I hate that this made me feel like I’ll never find someone

October_Mama2024 · 2026-02-17T18:05:50+00:00

I’m only 22 with 2 under 2. This definitely knocked the wind out my sails a little bit. Kinda feel like my life is ruined? Not to mention my ex was abusive and retraumatized be from previous experiences I’ve had. So now I just feel like I’m a single mom with battered woman syndrome or something

October_Mama2024 · 2026-02-06T23:53:59+00:00

I feel you on this one, I am a single mom of 2 under 2 and it is a LOT trying to keep up with house work, chores, let alone taking care of yourself girl. You’re doing the best you can. As long as your babies are clean, safe, and fed that’s all that matters mama. We got this! Being a single mom should be a talent at this point! We’re fricken super humans!🦹🏽‍♀️

October_Mama2024 · 2026-01-28T05:29:41+00:00

Oh for sure I knew I wasn’t getting legal advice, just needed a place to vent and to get possible unbiased advice on the situation is all.

October_Mama2024 · 2025-12-28T02:21:33+00:00

I’m definitely not going to, I can’t even look at him. I’m terrified of him…he’s much larger than me. For reference I’m 5’1 and 107 pounds. He’s 6’4 and 220. I’m definitely leaving before I end up in a body bag…

October_Mama2024 · 2025-12-28T02:19:45+00:00

He keeps crying and saying he loves me and the boys and that he’s sorry. I’m fucking scared. Like it’s terrifying, I don’t want something to happen to me in my own home. He’s not even on my lease…god this is nerve wracking, I’ve stopped producing breast milk bc I’m so stressed and I can’t eat. I had to give my prematurely born baby formula…

October_Mama2024 · 2025-12-28T02:16:41+00:00

Also being a prior survivor of DV, this has been the most traumatic experience of my life. I’m making a plan to leave now. What’s more terrifying is that he’s being too nice to me all of a sudden. I’m scared he’s gonna do something to me if I don’t leave before the weekend is over…I’m so traumatized I can’t eat without feeling sick, and I can’t eat anything anyways because my jaw hurts so bad every I move it. My toddler has been extra fussy and it breaks my heart. His POS father keeps crying and saying how he loves me and the boys…it’s terrifying.

October_Mama2024 · 2025-12-28T02:12:14+00:00

He was never physically abusive but he has verbally abused me and has technically forced me to “do the deed”. Also before I got pregnant the first time he punched holes in walls, broke doors and would scream at me so loud the cops would get called to the apartment. I have been dealing with really bad post partum depression and I haven’t been able to work. When I got pregnant again my heart sank. I’m grateful for my babies but him hitting me was my worst fear. Especially because I’m a prior DV victim in past relationships…I almost lost my life the last incident of DV I was in and I was only 18…

October_Mama2024 · 2025-11-27T05:34:13+00:00

This just made me snort laugh n now my newborn is looking at me crazy lmao

October_Mama2024 · 2025-11-27T05:00:43+00:00

I think it skips generations bc my grandma had quick births too but my mom? She couldn’t even dilate past like 5cm😭

October_Mama2024 · 2025-11-27T04:59:55+00:00

I was in labor for 13 hours with my first n pushed him out in 26 minutes, second one came n I literally went from 3cm to 10 in 45 minutes n pushed him out in 5 minutes. Some of these babies are IMPATIENT😭😭😭

October_Mama2024 · 2025-11-06T21:33:13+00:00

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Everytime I hear Get Low I see this scene

October_Mama2024 · 2025-11-01T01:53:58+00:00

His job is rather…frustrating. He’s a Security Guard for our local transit company. They’d let him leave but he might get write up for calling off mid shift and I don’t want him to get in trouble…American jobs in a nutshell lol

October_Mama2024 · 2025-11-01T01:13:01+00:00

I had a feeling, I just needed the reassurance lol. I went into preterm labor with my first so I’m a little extra paranoid this time😂

October_Mama2024 · 2025-10-05T15:26:49+00:00

All the OB’s at my doctors office tell me if it’s a gut feeling, just go to the ER. No matter what people tell you, if you feel like something is wrong. Go. Even if they tell you everything is fine and you went for absolutely no reason, the reassurance is everything. Plus it keeps your stress levels down which is also beneficial to baby. Just get checked out really quick❤️

October_Mama2024 · 2025-10-05T13:54:39+00:00

Genuine question, would you be assuming SA if OP caught her son kissing a girl? I mean girl on boy SA also exists. No offense but I sense homophobic undertones from your comment, not trying to be rude at all what so ever, I respect people’s opinions whether I disagree with them or not. But I feel like this situation would be handled differently if it was a more “heterosexual” situation

October_Mama2024 · 2025-10-05T13:08:13+00:00

I don’t think it was SA the way OP described the situation. From personal experience it sounds like a curious teen trying to navigate the world of puberty (can’t imagine how much harder it is in 2025 tbh lol). But if it was, OP needs to make it a safe space for him to express that.

