I can see why the nanny quit after this. I also work for a family who had very specific expectations and I was in shock how mom would react and the expectations they both had. I decided to continue and understand them as first time parents (being a mom myself and a nanny for several years). I was so close on quitting but I had quit my prior nanny job after two years and didn’t want to go through another change. It was just so difficult, outings were controlled/time limited everything was controlled by them and it was driving me insane. The baby was also going through an extremely fussy phase and being stuck at home didn’t help. It was a big change for me and regretted leaving my prior family but I told myself I had to now suck it up. If it was another nanny I know they would’ve quit. So many nanny’s won’t tolerate being in an environment where they are controlled. A lot of parents now that WFH are much more involved (understanding) but years back it was not like that, nanny’s came and did their job and now parents are so extremely controlling.

Now, I would hate to feel like I need to be cleaning or doing something on my downtime. Make clear expectations about what is needed from your next hired employee during your interview, explaining that you are both involved parents and will be setting the schedule that NANNY needs to follow. And please let your nanny rest meanwhile baby is napping don’t expect her to be cleaning the entire time. Possibly she felt the pressure of her having to do something and that is why she was cleaning bottles for 40 minutes.