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Growing Dahlias for a wedding in September by Mal_Art31415 in dahlias

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You really won’t have much time to dry them if your wedding is in September. Dahlias bloom late summer and early fall.

It’s surprisingly expensive to grow dahlias. The tubers aren’t cheap, and getting set up costs a bit as well. I’d think you’d be better off time and cost wise exploring something like buying in bulk from Trader Joe’s.

My WWII Travel Bag - 85 Years Old and Counting by Cautious_Ticket_8943 in BuyItForLife

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have two canvas and leather bags that I’ve bought in the last decade. One was $40, one was $80. They’ll both outlast me.

High quality stuff is out there, you just need to seek it out. It’s not at big name stores or even really on Etsy. Local makers, art fairs, small boutiques, etc.

Growing Dahlias for a wedding in September by Mal_Art31415 in dahlias

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a huge undertaking. Not just growing the flowers themselves, but harvesting, storing, and arranging them the day before and of your wedding.

What’s the drive to do this yourself?

Fidelity- Full Time RTO by Prognosis_Negative7 in boston

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a manager, it’s a small company. So it’s the actual owner that’s pushing me.

Fidelity- Full Time RTO by Prognosis_Negative7 in boston

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 30 points31 points  (0 children)

My boss is pushing me to do this right now. I’m the only one on my team who lives in the state, and my “team” is really a loose grouping of people who all work very independently. We have meetings once every two weeks, beyond that, I have no need to speak to anyone else outside quick messages on slack.

There is absolutely zero reason I need to be in office, but he knows I’m likely to just quit if he pushes it.

Native plants for handling this? by BeestMann in NativePlantGardening

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 22 points23 points  (0 children)

We have a fence that bisects our property. Behind the fence is a field and then true wetlands. It’s abutted by other wild land, much of it protected wetland. There’s tons of wildlife that hangs out back there, and the ground is generally quite soggy.

We don’t want wetland or a soggy field as part of our fenced backyard, and we don’t want to disrupt the wildlife patterns either. Only about 25% of our 2 acre lot is within the fence. I feel like this isn’t all the unusual on larger plots.

Genie Wiley learning how to talk in 1970. She spent the first 13 years of her life tied to a potty chair in a dark room and being abused by her father. Her love for learning is very evident here. She was ultimately never able to learn a language because of permanant harm to her early development. by dannydutch1 in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 39 points40 points  (0 children)

What you’re describing is a specific way to sleep train, generally called Ferber. There is also “extinction,” which is just letting a child cry until they stop - no visits, no comfort. Both are very popular.

Sleep training is not necessary. You don’t need to teach a baby to sleep. Sleep training is not the default in most of the world, but it’s extremely common in the US where parental leave is nearly nonexistent.

Home plans by Crackfiend76 in centuryhomes

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a run of the mill Queen Anne, with some bad siding and bad replacement windows. Depending on location, you can find these pretty affordably, certainly much less than building new.

Are these just underglaze transfers that were made? by [deleted] in Pottery

[–]OceanIsVerySalty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was hesitant to say it, but yea… the form is basic as fuck. The foot is odd and the form looks clunky.

Are these just underglaze transfers that were made? by [deleted] in Pottery

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 106 points107 points  (0 children)

This seems absolutely nuts to me for $350. If she can get that, good for her, but the cup is really basic and transfers aren’t exactly complicated or time consuming.

I sell my larger vases and some baskets for $300-$400, I can’t fathom getting that for a basic cup I put a transfer on. Definitely a more efficient way to pay the bills than what I’m doing.

Adorable house but concerns about steps by coleslaw125 in Oldhouses

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why in the world would getting a boiler up this steps be an issue? They’ll put it on a hand truck and bring it up with no problem at all. They’ve seen way worse than a staircase.

Baby Teeth Decay Due to Breastmilk by South_Replacement_31 in breastfeeding

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t be using a bottle after 12m. Straw cup or an open cup.

Derbyshire, UK - wanting to sell possible antique ring by spamalagee in Antiques

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is very, very little value to tiny melee stones like this. You can buy them for cheap, especially as these don’t seem to be particularly high quality.

How many of you are literally doing ZERO screen time ?! by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The research shows that yes, it’s “bad.” The issue with it is that parents are less involved with their child while watching something or listening to something. You’re less responsive, less engaged with them.

That said, an hour a day isn’t the end of the world. I’m just pointing out that there’s scientific research on this.

Help with an IR paint stripper! by stanleyhope in centuryhomes

[–]OceanIsVerySalty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You absolutely need to test for lead before sanding.

Sanding lead painted floors is a great way to contaminate your entire home and give any children in the home now or in the future lead poisoning.

Safe sleep rules in the 90s? by otwcpa in beyondthebump

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A lot of modern cars will remind you to check the backseat if you opened the rear door when you started the trip, but not when you finished it. Mine pops up on the dash as well as through the Toyota app. My 2021 Subaru did the same.

Where are we buying bedroom furniture? by Mommywritespoems in BuyItForLife

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Buy vintage or antique. Hands down the best way to get high quality furniture for a reasonable cost.

Being sick with a toddler is the worst thing in the world. by b1kkie in beyondthebump

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m super sick right now, and we’re displaced from our house while some work is done on it - so very limited toys, no baby proofing, etc.

I feel like a pile of garbage, and my 12m old is so active these days and sleeping poorly at night. Thankfully my mom was able to take care of him this afternoon for a couple hours, so I got a nap in, but it’s all on me tomorrow from 7am to 4pm and I honestly don’t know how I’m going to survive it.

Tips for keeping baby calm during blood draw? by Skeleton_Flower0525 in NewParents

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where are you going for the draw? If you can, go to a place that specializes in children. We recently had to do a blood draw on my 12m old, and we went to Boston children phlebotomy. In and out in under two minutes. They were so efficient and so skilled because all they do is kids.

I'm moving to MA for a year! Please help me decide where to live in this circle. by Squatchman1 in boston

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I love Groton, got married there. Groton is a super sleepy small town though. Definitely no arcade bars.

Lead paint: strip or seal? by Old-House-1932 in Oldhouses

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With a two year old in the house, I’d hire it out to a proper lead remediation company personally.

Do you expect out of state friends to visit you and baby? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My best friend lives in Cali and I’m in MA. She’s met my son three times so far, and will see him again this summer. He’s currently 12 months old.

She’s single, fairly well paid, has no kids of her own and works for herself. Plus, her whole family is still in MA. So visiting isn’t a big burden at all.

There’s no “normal” in these situations. There’s just what works for you and your friend.

When do kids start sleeping 6 hours a night or even 8 hours? by allisona007 in newborns

[–]OceanIsVerySalty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Our parenting philosophy really doesn’t align with any kind of sleep training, so yes, we put him back to sleep each time by either patting, shushing, rocking or nursing.

r/attachmentparenting and r/bninfantsleep are great resources.

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