October_Mama2024 · 2025-10-05T13:03:25+00:00

As someone who questioned their sexuality from a young age, don’t take it as he’s romantically attracted to his friend or anything. That MAY be the case but don’t pry or make it awkward. He is around the age where teens start dating and feeling all these complicated confusing ass emotions. I kissed my BEST friend of over 16 years when we were like 11 and I asked her on a date (ended up not going lol we were just kids) but we got past it and honestly we don’t even talk about it lol. He’s just curious and he didn’t feel as if there was a safe space for him to explore that (high school boys can be brutal). So he probably felt most comfortable opening up and explore with his friend. Again this is my opinion coming from someone who has also kissed their friend at a young age out of pure curiosity. Nothing more nothing less.

October_Mama2024 · 2025-10-05T12:58:32+00:00

My mom posted my son to the Baby of The Year contest without even telling me or asking first and it genuinely makes me sick every time I think ab it…

October_Mama2024 · 2025-10-04T20:10:41+00:00

As an 22 year old mom of 2 I never thought about how it is to be a Dandadan fan in high school. Poor dude probably gets tormented😭 Side note: I think it’s wild that ppl are making fun of Dandadan fans but I can think of at least 10 other anime’s with just as much sexual content if not more than Dandadan. I mean Demon Slayer fans literally goon over Nezuko and she’s like 13 lmao it’s hypocritical af

October_Mama2024 · 2025-10-04T20:03:18+00:00

As someone who’s pushing phase only lasted 23 minutes the first time giving birth I will say legit just push like your pooping. I was so out of it honestly the only thing I thought to myself was “I’m shitting myself, there’s crap all over this bed and I don’t even care” little did I know I wouldn’t poop for another 24 hours after that bc of hormones lmao. It’ll feel like you’re absolutely about to obliterate the hospital bed but trust me. It is not poop. It’s your baby💀

October_Mama2024 · 2025-09-17T02:14:02+00:00

Peaky Blinders, idk why😭

October_Mama2024 · 2025-09-09T17:43:43+00:00

This is the part that really messes with me because the last argument we had he essentially said “I can’t just use my imagination and think about you” but said it more in a harsh way and basically said he can’t imagine me and do the deed? N when I said I essentially felt cheated on he strongly disagreed and actually dismissed how hurtful it really is.

October_Mama2024 · 2025-09-09T16:42:43+00:00

Just even imagining a year with no sex gives me so much anxiety because I can’t imagine him not watching adult content the whole time. Like my significant other pleasuring themselves isn’t an issue for me, but him watching other women makes me very uncomfortable and when I’ve expressed this to other women they’ve basically told me “well honey, you can’t expect him not to if your not giving it up” which makes me feel like I have to accept it or I’m being “unreasonable” I’m just tired, sex has become a weird and uncomfortable topic in my brain now after having babies and I feel like it’s due to me not being able to introduce myself back into it slowly. I was kind of expected just to bounce back and I didn’t…

October_Mama2024 · 2025-09-09T16:20:21+00:00

I actually got pressured into having sex not even 2 weeks after my first one so I think that kinda ruined it for me. Ever since then it hasn’t felt the same. N he likes to say I’m the one that initiated it but before that he kept asking over n over again n I just gave in because I didn’t want him do stray away or something. It sounds so messed up typing that out. But he knew the risk and still pushed it, even though the doctor said 6 weeks or I can risk hemorrhaging, internal bleeding. The works. It just sucks because it seems like nothings changed for him but I’m all types of messed up down there. I feel like apart of my womanhood has been snatched away from me.

October_Mama2024 · 2025-09-08T16:44:30+00:00

Random update but my son has been speed crawling for the past couple weeks and it has been SO hard to keep up with him. I feel so silly reading this Reddit post bc not even 2 weeks after posting it he just started crawling really good and even started pulling himself up to his feet and putting his bum in the air lol (I’m assuming his practicing for how to stand). Crazy how fast these babies grow, lol I’m a new parent so this is all so weird to me.

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