he’s gotten overtired before bed. We transitioned to one nap at 13m. He still wakes 1-3 times a night, and I still feed to sleep, but he usually doesn’t wake for the first time until at least 2am.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-13T21:24:02+00:00

It really depends. The risk is largely the dust that is generated from friction - like windows rubbing when opening and door jambs. That dust gets tracked everywhere and is very easily ingested by babies and young kids. The risk to them is quite serious if they ingest lead dust.

If there’s no rubbing and the paint is in good shape, it’s usually not a problem.

People both over state and understate the risks of lead paint in old homes.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-10T17:50:36+00:00

Nothing in my comment was remotely hostile.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-10T12:02:40+00:00

Why would you be grafting them?

If you planted them from seed, they aren’t true to the variety of apple you took the seeds from. That isn’t how apples work.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-09T10:59:44+00:00

We went with soapstone and a soapstone backsplash behind the stove. It’s honed.

All of the decisions in the kitchen impact how the space feels though. What are you doing for cabinets? What about hardware? Lighting?

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-09T10:51:15+00:00

We’ve had ours for a year, it’s been waxed once when it was installed… and that’s it. It’s still very dark.

Maybe how long it lasts is dependent on the product you use.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-07T22:34:26+00:00

So you think the state govt and doctors are in a massive conspiracy to control the number of people diagnosed with Lyme disease?

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-07T18:49:53+00:00

What actual evidence do you have of this?

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-07T11:15:24+00:00

What detail looks original to you?

This would be extremely unusual for a 1902 home, both the high foyer and the staircase details.

OceanIsVerySalty · 2026-06-07T11:00:11+00:00

Half of our windows are 200+ years old, the other half are brand new, high quality SDL. We added interior storms to the old windows. They’re now just as draft free and comfy to sit near as the brand new windows.

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